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MegZee
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Rude People vent/question

OK - so we are buying a house. We are thrilled.

When we told certain family members, they asked "how much are you paying?" - for that question, I have no problem answering, bc they can find out anyway....most of them didnt ask.

However, when it comes to "how much will your mortgage be, isnt that a little rude?"

my aunt "Alice" called my aunt "Betty" - aunt Betty is also our lawyer - Aunt Alice is friggen nosy - and was asking Betty how much our mortgage was, etc. Of course Betty knows this info, but she called me to let me know that she was asking all these questions - she didnt tell her anything.

and of course thanksgiving will be at Alice's house -so i need to be prepared on how to respond - I need a good zinger - help!!

Message edited 11/19/2006 7:28:00 PM.

Posted 11/19/06 5:34 PM
 
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veeandrich
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Re: Rude People vent/question

say, I don't want to talk about it until after the closing, it's bad luck Chat Icon

Posted 11/19/06 5:52 PM
 

Teri
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Re: Rude People vent/question

Chat Icon that is rude! IMO even though your price is public info I think it's impolite to ask how much you paid anyway....

If she asks how much your mortgage is, just say something back like "why, do you wanna help with the monthly payments?!" Chat Icon

Posted 11/19/06 5:52 PM
 

MegZee
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Re: Rude People vent/question

"why, do you wanna help with the monthly payments?!" Chat Icon




i think i'll use that one!

Posted 11/19/06 6:11 PM
 

Nicole728
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Re: Rude People vent/question

Posted by Meaghan729

"why, do you wanna help with the monthly payments?!" Chat Icon




i think i'll use that one!



yup thats a good one! Chat Icon

just be like..we are paying enough! Chat Icon
keep that info on a need to know basis! I don't think aunts are in the NTK category

Posted 11/19/06 6:36 PM
 

alisonggg
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Re: Rude People vent/question

I like the replies above. But I'm with you, asking what you paid is one thing, it will be public info soon enough, but asking what your mortgage is, is along the lines to me of asking "how much do you make in a year"

Posted 11/19/06 7:26 PM
 

Tine73

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Re: Rude People vent/question

That's a little extreme asking how much the mortgage is especially because so many factors go into it. Can you say something like - "not too bad, we can afford it"

Posted 11/19/06 7:55 PM
 

Ang-Rich
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Re: Rude People vent/question

That is very rude...and completely none of her business. If I had to deal with this I would have one of two responses:

1. Why, do you want to pay it off for us?

2. HUGE....VERY VERY HUGE. Chat Icon

Posted 11/20/06 9:04 AM
 

lululu
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Re: Rude People vent/question

Wow - at least you are prepared! I can't believe someone would ask you that.....

Even though they can find out how much you paid i still think its a little rude to ask.

Posted 11/20/06 9:06 AM
 

kerrycec03
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Re: Rude People vent/question

its so rude, but hey folks will ask that. Its like this summer I was wearing an empire waist shirt and one of my in laws friends asked when the baby was due? Hello, I'm not preggos, never have been and don't really have much of a belly. Needless to say I have NOT worn that shirt ever again.

I would just respond with "It's a lot because its Long Island" and leave it at that. It is none of their business nor should they be asking anyone other than you two.

Posted 11/20/06 9:08 AM
 

Blu-ize
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Re: Rude People vent/question

I would simply say. "why do you want to know?"

Posted 11/20/06 1:31 PM
 

nixy
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Re: Rude People vent/question

ask her if she is cosidering giving it to you as a wedding gift...

Posted 11/20/06 1:36 PM
 

sirk1020
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Re: Rude People vent/question

I think that it is rude for anyone to ask how much anything you buy is

including your house, rent, car, mortgage etc

and I HATE the "do you mind me asking" preface

well ya already asked the question, so why ask if I mind?

Posted 11/20/06 1:53 PM
 

MrsNaunie
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Re: Rude People vent/question

I would say $5,000.00 a month.

Posted 11/20/06 2:20 PM
 

lululu
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Re: Rude People vent/question

Posted by Blu-ize

I would simply say. "why do you want to know?"




I agree - you should ask her why she wants to know... Totally puts her on the spot!

Posted 11/20/06 2:22 PM
 

patti08
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Re: Rude People vent/question

I would say that the only people who need to know are the ones paying it so once she let's you know what her monthly contribution will be you can tell her.

How Rude!

Good for you for having such patience.

Posted 11/20/06 3:12 PM
 

dawnie
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Re: Rude People vent/question

That is so rude! I would never ask someone that question!

Posted 11/20/06 3:14 PM
 
 

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