Sort of a spinoff - would you ever be a surrogate?

Off the top of my head without really digging deep into thought I think the only person I'd ever be a surrogate for is my sister. She is not only my sister by blood but my absolute best friend by choice.

For that, I would certainly give her the best gift in the world, unconditional love from a child.

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No. I don't think I could be emotionally detached enough to do that for another person. I also didn't LOVE being pregnant, so I don't think I would want to go through that for someone else.

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I would if I didn't have to be pregnant.

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I would absolutely be a surrogate for a friend and even for a stranger. It's complicated and messy, but i'd do it. I loved being pregnant and if i could help someone else out who can't carry a baby... why not?

You just have to know how to separate yourself and i can totally do that.

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Never--I have no sisters

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In my heart I feel like for the right person I would, but given the fact that I had 2 horrific p/g's(I had hyperemesis which led to an ulcer and Anemia so bad I had to have Procrit IV's and iron infusions and almost a blood transfusion)
In would not be on the cards for me.

Just wanted to add that I was a chronic miscarrier(I had 4) and know the pain of of thinking you will never have a child.

Message edited 4/8/2009 9:04:15 AM.

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Posted by KateDevine

I would if I didn't have to be pregnant.

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In a heartbeat I would want to. I'd loved to say YEs w/ no questions asked but obvioulsy I'd have tons of questions.

After everything was layed out on the table and everything looked ok and felt right to do then YES I would.

I was actually going to be a surrogate for a couple in Ct. They were both Drs and she had over 12 miscarriages.
She looked into it but NYS does not have very friendly surrogate laws.

Then I got pg again...

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Posted by aliwnec10

I would absolutely be a surrogate for a friend and even for a stranger. It's complicated and messy, but i'd do it. I loved being pregnant and if i could help someone else out who can't carry a baby... why not?

You just have to know how to separate yourself and i can totally do that.

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only for my sister...we actually discussed this when she was going through IF

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I would only do it for my sister. I would want to be in the baby's life too. If it were for a friend, I would miss the baby too much.

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yes, absolutely, for my sister or a close friends.

the only thing is that i would want to be done having my own kids first. i loved being pregnant, and have seen many friends struggle with their fertility. if i could help them become parents, i would.

i would not, however, ever donate my eggs.

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If I had easy pregnancies I would. But b/c of my constant risk of preterm labor I dont think it would be fair to someone or myself....

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I hate to say it, but probably not. I do not have sisters so maybe that would make a difference and I would do it for them?

I don't know, but I think I would have a really hard time not thinking of that child as "mine".

I give credit to anyone who could do this.

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Posted by chelle

Posted by aliwnec10

I would absolutely be a surrogate for a friend and even for a stranger. It's complicated and messy, but i'd do it. I loved being pregnant and if i could help someone else out who can't carry a baby... why not?

You just have to know how to separate yourself and i can totally do that.

I couldn't have said it better myself.

I would absolutely do it.

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No

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I absolutely would and actually have always wanted to be. Someone close to my SIL needs one and I asked my husband what he thought and he said absolutely not. Not that it's his choice but obviously I would need him to be supportive and he isn't. Shocking.

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this has honestly been a question in my mind since DD was born and my BF told me of her her fertility issues (the list is long) I want more then anything to do it for her, but im not sure I can. I am terrified not of being preg. again although i did not love it, but of how i felt for 5 months after DD was born i NEVER want to feel that way again! ever.

this is the same struggle i have in my head everyday about TTCing for number 2 which is almost bringing me to tears just typing this!

so yes i want to more then anything in the world to be able to do this for someone(my BF!), but mentally i dont think i could.

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I would do it for my sister in a heartbeat.

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I don't think I could do it. I don't even know if I could do it for my sister, I want to be able to say yes I could, but I don't know for sure. I had such an emotional bond to my baby while I was pregnant that I cannot imagine carrying a baby for 9 months and feeling it kick and move inside of you and then deliver it and give it up. It would be so hard for me emotionally to detach for those 9 months. I don't know if I would be strong enough to do it. Kudos to anyone that can. It's a wonderful gift to give someone but it would be hard for me to do.

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Yes. I would do it for anybody that asked me.

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Posted by nbc188

Posted by chelle

Posted by aliwnec10

I would absolutely be a surrogate for a friend and even for a stranger. It's complicated and messy, but i'd do it. I loved being pregnant and if i could help someone else out who can't carry a baby... why not?

You just have to know how to separate yourself and i can totally do that.

I couldn't have said it better myself.

I would absolutely do it.

ITA!! I would do it for my sister & SIL most definitely, and hope I could do it for someone else as well.

I truly believe I would be able to separate myself, because I truly believe that a baby is a miracle and that miracle would be someone else's.

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I don't have a sister, but if I did I probably would. I HATE being preg and would worry about the attachment issue if it was for a stranger.

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I would def. be a suurrogate. I had fertility issues of my own and I know how it feels to think you'll never have a baby. It depends on the person though. My sisters and very close friends and family (cousins) would probably be the only people I would do it for.. I don't know if I would do it for a complete stranger.