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Sassyz75
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Question- need advice....

OK.
I am on CD 18
Last cycle I O'd on CD 19
I have yet to get a surge using OPKs
Last month, I used OPK and got surge on CD 19 and that was the day I ovulated- took test late in the day so I read in instructions that you can O and get surge on same day.
Anyway- last cycle, we BD day before but obviously didn't work...
So- what if I just have a short LH surge and really by the time I get the OPK surge it is too late?
so- do I start BDing now or do I wait until I get the surge or what?

There is another thing my DH has ED- this is very embarassing to admit but I am going to come out with it... That means- just BDing like the rest of you doesn't happen b/c he has to take medication first... We only have 2 pills left which last for 36 hours each.. so I don't want to "waste" them- b/c we pay for them out of pocket and they are $12 each... So, we need to time things very carefully...

So, should I wait for the surge or should I just start and try to get a BD in tonight, one in tomorrow morning and then over the weekend??

Please- do not say bad things about my DH- this is very embarassing that I am even admitting it... but I figured you ladies would understand, or even if there are other women or men on here with these problems, I guess you now know you aren't alone...

Posted 8/4/05 1:26 PM
 
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leighla
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Re: Question- need advice....

Please don't be embarassed!!

I would think you should try tonight, but some of the ladies with more experience with this may have a better idea.

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Posted 8/4/05 1:55 PM
 

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Re: Question- need advice....

You shouldn't be embarrassed as there is nothing to be embarrassed about.

I think you should BD tonight and if it lasts for 36 hours, I would BD again tomorrow night and then take the last pill on Saturday and BD that night and Sunday.

Posted 8/4/05 2:07 PM
 

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Re: Question- need advice....

Posted by shamrock12472

You shouldn't be embarrassed as there is nothing to be embarrassed about.

I think you should BD tonight and if it lasts for 36 hours, I would BD again tomorrow night and then take the last pill on Saturday and BD that night and Sunday.




I agree. And DON'T be embarrassed!!Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 8/4/05 2:32 PM
 

FeliciaDP

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Re: Question- need advice....

Posted by shamrock12472

You shouldn't be embarrassed as there is nothing to be embarrassed about.

I think you should BD tonight and if it lasts for 36 hours, I would BD again tomorrow night and then take the last pill on Saturday and BD that night and Sunday.



This is great advice. I agree with Morgan

Dina, NO need to feel embarrassed, especially on this forum . We talk about EVERTHING here, how many times a week we BD and our cycles, our cervial mucus.. etc.. so really nothing is off limits!
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Posted 8/4/05 2:38 PM
 

dm24angel
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Re: Question- need advice....

Dina- My Goodness, nothing at all to be embarrased about, not one of us would say anything bad, thats silly..we talk about the grossest silliest things so its normal and you should know that.

I twould try to make sure you keep track of the time between O and your next AF to see how long your LP is...you may need meds to lengethen this period of time.

For me..for example..this month I didnt O till about CD21...but so far I have ALWAYS had a 13 day LP....so I guess know to guess my period will be approximatly one week later then originally expected.

I personally would wait till I go a + on the OPK and then use the meds for the next days..if it lasts 36 hours, take one , and then BD for 2 days and then another and another day or two.

If you get an "almost" positive, use the first one then. Try not to waste at least one of them.....
I typically get a + on the OPK two days before I O....so I have a good 36 hours or almost 3 days of BD that give me a chance AFTER the +.


GOOD LUCK either way!

BABY DUST!!!!!!!!

Posted 8/4/05 5:57 PM
 

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Re: Question- need advice....

Dina.... Chat Icon no need to be embarassed girl.

Donna's the pro here, but I say start tomorrow night and have a great weekend of BD. IMO its not wasted Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 8/4/05 11:29 PM
 

redstar
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Re: Question- need advice....

First of all, I want to commend you for your honesty. Taking a pill for high blood pressure is never questioned, medication for other issues shouldn't be judged as well. I am glad you stated the entire situation, it's easier to get accurate advice.

What I would do, is, definitely concentrate on my cervical mucus and change in cervix position. Your cervix should be quite 'high' during "peak" time. I would work on increasing my cervical mucus (lots of water, carrots, carrot juice, v8 splash, vitality drink from trader joe's, evening primrose oil, all help with CM, or use "pre seed" so that I could Bd a bit before my surge, and have a greater chance of the sperm living. The sperm can live up to 5 and even 7 days in the 'right environment" so if you bd beforehand, it's definitely better than after. Some people do surge the day they O. That's happnened to me, as well. It could be that, we O during the night, etc, so it's hard to always catch the surge with many hours ahead of us.

I would Bd a few days before, the day of my surge, and the morning of the next day. If you need to limit to two times.. I would skp the day after.

If you temp, sometimes you will be able to predict better when you will O, the opk would just confirm it. You can time bd a bit more that way.

Message edited 8/5/2005 7:30:21 AM.

Posted 8/5/05 7:29 AM
 

DebG
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Re: Question- need advice....

I agree with everything redstar posted.

Posted 8/5/05 9:58 AM
 

Sassyz75
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Dina

Re: Question- need advice....

Thank you ladies...
I really am so happy that I have such a wonderful community of women that I can turn to. For that, I am truly thankful. Chat Icon

So- I really never have any of that egg white CM.... I guess I will start doing what you suggest.. I do have the pre-seed.. but of course last night we BD and I forgot to do it Chat Icon ditz.

What I didn't realize is that DH had a refill for 6 more bottles of 6 pills- so he is going to get more- so it really doesn't matter- I think I'll just keep on going every other until I get the surge...

Oh- last month my Leutal phase (sp) was 12 days.

Posted 8/5/05 10:07 AM
 
 

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