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kms717
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Religous Catholics - Christening Question
Did you have a hard time picking Godparents? None of our friends go to church and most of them don't know anything about it other than that they have made their sacraments. It seems hypocritical to just pick someone who will not truly understand their position. My brother-in-law is also religous so he will be the Godfather, do I just randomly pick a Godmother or go without one?
What would you do?
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Sassyz75
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Re: Religous Catholics - Christening Question
we have the same problem... we are pretty religious, go to church every week.. I'm not sure WHO to pick... last time I picked someone outside of family- huge mistake- not sure who to pick this time around.
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wcs3504
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Re: Religous Catholics - Christening Question
We are choosing my sister as a godmother and not sure of who for the godfather yet. We are not just looking at whether the person is an active member of a parish, goes to church regularly or practices the faith often. Our number one reason for choosing my sister and the godfather-to-be is that if ANYTHING is to happen to DH or I, we will feel 100% sure that our child will be okay in their hands. We know we will be able to count on them for anything.
Our only issue right now is that the godfather may be someone that is not Catholic. I don't want us to choose a guy just b/c he is Catholic. We want to make sure who we choose is the right person to take that roll for our child.
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| Posted 6/20/09 9:06 PM |
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MrsS518
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Re: Religous Catholics - Christening Question
We are choosing my 1st cousin who was my maid of honor and my DH younger brother. both of them are catholics. they are both responsible and we know they will always be there for us and the baby
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Gertyrae
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Re: Religous Catholics - Christening Question
My SIL is almost as religious as we are so she was an easy pick.
As far as Godfather we picked my brother since he is the most spiritual in our family although he is not nearly as religious as we are.
BTW, in regards to anything happening to you - Godparents have no say in the care of the child if anything were to happen. If you want someone other than grandparents/next of kin to take the child in that scenario, you would have to have guardians picked and named in your will. Godparents are strictly for spiritual guidance.
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| Posted 6/20/09 9:34 PM |
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lcherian
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Re: Religous Catholics - Christening Question
we picked BIL and SIL to be DD's godparents. i would not pick godparents who were not practicing the catholic faith.
if you dont feel comfortable with anyone being the godmother, i would ask the priest if it's okay to only have a godfather. good luck!
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Sneezy
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Re: Religous Catholics - Christening Question
We didn't have a hard time picking Godparents, as we have three married brothers (between us) who are all practicing Catholics.
It was, however, important to us to pick a married couple. Don't know why. We went with the brother and SIL that introduced us. 
Good luck with your choice.
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JennB
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Re: Religous Catholics - Christening Question
we will be picking my brother and sister bc we all grew up with the same beliefs. Even though we knew for a whle we would pick them, there were other family members that we said we would never pick (for future children) for a few reason, one of them being non-practicing catholics
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| Posted 6/20/09 10:52 PM |
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beautyq115
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Re: Religous Catholics - Christening Question
we are having the same problem. We have 3 of the godparents picked but are having an extremely difficult time choosing the fourth. I don't want to pick someone just to pick them.
We want people who are close to us and have good morals and are practicing Cathoilcs..apparently that is a tall order these days
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A3CM
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Re: Religous Catholics - Christening Question
we had a hard time, but then again at the same time DH & I are NOT very religious.
so we chose those who felt most close to in regards to relationships.
My uncle & his sister are godparents for DS
and my 1st cousin, who was also my maid of honor and my DHs best friend who was also his best man will be the godparents for DD.
none of us are religious in anyway.
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Re: Religous Catholics - Christening Question
We're having the worst time. The two people that we'd love are both two different religions, but thankfully have a strong faith, which is very important to us.
My MIL keeps pushing my SIL on us, but seriously - she's 110% atheist...are you kidding me? How can someone who is an atheist be a Godparent - absolutely NOT!
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beautyq115
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Re: Religous Catholics - Christening Question
Posted by lorich
We're having the worst time. The two people that we'd love are both two different religions, but thankfully have a strong faith, which is very important to us.
My MIL keeps pushing my SIL on us, but seriously - she's 110% atheist...are you kidding me? How can someone who is an atheist be a Godparent - absolutely NOT!
I love when OTHER people have opinions on who you and your Dh should choose
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summerBaby10
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Re: Religous Catholics - Christening Question
Posted by lorich
We're having the worst time. The two people that we'd love are both two different religions, but thankfully have a strong faith, which is very important to us.
My MIL keeps pushing my SIL on us, but seriously - she's 110% atheist...are you kidding me? How can someone who is an atheist be a Godparent - absolutely NOT!
Yeah, that won't work. I'd be banging my head against the wall too.
You love your religion & want the godparent to guide them in making right choices in life and provide a good example and help you raise your baby as a Catholic.
To the OP, I know I will have a big problem in a few months when we start discussing Godparents for our baby too. DH & I are interfaith but had a priest perform our ceremony so it was still a Sacrement for me. The baby is being Baptised and I am definitely picking my brother as a Godfather and will suggest that we do not have a Godmother. Can you talk to your preist about this?
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kms717
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Re: Religous Catholics - Christening Question
Posted by Sneezy
We didn't have a hard time picking Godparents, as we have three married brothers (between us) who are all practicing Catholics.
It was, however, important to us to pick a married couple. Don't know why. We went with the brother and SIL that introduced us.
Good luck with your choice.
We really wanted a married couple too, but none of our friends or family members are practicing Catholics. It seems that religion has been lost in our times.
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DanandNette
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Re: Religous Catholics - Christening Question
Sort of in the same boat, we picked my brother as the godfather and then we were kind of stuck on a godmother. My SIL is getting married and actually just completed all of her sacraments in time for her wedding so we picked her. We wanted to pick family members. If we had to we'd branch out to cousins and possible older family members if we had to.
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ali120206
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Re: Religous Catholics - Christening Question
I'm not that religious but, I'm having a hard time thinking of a potential godfather.
My major point is that I want to pick someone that is going to be in my child's life forever. Someone I'm fairly close with. Someone who may not be that religious but, will rise to the honor of being chosen.
I have a goddaughter, a cousin, who I'm not close with at all, and both DH and I have one godparent who we never see or speak to.
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kms717
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Re: Religous Catholics - Christening Question
Posted by DanandNette
Sort of in the same boat, we picked my brother as the godfather and then we were kind of stuck on a godmother. My SIL is getting married and actually just completed all of her sacraments in time for her wedding so we picked her. We wanted to pick family members. If we had to we'd branch out to cousins and possible older family members if we had to.
That's a possibility - is it weired to have my mother as the Godmother?
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beautyq115
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Re: Religous Catholics - Christening Question
Posted by kms717
Posted by DanandNette
Sort of in the same boat, we picked my brother as the godfather and then we were kind of stuck on a godmother. My SIL is getting married and actually just completed all of her sacraments in time for her wedding so we picked her. We wanted to pick family members. If we had to we'd branch out to cousins and possible older family members if we had to.
That's a possibility - is it weired to have my mother as the Godmother?
Absolutely NOT weird at all! My brother asked my mom to be Godmother for my nephew. She was never asked to a Godparent for any of her nieces or nephews so she was extremely touched.
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katiebug
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Re: Religous Catholics - Christening Question
I battle with this all the time. I know who my first DC's godparents will be, but after that, I have no idea. I have plenty of siblings but none of them are practicing Catholics, and besides my BFF none of my friends are religious at all.
I not only worry about godparents, but raising my child with a religious Catholic upbringing in an over secular society. How am I suppose to teach my child the beauty of faith when there is so distian for religious establishments?
I find it disheartening. I have been looking into Catholic mom groups but I can't find any. I would really like to get to know other religious parents and surround my children with people who have a solid foundation in faith.
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LoveandLaughs
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Re: Religous Catholics - Christening Question
My cousin was having a similar issue. She picked one practicing catholic (her cousin) and her brother, who is not catholic. She said you only need one godparent to be a practicing catholic...I thought both needed to be but she says not. HTH 
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KangaMom
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Re: Religous Catholics - Christening Question
It was integral for us to have Both Godparents practicing Catholics. A Couple and a Family member too! The reason for God Parents are to help guide with Catholic Faith.
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browneyedgirl
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Re: Religous Catholics - Christening Question
Posted by lorich
My MIL keeps pushing my SIL on us, but seriously - she's 110% atheist...are you kidding me? How can someone who is an atheist be a Godparent - absolutely NOT!
anything is possible. i was raised catholic but consider myself agnostic. i just became godmother for my beautiful niece--i will do whatever her mother wants for her religion wise even though i don't practice myself. there's a difference between people who can't see past their own viewpoints and those who can. SIL and BIL know how i feel about religion, but they had no problem choosing DH and myself because they know how much we LOVE their kids and will do everything in our power to help raise them right.
religious people aren't always good people, and good people aren't always religious.
DS's 2 godparents are both agnostic although raised catholic. we have no problems with it because they also promised to help in any religious or spiritual aspect that we want. they treat DS like their own son and spoil him rotten. the way they are involved in my children's lives is more important to me than if they go to church every week.
so choose people who will love and respect your child and your wishes.
and to the poster above who mentioned guardianship--you are absolutely correct. godparents do NOT get guardianship if you pass away. it needs to be specified in your will who the guardian is. we just redid our will and put in guardianship and that the kids get the estate in trust. DS's godmother is the backup guardian behind my mom.
it's a big decision but somehow everyone figures it out
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donegal419
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Re: Religous Catholics - Christening Question
i totally hear you.... sadly, none of our siblings or many of our friends still practice the faith. yes, they were all raised Catholics, but no one really goes except at Christmas. DH and I on the other hand would be considered "very religious." i thought the same as you in terms of godparents, but at the end of the day, we are choosing my sister and DH's brother as the godparents. Not so much for the religious aspect of it, but the fact that we are close to them and want to keep it in the family. they willl be positive influences in the child's life, but just not in the religious sense. that said though, we know that the religious upbringing of our child is our responsibility anyway.
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Peainapod
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Re: Religous Catholics - Christening Question
the godfather is my brother and the godmother is DH's sister. My brother is more religious than SIL, (he was an alter server and active in the church).
We didnt want outside people b/c in my experience, that never works out too well.
I cant say we're the most religious people either. Its been a while since i've been to mass...but thats another story..
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| Posted 6/21/09 4:01 PM |
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Janice
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Re: Religous Catholics - Christening Question
I had that same problem with Josh...my sister was an easy pick, she is a nun.
my DH picked his brother. His brother is a nice guy and a great uncle...I just really wanted a church goer to be godfather.
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