Re: Someone made a comment and now it's got me thinking...(issue has to do with mom's who have boys).

I'm a mom of a boy and I hope to have an amazing bond with DS throughout our lives. It may be different than a bond with a daughter, but amazing nonetheless!

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Re: Someone made a comment and now it's got me thinking...(issue has to do with mom's who have boys).

The bond has nothing to do with same sex or not, its you spending time with them that makes the bond!!!

My neice has the cutest bond with her father.

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I am okay with Josh falling in love one day with a lovely woman and him taking a liking to her family.

I think the issue is going to be how I treat Josh's wife.

I think its no secret, as moms, we seem to take more advice from our mothers rather then our MILs. If MILs make suggestions, they seem to be pushy or out of line.

Right now, I would just like to concentrate on limiting how often he is on my boob. The umbilical cord should have never been cut. He is a mama's boy through and through, some distance would be nice

It is a reminder as well that Leo is my #1...he will be there always. Even if he is driving me crazy, he will still be there for every holiday.

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Please, I dread having a girl. Not that I don't want one but I'm terrified of damaging her. Ugh...just think of the teen years with your Mom... the horror!!

Bond smond...I can just see her hating me forever after the age of 13.

Doing girlie things for 2 years isn't going to patch that one up.

Boys on the other hand...well, like other have said...there's a reason for the term "momma's boy"

Anyway - this chick has no kids?? What does she know?

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I feel that with every child there will be a diff bond. I use to think that once my boys got older they would have their wives take care of them and they wouldn't need me anymore as if I had a girl we would chat on the phone all the time and I would taking her shopping with the kids but then I figured I would just get in good with my dtr in-law But serious I worked with many woman who only had boys and most of them are married and still call their mom for everything, so I think everything will be fine

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In an ideal world, I would like two boys also. DS is definately a mamma's boy as of now. I think it all depends on how you raise them. But I believe that boys have a special bond with their mommies. However, there is a saying that scares me: "Your daughter's your daughter for the rest of your life; you'r son's a son till he takes a wife." I hate that saying.

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Posted by tiki03

Keep in mind I have two boys that I adore and I've always wanted two boys. A coworker of mine said to me that I should try to have a girl next because you will have a closer bond with her than you will with your boys. She said that since I only have boys, I will never do girlie things. Now, I am afraid that I won't have this special bond with them. I know I shouldn't be thinking like this. I guess I didn't like this woman's comment. Mom's of boys, did you or do you think about this? I told DH and he said that I can still do fun things with them like taking them to monster truck shows and wrestling matches

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Being a mom of one boy and one on the way, I do worry about losing them when they grow up. I do see now that many men go off and live their lives and don't have the same bond a woman does. I think about that more than the girly stuff.

Plus, how do you know you'll have a girl next time. You could have another boy:) And, you could have a girl that's not into dresses and barbie.

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Well, my DS is only 6 months, but I already have a special bond with him. It is a different kind of bond, but it's just as wonderful as the bond I have with my DD.

That was dumb of that woman to say.

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My first is a boy and I honestly would not have minded at all had my next also been a boy (she's a girl)

Trust me I do have a bond with my son....I think it's so silly when people say things like that.

I know moms and sons who are closer than moms and daughters I know. Every relationship in our life is different and every family is different.

You might be close with a daughter in law or a graqndaughter and still get to do girlie things.

As long as the children are healthy who cares what they are!

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When I found out I was having a boy, there were a few people who acted like that was a second choice. One person, upon being told I was having a boy said,"at least he's healthy, right." Another person said that she would be partial to a girl. That comment was not a total slap in the face but I do not think it was the right thing to say when hearing my news of having a boy. I do not consider my son to be a second choice. In fact, any time I have visualized myself with a child, it was a little boy.

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Your co worker is rude and full of crap...it has no relevance whether you have a boy or a girl. My sister has a boy and is tightly bonded I think the umbilical cord is still attached! I have a girl and its the same way...OH I hate people who say things like that...

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My brother is just as close with my mom as I am.

Also DH is as close with his mom as his sister is, so I think it depends on the person.

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Ok I have a little boy and knew that's what I was having. Ladies, a public service, PLEASE stop with the "a son is a son until he takes a wife" comment. A coworker said that to right after I found out DS gender and it made me want to hit her

A child is a child. Plenty of men spend the holidays with their mom and have a great bond. I honestly love that I am raising this great little boy!

I think of Shorty's quote- THINK THEN SPEAK! It's just a mean thing to say that upset me VERY much, don't perpetuate it further

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I cant believe that she said that I think that the bond between a mother/son and mother/daughter might be different but one isnt better than the other. Your coworker sounds like an idiot

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I don't understand that woman. Even IF we presuppose that what she said was true - WHY would she say something? That it just mean and rude!!

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Well I am married to a Momma's boy and I am raising one too.

Your co-worker is an azz

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Re: Someone made a comment and now it's got me thinking...(issue has to do with mom's who have boys).

i feel this way to an extent...i know my son will always love me b/c im his mom and we will be able to do things to make us bond..however, havign an 8 yr old stepson, i see the relationship boys have w/their dads as they grow up and though it's wonderful, it can be hard at times to not feel as involved as father and son are.

i'd like to have a girl to do "girlie" things with like hair, nails, etc...i think that as they grow up the bond changes and becomes more of a same gender issue than a parent child issue...

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ha...I guess she left out the fact that girls will fight with you tooth and nail...come after you...kill you with their stares when its almost time for their period to start and so on.
Do not misunderstand me...I adore my daughter...but my analogy?
a son is a puppy---who will lick you and always come home...a girl is a cat and will eat at home until the neighbor feeds them a better meal
and simple simple things set them off...
llike if they cannot find their shirt!
but***then they turn around and do ther most beautiful thoughtful things.
Your co-worker is a ***.
I have both and both sexes are fantastic...girls are just more intense.
I mean we are aren't we?

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Boys always love their mamas. DH is a good example of that

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Re: Someone made a comment and now it's got me thinking...(issue has to do with mom's who have boys).

I wasn't that girly before having a child, I doubt having a daughter would change that. I didn't really have a preference of whether I had a boy or a girl, I thought there would be wonderful things about either. I also was very close to both of my parents, and I actually had a special bond with my dad, because I think our personalities, temperaments and interests were more alike than those of my other siblings.

I think the bond has more to do with your personalities and the time you spend with your child than the genders involved.

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yes, i think about this. I think about how close I am to my mom, and how my boys will one day get married and forget all about their mommy! but boys for the most part ADORE their moms in a different way than girls do! edited to say-thinking about it though, I am married to the BIGGEST momma's boy...so maybe my boys will(hopefully for my sake take after him!)

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