Question for those whose children( or themselves) share a birthday with their siblings

OK this is a silly question and may seem insensitive to hose who struggled with infertility so I apologize(but I promise it is coming from a real concern for my current DS as I'm paranoid). DH and I have decided to add another child to our family. Our DS was born May 21 2012 so he would be 3 when the new little one arrived (if all went well). Selfishly I would love to have another Spring/summer/early fall baby so the weather is nice when I'm home with the two of them (before I have to go back to work). Also I would feel better not having the baby go to daycare at 12 weeks old during the height of flu season hence a spring/summer baby would be ideal.
I would love to hear your opinion/experience on growing up with a sibling whose birthday was near yours or how you are dealing with your childrens' birthdays being close together.
I am SOooo concerned that my first DS will feel shafter/upset/ousted by another baby sharing his birthday time! What if I go into labor on his birthday?! Also once the baby is old enough how will he/she feel about having a birthday close to their siblings. Incidently May/June is a very busy time for us as my birthday/my husbands birthday/our anniversary are all in the beginning/middle of June.
I know there is no telling how quickly we will get pregnant and if we will get pregnant at all but if it is similar to our first DS (we were lucky to get pregnant v. fast) the new babies birthday could potentially be the week after or of my DS's. You can tell me if I'm being crazy, I get it. I just don't want one more thing to worry about causing my current DS stress or feelings of displacement.
Should I just stop it already and start trying or should we wait another month or two to try to avoid concurrent birthdays. What would you do??
PS my husband thinks I'm crazy and told me to ask you guys hahaha so that is what I'm doing. I appreciate your thoughts.

Question for those whose children( or themselves) share a birthday with their siblings

i wouldnt worry too much about it
my sister and i are just shy of a year apart (she was born october 2nd, i was born the following Sept 29th). neither of us had an issue growing up like this and wouldnt hesitate if my kids had birthdays close together.

Question for those whose children( or themselves) share a birthday with their siblings

Your husband is right, lol. Even if your due date is on DS's birthday, who is to say that DC2 won't be 3 weeks early or 2 weeks late?! And if he has to share a birthday, oh well. Not ideal, but not a reason to delay trying for a baby IMO.

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My bro and sis are twins, so they obviously share the same b-day, and they are a month away from my b-day. My mom always tried combining all 3 b-days, since they were during the summer. We never liked having all 3 at once.

DD and DS are 3 weeks apart, and we make sure they each have separate parties, even if we have to have DS's a little early, and DD's a little late.

Even just a small separation is enough. It doesn't have to be on the opposite side of the calendar. It's nice having your "own day", but even if DC2 is born on DC1's b-day, they'll learn to deal with it.

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I get where you're coming from, but I wouldn't give it too much thought. Whatever happens happens. You might not be able to get pregnant right away anyway. My DS and DH have the same birthday. And I have a friend whose sons have the same b-day 2 years apart.

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My kids birthdays are 2 weeks apart in September. They are turning 4 and 6. We have had no issues whatsoever with their birthdays being close. We usually have a joint party to celebrate with friends and family.

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My two brothers and I are all born in a 2 weeks period in January. It was never an issue. Looking back, I now feel bad for my parents because they had to buy so many gifts in the winter!!

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I wouldn't let that factor into your decision at all. My oldest brothers are 1 day apart and the other brother is a week before.
They always had there own cakes and parties. Even now that they are all older we still give them separate cakes.
My 3 sons are one month apart each - it is just birthday season all at once :)

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I'm Jan 29 and my brother is feb 3 and my dad feb 7. There was never any issues growing up. We both had our own friend parties. We are 3 years apart. My mommy usually did a big family birthday for my dad, me and brother on one weekend. It's never bothered any of us. My girls are June & august and I did a combined family party this year. I wouldn't stress about it!

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My brother and I have the same birthday. I never knew any different. My mom always had 2 separate cakes and 2 parties.

Question for those whose children( or themselves) share a birthday with their siblings

I think this falls under the "don't waste another second worrying about this" category.

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I would not let this determine weather or not you start trying. If you want another dc then you should go for it! I know lots of families with kids who have birthdays very close. It has never been an issue.

Question for those whose children( or themselves) share a birthday with their siblings

My brother and I are 12 and a half months apart-both in February. My dad is the same month. And my brother married someone whose birthday is the same month. We were fine.

Question for those whose children( or themselves) share a birthday with their siblings

I think you're thinking too much into all of it... As long as each child is made to feel special, I don't see a prob with the same or close bdays

Your DS and my DD have the same exact birthday (and I share my bday with my dd as well)

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I wouldn't worry about it. I m 9 days different from my brother. dd and DS are 10 days a part and in the same month as Dh who is 1 day a part from his brother. None of us have had issues. Everyone has their own friends.

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My brother and I have birthdays 3 days apart.

It was never an issue. I like it actually now - since we are older and so busy we always have a special dinner just the 2 of us!

Question for those whose children( or themselves) share a birthday with their siblings

thanks for posting this because i'm in the same boat! I'm glad to hear everyones responses!

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Thank you than you! Sometimes you just need some reassurance that you are over-thinking things hehe. I feel like the decision to have a second child has been harder then the first in many ways. Every choice is made with the concern over my first DC. When to have a kid, how far apart is ideal etc. and I think this was just one more thing that popped into my head to worry about (along with a long list of other concerns )

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I wouldn't worry. My husband is a twin. And his twin sister had a baby on their birthday. LOL. It happens. I wouldn't worry about it all. You will make it special for both of them.

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Me Aug 20, Bro Sept 6
No biggie at all! seriously.. such a non issue!



We shared Bdays for a bit then he got too old and I got too girly but never had issues.

Ok, that's a lie.. we had one BIG issue but I doubt you'll deal with it. Dad was always deployed the last weekend of August. So he'd make MY birthday but miss my brother's. Something I used to tease him about relentless.

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I knew a family that had all 4 kids' bdays within two weeks (two were on the same day).. they all seemed to enjoy it, that's all the kids ever knew. I wouldn't let that delay your ttc.

Question for those whose children( or themselves) share a birthday with their siblings

My MIL went in to labor with my SIL on DH's bday.. and was born the next day- she always had separate parties for them and cakes, even if cake was the same day, they had their own. He has no issues with it.
My little brother was born 2 days before my bday.. when he arrived bday parties became his bc he was much younger and I'd just have a cake at his childish bday party, and i HATED it. I think it was just bad decision making on my parents part assuming an older sibling would be okay with it being about the much younger child.
With that being said, I think as long as you make sure each child is recognized and made to feel special, even if they fall on the same day it's fine.