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bikramaddict
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RP from Rel. Board: Help! Need Opinions Fast Re: MIL
In the spirit of advance planning, my father is talking about my birthday now, and I need your opinion.
Every year, we go to a restaurant of my choosing. Last year, MIL called my dad a week or so before my birthday to suggest we have a surprise party for me. This was right after her antics ruined what should’ve been my surprise bridal shower, and there was no way my dad was going to let her have a surprise when she had ruined his. So instead, he invited her to come along for my birthday dinner.
As my birthday approaches this year, my father asked me if I wanted them at my birthday dinner, to which I said no. But as he says, they have “brass balls” and will invite themselves, or figure out a way to put my father on the spot so he has to invite them. I suggested that he call them and say that we’re having birthday cake that Sunday and invite them (my birthday falls on a Monday), but he thinks – and he’s probably right – that they’ll ask what we’re doing the day of.
What should I do? Can you think of any ways my father can get around inviting them? You have to figure that they will ask either him or me what is happening, so we need an answer ready.
TIA!
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Posted 1/18/07 11:10 AM  |
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Moehick
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Re: RP from Rel. Board: Help! Need Opinions Fast Re: MIL
Can your DH talk to her...maybe say you are working or have a class, meeting, etc the night of?
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| Posted 1/18/07 12:27 PM |
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LIPrincess
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Re: RP from Rel. Board: Help! Need Opinions Fast Re: MIL
Why cant you just explain to them that you would like to have them over for cake on Sunday, but you really want to spend some time with just your dad. If they get offended or dont like that...Oh well.
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| Posted 1/18/07 2:34 PM |
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snuggleupagus
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Re: RP from Rel. Board: Help! Need Opinions Fast Re: MIL
Have dear old dad tell her that you are enjoying your first married birthday alone with your husband. It's truly none of her business, it's YOUR birthday.
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| Posted 1/18/07 8:06 PM |
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butterfly20
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Re: RP from Rel. Board: Help! Need Opinions Fast Re: MIL
Posted by LIPrincess
Why cant you just explain to them that you would like to have them over for cake on Sunday, but you really want to spend some time with just your dad. If they get offended or dont like that...Oh well.
id do that, did she want a surprise party last year because you were hitting a certain age maybe?
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| Posted 1/20/07 11:25 AM |
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Maathy317
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Re: RP from Rel. Board: Help! Need Opinions Fast Re: MIL
If they ask, he can just that this year he wants his girl all to himself. If they ask what restaurant, just tell them you haven't decided yet. I would clue your husband in on any decision so he doesn't let the "cat out of the bag". Most likely, your MIL will call him when she can't get any information from you or your dad. Some people do have big brass ones.
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| Posted 1/20/07 12:59 PM |
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puppylove
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Re: RP from Rel. Board: Help! Need Opinions Fast Re: MIL
Posted by LIPrincess
Why cant you just explain to them that you would like to have them over for cake on Sunday, but you really want to spend some time with just your dad. If they get offended or dont like that...Oh well.
I agree, you shouldn't have to make up stories as to why you won't be speninding the day of with her. She is an adult, if she can't handle being told that you would like to spend your birthday with just your father then she has real issues!
Tell her you would love to have her over for cake the night before, but your birthday is for you and your dad. Maybe your husband can speak with her to smooth things over? Good luck!!!!
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| Posted 1/21/07 11:37 AM |
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HoneyBadger
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Re: RP from Rel. Board: Help! Need Opinions Fast Re: MIL
It's your birthday, who are they to invite themselves? I don't understand, if you're father never calls them to discuss your birthday, how will they be invited to join you?
If you want to include them on your -day celebration, invite them for cake at your house. Don't have you're dad get involved, call them yourself and invite them for cake Sunday.
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| Posted 1/22/07 12:19 PM |
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