Re: Random Thought about LIF and privacy

Posted by Tumbalina

If I had a child, I would never post his or her photo.

If you search on here, you can find out the following about so many ladies:

town they live
pic of their house
pic of their husbands & themselves
pic of their child
birthdays
where they work or what their occuapation is
their works hours
kind of cars they drive...............

all pretty scary if you ask me

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Your concern is a valid one Diana.
There are enough crazy people out there and I've seen many people on this site disclose information that I'd never disclose because you just don't know who read these posts etc.
I was one of those mommy who decided not to have the stork on my lawn announcing the birth of my child because you just never know. I also saw that program in Oprah around those days with the lady who fake she was pregnant and was trying to get the baby from a pregnant lady and got all the information from the BabyRUs registry. I don't mind posting pictures but I'm cautious of what I disclose here or anywhere on the net. You just never know who's reading these posts. And you do have a point about how some people post that they are home alone or post very personal information. If someone is trying to make up a profile of someone by doing a search(assumming the person discloses a lot of information when they post), they definitely can do so.
I believe that your idea is a good one even though if someone is trying to find out something, they will do so regardless by signing in with a fake name.

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I think we all have to be careful how identifying info we post, because it's the combination of things that can help someone put things together.

A picture of DC alone won't be enough.

For me it's not a huge concern, but I do think about it.

I don't think making the parenting board private will prevent much at all. It takes nothing to create a fake E-mail address and start an account - and never post - only lurk. But I guess it couldn't hurt.

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Posted by Tumbalina

If I had a child, I would never post his or her photo.

If you search on here, you can find out the following about so many ladies:

town they live
pic of their house
pic of their husbands & themselves
pic of their child
birthdays
where they work or what their occuapation is
their works hours
kind of cars they drive...............

all pretty scary if you ask me

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I go back and forth with it. DH doesn't like the thought of our kids pictures on the net. I think you should have to be signed in and have a certain number of posts before you can see pictures.

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I used to post pics on here of DD all of the time and then there was a lot of chit chat ging on about peole lurking on here with fake names and starting trouble. thats when I started thinking about all of what you said and stopped posting pics - I even deleted all of the ones I had up from previous posts. Its sad but you do have to be very careful.

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I respect and understand everyone's fears. I have thought about it off and on for years now. At this point, I don't give out very personal details, like last name, home address, phone # etc, but I don't worry about other stuff. If someone really wants to kidnap a kid, they'll go to a store, mall, crowd, or anywhere for that matter. As soon as you walk outside your house, there's a chance you're being photographed. People can get lots of info about you from your garbage. If you have a credit card and/or a driver's license, there are databases filled with info about you that is relatively easy to obtain if someone wants it. I try to be reasonable about my security, but not obsessive. I don't want to live in a scared bubble where I'm afraid of everything. Having the board "secured" will just create a false sense of security, so people will be willing to discuss more details because they are "safe", and the "stalkers" will get more info because they signed up last year with an anonymous account, and are now "regulars". JMHO, and I am definitely not making any judgments on people who feel differently, since I completely understand being paranoid about the world.

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I don't post pictures to often but I still do but I do not give out information that someone could track me down. I really stay away from posts that ask personal information including the relationship board.

You could always share them for a few hours and then take them down. I have done that with my house info.

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No doesn't scare me to post pictures. This is a public forum I feel if I am going to be scared about posting pictures here then I probably shouldn't ever take my daughter out in public....

I think its easier for all the sickos in the world to prey on myself and DD in a supermarket or store where they could see her and follow me home or worse ambush me....

I can't live my life like that

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Posted by 5ofClubs

I am not worried at all. What is so crazy that could happen?

I never understood this.

Do you ever leave your baby unattended?

Do you think someone will steal your baby?

Plus, how many people have your address?

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Posted by Diana1215

Posted by Tumbalina

If I had a child, I would never post his or her photo.

If you search on here, you can find out the following about so many ladies:

town they live
pic of their house
pic of their husbands & themselves
pic of their child
birthdays
where they work or what their occuapation is
their works hours
kind of cars they drive...............

all pretty scary if you ask me

Exactly - some sicko could piece alot of things together with all of the information we give out - not even realizing. Something as simple as a "what's for dinner" post can let someone know when their husband is out and they are alone with their child. You just never know.

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I also dont have a problem posting pics of my DS. I also feel I am prob more at risk out in a public store with strangers approaching me. Which has happened numerous times. I have way too much goin on in my life to add worrying about possible online predators piecing together info about my son on a parenting board. I guess I just always think positive. I would think a possible predator would linger in a park or near a school playground or walk the streets where children are getting off buses. Not actually make up a screen name and post on a parenting site about fake things happening to their fake children in order to snatch a kid at some GTG with other moms around.

I mean if I got some FM from someone asking to meet with me and my son and I am not familiar with their screen name I would not go. I only go to GTG's with alot of moms and babies, or individual ones with girls that I have met with before. Thats just me.

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yea...personally I dont believe in posting pictures so I never do. Not just for "crazies" who can see,but you just never know.
I cant tell you how many people I recognize on LIF from their pictures that talk about personal things ie-their families, DH's and sex life and its wayyyyyy more info than I'd want to know about them. ANd probably wayyyy more info than they'd probably want me to know!

me personally-I guess Im a more "private" person, or perhaps less foolish!

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Message edited 3/22/2007 10:52:55 PM.

Re: Random Thought about LIF and privacy

Posted by pmpkn087

Posted by Moehick

No doesn't scare me to post pictures. This is a public forum I feel if I am going to be scared about posting pictures here then I probably shouldn't ever take my daughter out in public....

I think its easier for all the sickos in the world to prey on myself and DD in a supermarket or store where they could see her and follow me home or worse ambush me....

I can't live my life like that

I agree with every word!

If I were to sit around and think of all the crazies I COULD encounter or COULD be lurking, I'll go crazy (no pun intended ). I can't live my life being paranoid. I try not to post too much personal stuff. Of course, I am cautious when I go out in public, but I can't be paranoid.

BUT, everyone is different. You do what works for you.

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Posted by Kate

Posted by 5ofClubs

I am not worried at all. What is so crazy that could happen?

I never understood this.

Do you ever leave your baby unattended?

Do you think someone will steal your baby?

Plus, how many people have your address?

I agree.

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This is why I never post pictures of my DD's face. I have posted some of her looking down or of her back. I have this one now in my avatar but it's almost 2 years old and she's not a baby anymore and doesn't look like that. My DH was admant about not posting pictures of her on here or her name because I too, like Barbara, had trusted some people on this site and also paid the price.

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Posted by Jamie
because I too, like Barbara, had trusted some people on this site and also paid the price.

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Honestly, it doesn't make me nervous at all. I don't post where I live and I feel like there is really no way that some random person could find me. I always watch DD anytime we are out, just because I think "the crazies" are out there, everywhere and you have to always be on alert. I think it would be really hard for somebody to stalk and find us just based on some pics of DD and our first names.