Question for Newlywed TTCers

Some of you are newly wed and TTC agressively -- and young. I am just curious -- why the rush? I mean for those who are still young, why not "see what happens" for a while?

This is in NO WAY meant as a criticism, I am just curious I guess..

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I am almost 28. I always wanted to be a mommy before I was 30 and my DH is 33.

Main reason, we want to be parents more than anything!

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Im 30 now...We started trying before the wedding actually, we couldnt wait..we wanted to TTC two years ago..lol..but waited.

Rushing..I guess...Due to age..we want more then one and ya never know how long it can take..and I have had a stillborn and a M/C and cervical cancer so I knew TTC as well as carrying to term would be harder for me, so we started right away.

We are dying to have a family

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I don't consider myself young at 33 but do know that I have a few more years before I should worry. Both DH and I have had a great life before marriage and feel that we are ready to take on the challenge of being parents. He is also older, 39, so for him is is better sooner then later.


I'm not really sure that I am the type of person you were looking for an answer from but I added my 2 cents anyway.

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It's great you want to have families!!

My ex and I weren't in a rush - and then things did not work out so it was just as well. DH's ex decided after they were married that she did not want to have children - so he and I started the "see what happens" thing as soon as we were engaged. Now, I sometimes wish I had not waited, but I know that if my ex and I had had kids, it would have been so much harder to end the marriage, and I would not have been able to leave Spain with kids.

So in the end - I have DH - and we are waiting to try again..... and I do feel now like I am running out of time. It suxs.

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I'm 34, will be 35 in Oct. and FH wil be 37 three days after the wedding.

I have very long cycles and don't ovulate every cycle.

We have a house, I've been a teacher for 10 years and have a MS+60. It's time.

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I guess I canont really answer the question because while I am a newlywed and have been TTC since the wedding, I do not consider myself (at 35) to be "young"

But even if I were younger when I met and married DH, I'm rather certain that we would have begun TTC immediately. I have always wanted children and felt like this was what I would really be "good at" (motherhood, that is) and DH feels very mcuh the same way (he has a huge family, each of his siblings have 3 children and planning on more, and he has always wanted the same for himself)

There is something to be said for taking time to be a couple and focus on the relationship when younger - but in our case , knowing I would have some fertility issues and my age being a factor (and also knowing we want more than one child) I felt as though time is of the essence and I wanted to begin working towards our dream of a family as soon as possible

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We tried the whatever happens, happens route for a year.
We then tried the charting route for a year.

After two years, I decided it was time to be more aggresive because who knows if we will EVER be pregnant.

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We've been together for 6 years and lived together for 3, so I don't really feel like a newlywed.

We feel like the wedding was just to make us official and celebrate more than anything.

I just turned 30 (it gets easier to say that each time I say it) and I'm just ready to be a mom.

I've done a lot in my career and DH and I have an excellent relationship so I feel like we are "there".

Now if only my damn body would cooperate!!

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we were married 8 months when got PG the first time and M/C..I am 27 and DH is 28.

Then we waited the few months to grieve/recover and started trying at our 1 year anniversary. As to why so early into our life together.....we both feel ready and that this is the next stpe in our journey. I had always wanted my first, if not all of my kids before 30.

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I don't really know why we are trying so soon- we've been married a year now....DH wants children and wants 3 and I guess since we bought the house he feels like we are financially stable enought to start next year....I've always wanted babies- more than anything i've wanted to be a mom. I know they say that over 35 is when you need to start worrying but i'm 30 and worrying because my mom had so many miscarriages- (i was the only one who made it )so i guess subconsciously i'm worried that i'll have problems too and i'd rather start TTC sooner rather than later...

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We are still under 30 but we both have good jobs, great marriage, and our own house and feel that we don't want to take any risks later in life by waiting. Plus there is no reason to wait in my opinion.

Also, I think anyone from 25 and up is not too young to TTC. IMO. Especially if you want a few children and still want to have some patience left

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Im 31, and DH is 32. We have been married for almost 4 years, and we are READY!!!!

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Richard and I have known each other for 18 years, dated for almost 6, and have lived together for 4 years so we've had our alone time as a couple. It's just the next step on our list of goals to attain, and since we're both 33 we figured we'd start right away because you never know how long it could take.

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Message edited 6/11/2005 11:59:50 AM.

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Wow-- great question!!

We have been married for 9 months now, we have been togther for 9 years, We are young, I'm 25 and DH is 26, I've always wanted to be a mommy.... since i had my first boyfriend... that started it.... since then i always wanted to be a wife and a mommy!! My DH is adopted from Columbia and he would like someome of his own blood around especially a child, his sister is adopted too but she see's her biological family, so he always yurned for a biological sibling, familt memeber and since we've been engaged he's been talking about children, but we were too young when we got engaged to have children, i was 22 he was 23, not we got married, bought a house, we are wokring towards that next step, first we want to fix up the house a little bit, save some $$ for when I am out for 3 months then start trying, we are hoping we can achieve this by next year our 2 year anniversary, so I will be 26 he will be 27 when we offically start TTC!!

Good Luck to all of you!!

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We're in the "talking about it" phase.

I'm 26 1/2. DH is 29 1/2. Not sure if that's "young", well, I guess it's not.

But, anyway, DH's parents were older when they had him. He's an only child. His mother was 39 when he was born and his father was 47. Needless to say, he lost his father when he was 21. DH says the hardest part of life is "accomplishing" things because his father isn't there to see any of it.

Also, his mom wasn't able to really play with him, or do much because she started getting aches and pains when he was younger.

So, he wants to make sure that we'll both have enough time left in our lives to be there for our kids.

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We weren't going to at first, but after a couple of months we decided we did want to at least try to have children, so we started TTCing right away.

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Welp, I am 34 ( will be 35 in Oct.) and DH is 28. We have been living together for 4 yrs and def feel its time to start a family- we rushed the wedding, lol to try and start a family. We actually started trying the month before our wedding ( 4/05) and are still trying , Baby Dust to all!!!!

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Me (27) & DH (29) have been together for over 6 years, and though we just got married 9 months ago, I feel like we've been together forever already. TTC was the next step in our life's path. We did the "whatever happens, happens" after we got married, and got pg less than 2 months later. Unfortunately, we lost that child after 4 months (no known cause - just was meant to be), and continued the "whatever happens, happens" thought. At this point, we have put TTC on hold, but will jump back on the horse towards the end of the summer.

To answer the original question: I have just always been in a "rush" to have kids. Since I was young (pre-teens), I always had a maternal instinct - for some reason I've always been a magnet to kids. I obviously wasn't going to TTC back then, but knew that I would the moment I got married. I wanted to get married sooner than 5 years with my DH just so we can start having a family. Everything's fallen into place for us, and I believe that we will be blessed with a child soon.

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Posted by 5ofClubs

We are still under 30 but we both have good jobs, great marriage, and our own house and feel that we don't want to take any risks later in life by waiting. Plus there is no reason to wait in my opinion.

Also, I think anyone from 25 and up is not too young to TTC. IMO. Especially if you want a few children and still want to have some patience left