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CowgirlChick97
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Brianna
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Re: since most of you guys here are married....
Posted by MrsPorkChop
jess its normal to feel like this- its a HUGE step!
i had doubts because i translated our fighting about wedding stuff into - is this how its always going to be? we fought ALOT - mostly over things our parents were annoying us about. however it was strictly weedding related.
its funny after the wedding ended, the fighting ended too - and so far its been excellent...
if you truly love him, it will work and you can get through anything
same here
we fought a LOT about wedding stuff and things his parents did during the wedding.....it has stopped-damn wedding stress!!!!!!
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MrsPornStar
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Re: since most of you guys here are married....
I was not scared about marrying my DH. What I was scared of was the beginning stages. I was afraid that we would fall out of love or that he would leave me. However as the relationship progressed, I realized that I couldn't imagine my life without him. We've been through some tough times before the wedding and pulling through those times and being more in love with him helped me realize that I was right where I was supposed to be. I agree that marriage is work. But it's good work and effort. The end result is a relationship that is strong, loving and fulfilling.
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: since most of you guys here are married....
Posted by BackInNewYork
Nope - I was never scared, but I don't think its weird if you do. Lots of people get freaked out - and I do think its natural.
ditto for me. I wasn't scared at all, I couldn't wait to be his wife!
but the feelings you have are completely normal! you'll be ok.
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| Posted 10/18/06 8:57 AM |
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Diana1215
Living on a prayer!!!
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Diana
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Re: since most of you guys here are married....
I think it is completely normal to be scared. This is the biggest committment of your life and it is natural to have fears about it.
Planning a wedding it itself is a stressful thing - but add to that buying a house (or a condo if your situation) and tensions just run really high.
I think that some people think that they will get married and live happily ever after and that's where the trouble lies. Marriage is def. not perfect. It has good times and bad times, and you will go through your ups and downs. There have been times where I wanted to strangle my DH and times where I just never wanted to stop hugging him.
I'm always here if you need to talk!!!
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lorich
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Re: since most of you guys here are married....
I believe it's very natural to have those feelings...
Oddly enough though I didn't have those feelings...I seriously thought something was wrong with me!
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| Posted 10/18/06 9:31 AM |
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nov04libride
big brother <3
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Re: since most of you guys here are married....
Who you are going to marry is the biggest decision of your life...I think it should be treated as such and completely thought through! You're normal!
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| Posted 10/18/06 9:53 AM |
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Lanabean
Yoginis
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Re: since most of you guys here are married....
Of course it is, Jessica. Here's the truth, and Dan would back me on this.
When we got engaged....that night was amazing. We were in love, thrilled, excited. And...a little scared. That night, we both went home (living with our parents at the time; Dan was living in NYC but moved home to save money--that's when I knew it was getting close) and called eachother in bed. We admitted it. We were a little freaked out. Who knew what was next? What would our futures hold. But talk it out; go through it together. It's normal.
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ARIELSMOM
Love my Babes
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MEREDITH
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Re: since most of you guys here are married....
Its totally normal!
The unknown can be a scary thing. But as long as you love each other you will be able to conquer the obsticals that marriage has.
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| Posted 10/18/06 10:10 AM |
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Jessica
I'm a mommy :)
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Re: since most of you guys here are married....
thanks everyone
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BabyAvocado
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Re: since most of you guys here are married....
Of COURSE it's natural!
It's a big life step and it's a big commitment.
You sound like you are going into this a "concious bride" and that's a good thing...a very good thing.
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mrsv
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Re: since most of you guys here are married....
Posted by Heather617
I did not feel scared but I think that it is a natural feeling. The unknown can always be scary.
same here... I was not the least bit scared, but I know plenty of people who were, its completel;y normal
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| Posted 10/18/06 1:25 PM |
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dpli
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Re: since most of you guys here are married....
Since it is one of the biggest changes in your life, I would be more corncerned if I wasn't at least a little scared or worried.
For me, I wasn't so worried about the relationship, but since I married at an older age, I worried about giving up some of my independence and not having to consult someone else when I make decisions. My DH understands this and tries to give me my space, but I also understand that he gets lonely when I am not around. Compromise and communication are the most important things, IMO and I think you are off to a good start if you are already working on those things.
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