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ali120206
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Sleepover Question - Am I crazy?
Am I crazy to think my kindergartener is too young for a sleepover?
I just am not comfortable yet having him stay at someone's house I don't know very well.
Also - we have had my friend's daughter sleep over this summer (same age) because her brother was in the hospital... And she woke up screaming in the middle of the night (and knows us very well).
I don't think I did a sleepover until 2nd or 3rd grade!
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Hofstra26
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Re: Sleepover Question - Am I crazy?
You're not crazy AT ALL. In fact, I think even 2nd and 3rd grade is too young still.
My DD is in 2nd grade and was invited to a sleepover party tonight and aside from the fact that she was nervous about it, my DH and I just felt like she's too young and we didn't feel comfortable leaving her overnight with a family we don't know at all. The little girl she's friends with is sweet and I'm sure the family is lovely but I can't take the chance and leave my DD overnight somewhere without REALLY knowing the parents, family, house, etc. She's going to the party tonight but we're picking her up after a few hours, I think it was a fair compromise.
Honestly, I don't really see the need for sleepovers at the elementary school age. JHS, I get it. I had them and had so much fun. But right now my DD has an 8:00 bedtime every night and I just don't feel like she's independent enough to be on her own for so long. I know I might be in the minority but I'd rather my children (at this age) be home safe in their beds, they don't need to be overnight anywhere at this point in time.
ETA - In Kindergarten, I wouldn't even consider a sleepover for a millisecond. NO way I'd let my 5 yr old stay overnight anywhere unless they were family.
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MarisaK
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Re: Sleepover Question - Am I crazy?
I don't have girls - but I think elememtary school is WAY too young for sleepover parties. ESPECIALLY K/1st/2nd grade - Maybe 4th/5th ......Ok, they are a bit older and starting to get that 'i'm too cool for you' thing going ..........but KINDERGARTEN? Not a chance in hell !
and, on the fiip side, WHY in god's name would you WANT 5/10/15 however many 5 YEAR OLDS sleeping over ??? Dear God no way !!  
I wouldn't have a problem doing a friend or family memeber a favor and taking thei kids overnight, but a classmate? - Nah
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| Posted 2/12/16 9:30 AM |
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ali120206
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Sleepover Question - Am I crazy?
Thank you both.
I don't think this was a party - just having my son sleep over at their house.
I agree - I wouldn't mind taking a family member or friend's kids overnight (and reciprocating the favor) but, I feel it's too young.
These kids are growing up too fast as it is.
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Lara&Aidansmommy
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Re: Sleepover Question - Am I crazy?
Nope not crazy. Id never let Lara go to a sleep over yet.
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itsbabytime
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Re: Sleepover Question - Am I crazy?
Nope not crazy. Wouldn't let my K'er go or my 3rd grader for that matter!
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| Posted 2/12/16 10:45 AM |
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Millie3
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Re: Sleepover Question - Am I crazy?
No. We don't do sleepovers, I don't see the point
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| Posted 2/12/16 12:11 PM |
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Re: Sleepover Question - Am I crazy?
Idk, I guess I am in the minority, but I think it is something that depends on the kids. We have kids sleep over at my house (I have a 3rd grade boy).
But then again, I am divorced, so my DS sleeps out at his dad's, and his dad has had several gf's with kids, so I guess he is used to it.
I don't know what the big deal is though, if you are comfortable with it, allow it, if not, don't
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| Posted 2/12/16 1:06 PM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: Sleepover Question - Am I crazy?
Posted by Straightarrow
Idk, I guess I am in the minority, but I think it is something that depends on the kids. We have kids sleep over at my house (I have a 3rd grade boy).
But then again, I am divorced, so my DS sleeps out at his dad's, and his dad has had several gf's with kids, so I guess he is used to it.
I don't know what the big deal is though, if you are comfortable with it, allow it, if not, don't
It's a big deal IF you don't know the family well.
You would let your son sleepover at someone's house where you don't know the parents at all, have never been to the house, and aside from your kid playing with them AT SCHOOL they've had no other interaction??? Really though? That's like me giving my child over to some stranger at Target and letting her sleepover. No thanks.
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| Posted 2/12/16 1:16 PM |
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Re: Sleepover Question - Am I crazy?
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by Straightarrow
Idk, I guess I am in the minority, but I think it is something that depends on the kids. We have kids sleep over at my house (I have a 3rd grade boy).
But then again, I am divorced, so my DS sleeps out at his dad's, and his dad has had several gf's with kids, so I guess he is used to it.
I don't know what the big deal is though, if you are comfortable with it, allow it, if not, don't
It's a big deal IF you don't know the family well.
You would let your son sleepover at someone's house where you don't know the parents at all, have never been to the house, and aside from your kid playing with them AT SCHOOL they've had no other interaction??? Really though? That's like me giving my child over to some stranger at Target and letting her sleepover. No thanks.
Well if my son was invited over to someone's house I'd call them and try to meet them and probably make a decision then.
Like I said, I don't have control of half of the weekends of my son's life, so I have to let things go a little. Sucks, but its what happens
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| Posted 2/12/16 2:00 PM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: Sleepover Question - Am I crazy?
Posted by Straightarrow
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by Straightarrow
Idk, I guess I am in the minority, but I think it is something that depends on the kids. We have kids sleep over at my house (I have a 3rd grade boy).
But then again, I am divorced, so my DS sleeps out at his dad's, and his dad has had several gf's with kids, so I guess he is used to it.
I don't know what the big deal is though, if you are comfortable with it, allow it, if not, don't
It's a big deal IF you don't know the family well.
You would let your son sleepover at someone's house where you don't know the parents at all, have never been to the house, and aside from your kid playing with them AT SCHOOL they've had no other interaction??? Really though? That's like me giving my child over to some stranger at Target and letting her sleepover. No thanks.
Well if my son was invited over to someone's house I'd call them and try to meet them and probably make a decision then.
Like I said, I don't have control of half of the weekends of my son's life, so I have to let things go a little. Sucks, but its what happens
I understand. 
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NervousNell
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Re: Sleepover Question - Am I crazy?
Hell no
No way - my 5 year old DD has only slept over my sister's house with her cousin. And that was only this year- 2 times.
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Re: Sleepover Question - Am I crazy?
I don't remember when my DD had her first sleepover- early in second grade I think. BUT it was with a kid who I know very well as she lives a few doors down, and her mom is a very good friend. The first time, the other kid slept here first. My DD was going to be the more nervous one, but if I had to walk down at 3 am it would not have been a big deal. They have had many sleepovers at this point but I am in no rush for her to sleep at anyone else's house.
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Mom0710
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Re: Sleepover Question - Am I crazy?
Posted by NervousNell
Hell no
No way - my 5 year old DD has only slept over my sister's house with her cousin. And that was only this year- 2 times.
This exactly. My oldest stayed at my sisters at that age, but it's my sister. She has a few times since then and never had a problem. My youngest has only slept at my il's. She's in k. She likes to plan sleepovers but they never happen. 
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iluvmynutty
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Re: Sleepover Question - Am I crazy?
You are not crazy. I wouldn't let my Kindergartener sleep over a friends house either.
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| Posted 2/12/16 6:19 PM |
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blessedmama
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Re: Sleepover Question - Am I crazy?
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by Straightarrow
Idk, I guess I am in the minority, but I think it is something that depends on the kids. We have kids sleep over at my house (I have a 3rd grade boy).
But then again, I am divorced, so my DS sleeps out at his dad's, and his dad has had several gf's with kids, so I guess he is used to it.
I don't know what the big deal is though, if you are comfortable with it, allow it, if not, don't
It's a big deal IF you don't know the family well.
You would let your son sleepover at someone's house where you don't know the parents at all, have never been to the house, and aside from your kid playing with them AT SCHOOL they've had no other interaction??? Really though? That's like me giving my child over to some stranger at Target and letting her sleepover. No thanks.
Yep I have. I never knew some of the families my daughter slept out at.
I might be out of the ordinary though as I have always let my kids sleep out or have friends sleep over on school nights too.
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Hofstra26
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Re: Sleepover Question - Am I crazy?
Posted by blessedmama
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by Straightarrow
Idk, I guess I am in the minority, but I think it is something that depends on the kids. We have kids sleep over at my house (I have a 3rd grade boy).
But then again, I am divorced, so my DS sleeps out at his dad's, and his dad has had several gf's with kids, so I guess he is used to it.
I don't know what the big deal is though, if you are comfortable with it, allow it, if not, don't
It's a big deal IF you don't know the family well.
You would let your son sleepover at someone's house where you don't know the parents at all, have never been to the house, and aside from your kid playing with them AT SCHOOL they've had no other interaction??? Really though? That's like me giving my child over to some stranger at Target and letting her sleepover. No thanks.
Yep I have. I never knew some of the families my daughter slept out at.
I might be out of the ordinary though as I have always let my kids sleep out or have friends sleep over on school nights too.
Really? On school nights?? NO way!! My kids are in bed at 8 EVERY night and there is too much going on in the morning getting ready for school that I would NEVER allow that...........at any age.
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| Posted 2/12/16 8:23 PM |
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blessedmama
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Re: Sleepover Question - Am I crazy?
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by blessedmama
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by Straightarrow
Idk, I guess I am in the minority, but I think it is something that depends on the kids. We have kids sleep over at my house (I have a 3rd grade boy).
But then again, I am divorced, so my DS sleeps out at his dad's, and his dad has had several gf's with kids, so I guess he is used to it.
I don't know what the big deal is though, if you are comfortable with it, allow it, if not, don't
It's a big deal IF you don't know the family well.
You would let your son sleepover at someone's house where you don't know the parents at all, have never been to the house, and aside from your kid playing with them AT SCHOOL they've had no other interaction??? Really though? That's like me giving my child over to some stranger at Target and letting her sleepover. No thanks.
Yep I have. I never knew some of the families my daughter slept out at.
I might be out of the ordinary though as I have always let my kids sleep out or have friends sleep over on school nights too.
Really? On school nights?? NO way!! My kids are in bed at 8 EVERY night and there is too much going on in the morning getting ready for school that I would NEVER allow that...........at any age.
In ms and hs and there is really nothing that they don't need to do that they would do at home. Just as long as they get up and go to school, I don't mind. We have one of my son's friend sleep over all the time. They are in ms. They fall asleep by 11 and get up right away in the morning and get to school. No big deal.
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| Posted 2/12/16 9:39 PM |
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blessedmama
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Re: Sleepover Question - Am I crazy?
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by blessedmama
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by Straightarrow
Idk, I guess I am in the minority, but I think it is something that depends on the kids. We have kids sleep over at my house (I have a 3rd grade boy).
But then again, I am divorced, so my DS sleeps out at his dad's, and his dad has had several gf's with kids, so I guess he is used to it.
I don't know what the big deal is though, if you are comfortable with it, allow it, if not, don't
It's a big deal IF you don't know the family well.
You would let your son sleepover at someone's house where you don't know the parents at all, have never been to the house, and aside from your kid playing with them AT SCHOOL they've had no other interaction??? Really though? That's like me giving my child over to some stranger at Target and letting her sleepover. No thanks.
Yep I have. I never knew some of the families my daughter slept out at.
I might be out of the ordinary though as I have always let my kids sleep out or have friends sleep over on school nights too.
Really? On school nights?? NO way!! My kids are in bed at 8 EVERY night and there is too much going on in the morning getting ready for school that I would NEVER allow that...........at any age.
Any age? When they get older they get up on their own and know what needs to be done to go to school. They don't need us moms anymore for certain things.
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nferrandi
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Re: Sleepover Question - Am I crazy?
My little guy is in kindergarten and has slept at his best friend's house. But the mom is also my best friend. He hasn't had any sleepovers with school friends.
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| Posted 2/13/16 8:07 AM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: Sleepover Question - Am I crazy?
Posted by blessedmama
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by blessedmama
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by Straightarrow
Idk, I guess I am in the minority, but I think it is something that depends on the kids. We have kids sleep over at my house (I have a 3rd grade boy).
But then again, I am divorced, so my DS sleeps out at his dad's, and his dad has had several gf's with kids, so I guess he is used to it.
I don't know what the big deal is though, if you are comfortable with it, allow it, if not, don't
It's a big deal IF you don't know the family well.
You would let your son sleepover at someone's house where you don't know the parents at all, have never been to the house, and aside from your kid playing with them AT SCHOOL they've had no other interaction??? Really though? That's like me giving my child over to some stranger at Target and letting her sleepover. No thanks.
Yep I have. I never knew some of the families my daughter slept out at.
I might be out of the ordinary though as I have always let my kids sleep out or have friends sleep over on school nights too.
Really? On school nights?? NO way!! My kids are in bed at 8 EVERY night and there is too much going on in the morning getting ready for school that I would NEVER allow that...........at any age.
Any age? When they get older they get up on their own and know what needs to be done to go to school. They don't need us moms anymore for certain things.
Not on school nights, I don't care what age they are. That's what weekends are for. JMO. 
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blessedmama
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Re: Sleepover Question - Am I crazy?
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by blessedmama
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by blessedmama
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by Straightarrow
Idk, I guess I am in the minority, but I think it is something that depends on the kids. We have kids sleep over at my house (I have a 3rd grade boy).
But then again, I am divorced, so my DS sleeps out at his dad's, and his dad has had several gf's with kids, so I guess he is used to it.
I don't know what the big deal is though, if you are comfortable with it, allow it, if not, don't
It's a big deal IF you don't know the family well.
You would let your son sleepover at someone's house where you don't know the parents at all, have never been to the house, and aside from your kid playing with them AT SCHOOL they've had no other interaction??? Really though? That's like me giving my child over to some stranger at Target and letting her sleepover. No thanks.
Yep I have. I never knew some of the families my daughter slept out at.
I might be out of the ordinary though as I have always let my kids sleep out or have friends sleep over on school nights too.
Really? On school nights?? NO way!! My kids are in bed at 8 EVERY night and there is too much going on in the morning getting ready for school that I would NEVER allow that...........at any age.
Any age? When they get older they get up on their own and know what needs to be done to go to school. They don't need us moms anymore for certain things.
Not on school nights, I don't care what age they are. That's what weekends are for. JMO.
What works for one might not work for another. Never say never though. You have many years ahead of you :)
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BargainMama
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Sleepover Question - Am I crazy?
I used to sleep at my friend's house all the time in middle school and high school, but we obviously could get ourselves ready in the morning.
I personally wouldn't do a K sleepover. Too young IMO, but many of my DD's friends were doing sleepovers at that age. Obviously with their good friends only
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| Posted 2/13/16 9:38 AM |
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limomof2
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Re: Sleepover Question - Am I crazy?
My son had his first sleepovers this year --5th grade
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| Posted 2/14/16 10:23 AM |
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aliwnec10
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Re: Sleepover Question - Am I crazy?
my son has done a few sleepovers, but only with cousins and his 1 good friend (we're neighbors and good friends with the parents).
But i'm done with sleepovers. I hate them. They're up too late and with my nephew, he wakes up at 5:30am (he's 8) and the next day my son is totally wiped out. He's in the 2nd grade and is 7 1/2 but he still needs a lot of sleep.
So unless we have to... no sleepovers for my son.
Not a fan. So we're holding off for a while.
As for a sleepover with a family we don't know... NO WAY!
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