Someone made a comment and now it's got me thinking...(issue has to do with mom's who have boys).

Keep in mind I have two boys that I adore and I've always wanted two boys. A coworker of mine said to me that I should try to have a girl next because you will have a closer bond with her than you will with your boys. She said that since I only have boys, I will never do girlie things. Now, I am afraid that I won't have this special bond with them. I know I shouldn't be thinking like this. I guess I didn't like this woman's comment. Mom's of boys, did you or do you think about this? I told DH and he said that I can still do fun things with them like taking them to monster truck shows and wrestling matches

Re: Someone made a comment and now it's got me thinking...(issue has to do with mom's who have boys).

Personally, I believe it's all how you decide to bond with ANY of your children.

You don't need to have a girl to bond with your child, you have a special connection with your sons that goes beyond their sex. You brought them into this world, that's bond enough.
You can do all sorts of "boy" stuff and just because you are a female doesn't decrease or lessen the connection you have.

Your coworker is an arse if you ask me.

Don't get me wrong, having a girl would be amazing too, but it shouldn't be a given that you will bond better with her.

Message edited 12/6/2007 11:35:49 AM.

Re: Someone made a comment and now it's got me thinking...(issue has to do with mom's who have boys).

Not a mom of a boy, but there's a reason for the term "momma's boy". Out of all my nieces and nephews...I'm closest with one of my nephews. You may not do "girlie" things but having a girl doesn't guarantee that either.

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Well since we can't pick the sex of our children it would be something if you "Tried" for a girl and got another gorgeous boy, wouldn't it!?!

and PSSSSSSSSHT - who says you can't have just as strong a bond with your son as you would with a daughter? That is crap - kids are people and people have hearts and parents love their kids. That's it. It is a different bond, yes, but that does not make it anything less to me. Hmm what is that saying you can tell how a man will treat you by how he treats his mom????????

I always thought I wanted a girl and even while pg w/DS in the beginning I secretely hoped he was a girl. Well now that I have him, I would hope for another boy if I get pg again. He is mommy's boy!!

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Re: Someone made a comment and now it's got me thinking...(issue has to do with mom's who have boys).

I have a little boy and do hope to one day have a little girl as well, but with that said, regardless of the gender I pray and hope that i woudl have a close relationship with all my children. My husband has a very close relationship witht his mother.

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My theory is...a son is a son until he finds a wife, a daughter is a daughter for the rest of your life.

I want a daughter next...I will be eating all pink foods. I hear thats how you have girls.

OBVIOUSLY I will be thrilled to have another boy...but I would love a daughter.

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Re: Someone made a comment and now it's got me thinking...(issue has to do with mom's who have boys).

My mom and my brother are very close. They talk on the phone every day. And she never took him to a wrestling match or a monster show.

Your co-worker is an arse.

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I think that and your coworker is ridiculous. You will always have a bond with your child, regardless of the child's gender! that child came from your womb for god's sake! what's more of a bond than that!

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I have a little boy and I am sure we will always share a close bond .. however, as a daughter I kind of understand whre she is coming from. My mom has me and my brother. Joking around growing up he was nicknames "lovey" because he was the apple of her eye. She did his homework with him every night and ironed his clothes until he moved out, etc ... I was more independent.

BUT now that we are older, my mom and I go shopping, get our nails done together, go to lunch, hang out with the baby ... my brother pops up and leaves when he wants. He doesn't 'do' things with her. My mom and I are 'friends' now.

My MIL has two boys and two daughter in laws. We are very close to her and we are like the daughters she never had.


Does that make sense? It's just a differnt dynamic. I think that's what your coworker meant. Not that having boys was bad. It's just mothers and daughter as the years go on bcome more than just mothers and daughters. They become friends (most of the time).

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Your co-worker is a dumb arse. She's dumb for saying it. Yes the bond is different but at least it's a bond. Boy or Girl there is a bond. I love my little man!

True that when boys get older hanging around mommy won't be so cool. They all go through that phase and that's fine whatever but when they are adults I hope to still have a bond with my son. DH and his mom are pretty close and he calls her all the time to see what she's up to.

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honestly? alright. when i found out i was having a boy i kinda got sad and i flashed to a thought about brushing my 'dd's' hair into a pony tail or clipping it in a cute way. pretty dresses and mary jane shoes, etx. don't get me wrong, ppl. I ABSOLUTELY LOVE & ADORE MY SON! would i want my next to be a dd??? sure. why the heck not?? but it's a fifty-fifty chance. it would be great to have the best of both worlds. i am very content with my boy. just yesterday he said da-da! said it again after i prompted him to do so. he's taking his steps and all that good stuff. all at 9mos!

that comment that woman made.. such a teaser comment. 'you should try having a girl next time'.. what are you - g0d?! sure! and i'll pull a mill bux outta my toosh!

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Re: Someone made a comment and now it's got me thinking...(issue has to do with mom's who have boys).

Posted by mommy0604

Posted by racheeeee

My theory is...a son is a son until he finds a wife, a daughter is a daughter for the rest of your life.

I want a daughter next...I will be eating all pink foods. I hear thats how you have girls.

OBVIOUSLY I will be thrilled to have another boy...but I would love a daughter.

Are you going to drink a bottle pepto???

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Posted by mommy0604

Posted by racheeeee

My theory is...a son is a son until he finds a wife, a daughter is a daughter for the rest of your life.

I want a daughter next...I will be eating all pink foods. I hear thats how you have girls.

OBVIOUSLY I will be thrilled to have another boy...but I would love a daughter.

Are you going to drink a bottle pepto???

Re: Someone made a comment and now it's got me thinking...(issue has to do with mom's who have boys).

I hope that even when my son gets married that our bond is still the same. Of course it's not the same as a daughter's bond with their mom when they're older.
I've got many years before I have to worry about that...

Re: Someone made a comment and now it's got me thinking...(issue has to do with mom's who have boys).

What bothered me is the way she said it. Hey, I am over it. By the way, this woman doesn't have any kids, she has no idea what she's talking about.

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Re: Someone made a comment and now it's got me thinking...(issue has to do with mom's who have boys).

Posted by racheeeee

Posted by mommy0604

Posted by racheeeee

My theory is...a son is a son until he finds a wife, a daughter is a daughter for the rest of your life.

I want a daughter next...I will be eating all pink foods. I hear thats how you have girls.

OBVIOUSLY I will be thrilled to have another boy...but I would love a daughter.

Are you going to drink a bottle pepto???

If thats what it takes, I will drink a lovely delicious bottle of Pepto Bismal every night for 9 months.

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Re: Someone made a comment and now it's got me thinking...(issue has to do with mom's who have boys).

I mean yeah there are brief moments where I think "oh if I had a girl I can get pink bows and pretty dresses". But they are brief moments and I wouldn't trade in my boy for any girl on the planet.

Don't forget girls are a pain in the Butt when they hit the teen years...

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Re: Someone made a comment and now it's got me thinking...(issue has to do with mom's who have boys).

i feel you can have that bond with a son. I am a parent of a DD but I have cousins who are males (grownups now) and are super close with thier moms. so go figure.. you can have that bond with boys or girls i truley believe

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It TOTALLY depends on the child. I dont believe any of those cliches at all.

My mom has 2 daughters..myself and my sister who is 4 years younger than me. We are SO CLOSE its unbelievable. We are with her constantly and take care of each other constantly. My brother is never around. I mean hes 20, and it comes with the age but hes definately not a mamas boy. He loves my mom but it isnt overboard. He loves her cooking and always wants her to cook, never giving her a break but thats about it.

But theres another family I know where the boys is way closer to his mom. Always taking care of her while the sister lives her own life.

It totally depends on the kid themselves. My own daughter, I LIVE for her. I am ALWAYS with her. But she is SO INDEPENDENT that I can see she is going to do her own thing most of the time. Its just her personality. I think it really lies on who the child is and thats all.

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There's a reason for the term "momma's boy". I already tell my DS (who is only 8 months old), noone is ever gonna love him like his momma does.


ETA: When I first got pregnant I wanted a girl but now that I have DS, I want another boy next. I would love for him to have a brother to grow up with. At the same time, I told DH if we go for a 3rd I would like to have a girl so I can do the "girlie" things. But if it doesnt happen that way, than it doesnt happen that way. Everyone bonds with their children differently. Plus boys are much easier during the teenage years

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Re: Someone made a comment and now it's got me thinking...(issue has to do with mom's who have boys).

My mom and my brother are close. My brother is the one who took my mom to hockey games (still does) and wrestling matches, etc.
DH can't wait until WE take DS to his first baseball game in the spring (if we go to FL in March, we will be going to spring training) and hockey games next winter.
Of course they will have their "boy time" but we are going to do things as a family. I love DS so much and I am sure we will have a special bond.