SAHM who used to work full-time

Do you find it difficult to stay home after having working full-time?

I work part-time now (and love it)..but if we have another child, i don't think it would make sense economically for us to get child care. I just don't know if i would have a hard time adjusting to being home full time. I know this sounds crazy....i do love spending time with my DS, but i also like getting up and out and off to work.

Any thoughts or comments?

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I have found it to be a very hard adjustment. I think working part time is a great solution if at all possible.

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It was quite an adjustment but i am used to it now. at first i was so bored so I overloaded myself with plans. now i try not to commit to too much so i can relax at home in the afternoons!

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I miss the social aspects of working, but I didn't LOVE my job. I do miss being just me sometimes, not DDs mommy ALL of the time. I miss the "me" time that I got with work - going to lunch whenever, wherever I wanted to, making stops on the way home by myself, etc. I love being a mom, but I sometimes miss "me." Does that make any sense? I think I just need to get out on my own more often and try to do something on my own socially sometimes.

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I am going on year 3 of being home.

I LOVED my job. I loved teaching, I loved the neighborhood, I loved my coworkers. It was my life for a very long time.

I am STILL adjusting to being home. I dont miss getting up early and commuting but I miss "me" time. I miss the social interaction. I miss dressing nicely. I miss talking to parents. I miss teaching.

I LOVE being able to be with Megan every day and now that she is a bit older, I find it even more fun. But its a HUGE adjustment that I am still learning to deal with.

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After working full time for 10 years, I'm actually happy to be home with DD all the time. It was hard at first, but I couldn't have it any other way. Plus I dont miss the commute of going to NYC every day. I love being home and doing whatever I want

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Posted by jennyb

After working full time for 10 years, I'm actually happy to be home with DD all the time. It was hard at first, but I couldn't have it any other way. Plus I dont miss the commute of going to NYC every day. I love being home and doing whatever I want

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Posted by jennyb

After working full time for 10 years, I'm actually happy to be home with DD all the time. It was hard at first, but I couldn't have it any other way. I love being home and doing whatever I want

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I loved who I worked with - they were like my family - that being said - I don't miss my job at all.

I love being home. I love not having to run for the train. I get out as much as possible as not to go stir crazy.

Don't get me wrong - are there days I want to pull my hair out - sure. But, I wouldn't change a thing!

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I worked FT and when I started staying home, I had cabin fever..BAD.
Once the nice weather came along, it got a lot better.
Last summer, I worked 2 PT (very PT) jobs, but, it was great for me to get out for a bit.
This past March, I started babysitting for a family member and with my DS and the baby, the days fly by.

I think PT work is a good idea. It is nice to get out and interact with other adults.

Every afternoon after I babysit, I take DS to the park, library, or do my errands. By then it's about 5:30PM and DH comes home around 7..It's not so bad.

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I had always worked with my girls. For the most part I enjoyed working. Before I had DS I had switched careers and had gone back to school...so transitioning to a SAHM wasnt all that hard. Right now I could never go back to working full time..

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I only miss the $$$.

I love being home with DS. I don't feel so stressed to do it all before and after I come from from work. I hated having to run all the time, having no time with DS and my house being a mess.

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The only thing I miss is talking to people. Unfortunately for those who hang out with me...I never shut up.

I bother my mailman, deli guy, pharmacist, neighbors...anyone who will listen to me!

other then that, I love it.

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Posted by Diana1215

I loved who I worked with - they were like my family - that being said - I don't miss my job at all.

I love being home. I love not having to run for the train. I get out as much as possible as not to go stir crazy.

Don't get me wrong - are there days I want to pull my hair out - sure. But, I wouldn't change a thing!

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I have to offer a little bit different perspective.

I worked full time teaching for 8 years and LOVED it. I was a SAHM for 14 months and it was wonderful to have that year to bond and not worry about working and motherhood. I would do it all over again. Being a SAHM was hard even though we went out all the time, had lots of fellow mom friends, it was just different...

However I went back to teaching in Sept. (DS is 15 months old). While that is an adjsutment, too. I am happy with the decision. I am home by 3 and still get to spend tons of time with DS as well as get dressed for a job I love, do well and have coworkers who are great. I am very glad I did not walk away from the paycheck or doing something I really enjoy.

I have always said pt work seems like such a great compromise, if you can do it. Hope my rambling makes sense.

I give both SAHM and working moms tons of credit- I've done both now and both can be tough!

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It was an adjustment, but a welcome one! I love being home with my DCs and wouldn't trade it for anything. I sometimes miss my job, but not enough that I'd want to go back. An hour here or there would do! Having a circle of mommy friends as well as activities to do with the kids has kept me sane!

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I've been home with DD for 14 mths and it was an adjustment for me..the first 6 mths was hard to get used to (which i didnt think it would be, i liked being home but it was hard)..now i love it and couldnt imagine it any other way.

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I worked f/t, then cut down to p/t and now I'm home during the day and work in the evening. On days we have nothing planned, I feel like the day never ends. So, I try to plan something everyday of the week. If I was just sitting home with DD everyday, I would be bored to tears.

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I enjoyed working - I worked for a year after I had my daughter - shortly after getting pregnant with my second - I stopped working to be a SAHM. It was a slight adjustment at first but I really couldn't imagine working full-time right now. There are days that are tough and I literally don't have a moment for myself - but it can be fun too. We've gone to the park a couple times a week, have playdates, visit family and friends, go shopping, malls etc..... You can put on makeup and leave the home too- you just have to take the kid (s) with you this time!

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I find the adjustment very hard. I miss working a lot. I miss "adult life" and my career. If I had babysitting, I would have worked pt (I did that for a year after my first and loved it).

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I didn't find this difficult at all...and I loved my job. I will eventually have to go back to work but for now I couldn't imagine not being home with Rylan.

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I thought it was an adjustment, but after 2 1/2 years, I'm fully adjusted now

I love caring for my son MYSELF and having that unique bond with him, I would be incredibly disappointed if circumstances forced me back to work anytime soon. Some days are absolutely awful, yes! But looking back, some days at the office were pretty horrible too. Grass is always greener, kwim?