School age moms...come in

I really need your input.

This morning as soon as we got to the bus stop a mom came rushing up to me and said
"Is your kid pushing on the bus?"
I looked at my DS and asked him and he said no he wasn't. I kept asking him. Asking if it was an accident or something. And his answer was the same, NO.
Her DS kept whining next to her that he was. But there was something in the way my DS said No, something in his face, what they were saying just didn't ring true. I don't think my DS was lying. I can't explain it. Maybe its a mother instinct but I feel my DS was telling the truth. Am I crazy for feeling that way?

I don't know what I should do about it. I don't want anyone to think bad about my DS but I really don't want to tell another Mom that I think her DS is lying. I feel so confused. Its been hours since I left the stop and I am still thinking about it. DS looked so sad getting on the bus today, it ripped my heart out.

I hate the bus stop. No one there talks to me or my son. They all gather in a corner and talk and DS and I are on the side, usually playing with the leaves or just talking to each other. I've tried several times to join in with them and they will usually just answer my questions and go back to talking among themselves or just stop chatting all together. I DREAD going every morning. Its the most uncomfortable 10-15 minutes every morning.
I want to drive my son to school but DH thinks I should stick it out.

I don't know what I should do. Everything was so easy when he was home with me.

Any advice?

I just wanted to thank all of you for the advice and kind words. The FM were so great and supportive.

When DS came home from school I talked to him and he said that when they were getting off the bus DS dropped his hat and the other little boy stepped on it. So DS bent over to pick it up and fell foward a bit and pushed the kid. So I guess in a way he did do it but not intentionally.

My DS said that he said sorry to the kid yesterday morning on the bus and the kid said it was ok and all was normal with them again. Which was nice. I wish some adults were as forgiving as children are.

I wanted to tell that to the kids mom this morning but she decided to drive her son today.

So I am just going to let it go. I know my son didn't do it on purpose and that's all I need to know for now. I am going to the stop a little later just so I don't have to stand there any longer than I have too.

Thanks again ladies.

Message edited 11/28/2007 10:53:49 AM.

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Cant' you ask the bus driver if it's happening on the bus?

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How on earth would you know if he was pushing if you weren't there??? Know what I mean...

And how could she know your son was pushing hers if she wasn't there...

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wow - are these women in high school? how pathetic are they to leave you out.... i would trust your gut. u know when your child is lying and when he is telling the truth.

as a teacher, i always ask both kids for their side of the story if i didn't see the incident. perhaps u can ask the bus driver if there are any problems that u should be aware of or make sure that your son sits away from the bratty kid.

sorry u have to deal with this - who knew that bullies continue on after high school???

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It's amazing to me that even as adults, the politics of the school yard still exist.

Maybe talk to DS tonight. I'm sure that it was uncomfortable for both you and DS to be pressed right there at the bus stop. Kudos for that mom for being an @ss and jumping at you right there in front of the kids- she sounds like a real winner.

I'm sorry you are made to feel like an outsider- those women sound like they need to grow up a bit.

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I feel you should let him continue taking the bus, but maybe you can talk to the bus driver and see if they have seen anything. Also maybe if you ask if your son can sit closer to the bus driver therefore if the other child is pushing your kid that will come to an end since the bus driver will be able to see whats going on. As for the other parent who thinks your son is the pusher maybe just let it go, some moms are so fast to put blame on other children and parents like that know matter what you say she probably wont listen. Now this is jmo and I think this is what I would do if my son was in this situation (who is a school age child) Good luck with everything.

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I know from my own personal experience that children will sometimes exaggerate something another child does and turn it into a malicious event. I'm sure your son isn't pushing anyone, maybe he bumped into someone on accident or someone bumped into your son and your son bumped into the other child, etc. If there is a line on the bus, have your DC try to sit in the front so he is getting off first and the other children won't be able to say he is pushing.

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So sorry you have that to deal with. Perhaps you can call her aside and explain what you told us about the hat. Ughh I would dread that bus stop too! Try not to let your son see how you are feeling. HUG