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iwed2005
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Julie
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SAHM question
okay i just recently became a SAHM (again) i have a two year old and a two month old. the situation is this: i have a friend who i know will now be expecting me to take care of her kids (a 13yr old and 4 yr old) everytime there is a school holiday or early dismissal. don't get me wrong i don't mind but what bothers me is that i know she will expect me to do this (just how she is) who do i nip it in the butt before it begins.
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Posted 9/17/08 8:58 AM  |
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dpli
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Re: SAHM question
I would just say that I would be happy to do it for $xx.xx a day. If she knows in advance she will have to pay you, she might not be so quick to assume you'll do it. Or, if you don't want to do it at all, tell her you have your hands full right now and really couldn't take 2 more kids with your two. It's not your responsibility to watch her kids.
I am home temporarily and I do help my sister out for school holidays and the summer, but for me, it's different when it is family. My sister also returns the favor when I need a babysitter.
Message edited 9/17/2008 9:01:54 AM.
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| Posted 9/17/08 9:00 AM |
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Teri
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Teri
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Re: SAHM question
I would just explain that you are too busy to take on any more responsibility right now. (unless of course it's a real emergency)
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| Posted 9/17/08 9:36 AM |
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ckone
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Re: SAHM question
Wow, that's bold of her. I have two young kids too so I know that you have your hands full. I would tell her that it's too much right now because you are still adjusting to your own situation. My goodness you are probably not even sleeping yet. I would tell her that it's too much and although you would love to help her out you have to wait until you have some sort of a routine going.
Can you image if you have to go somewhere? Yikes. You have to think of yourself sometimes - she obvioulsy is thinking about herself.
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| Posted 9/17/08 12:15 PM |
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lvdolphins
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Re: SAHM question
Posted by Teri
I would just explain that you are too busy to take on any more responsibility right now. (unless of course it's a real emergency)
ITA! and I also think this person is very rude to expect you to do that!
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| Posted 9/17/08 12:49 PM |
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twicethefun
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Re: SAHM question
WHen she asks you could just say you have other plans. Then, she might get the hint.
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| Posted 9/17/08 1:15 PM |
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4monkeys
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Re: SAHM question
well to make it a general preparation for ALL future holidays and days off, tell her someone asked you to be their "school holidays babysitter" and that you'll be doing that.. maybe she'll get the hint that she should pay you a bit if it's something constant throughout the year. be prepared with a dollar amount if she asks.
so tell her as if it's something that just came up, someone's friend needs a babysitter for school holidays, etc.
OR you have every right to just make plans on those days.
not sure if your goal is to NOT do it, or to do it but get paid ?
hope that made sense.  
Message edited 9/17/2008 1:19:11 PM.
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| Posted 9/17/08 1:18 PM |
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