Spinoff: Baptism Question

I am really not religious at all but my MIL is a super-Catholic. My husband is a disillusioned Catholic who went through all the religious education including confirmation and now exists somewhere between agnostic and atheist. I have considered having our girls baptized/christened (I honestly do not know the difference between these two things) because I know it is important to her.

Has anyone found themselves in this situation?

Spinoff: Baptism Question

My DH and I are not very religious; my DH is less religious than me. My parents are also not very religious. My ILs are very religious. We choose to baptize our DS. It was definitely something both sides expected to be done.

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Spinoff: Baptism Question

My DS was not baptized, and it drives my MIL nuts. She's not even super-Catholic. I don't think she's ever gone to church in the 8+ years I've known her other than for events like weddings, baptisms, funerals, etc. She just thinks it would be "nice" for him to be baptized, and she has a friend who wasn't baptized and wished her parents had done it. Neither of which are compelling reasons. I'm pretty sure she just wants it done because everyone else does it.

I was raised Catholic, but never confirmed. My husband was confirmed, but hasn't been to church since. I'm not going to stand in front of the church and say that I will raise my son Catholic, when I know neither my husband nor I actually intend to raise him Catholic. If he has an interest in religion when he's older, then I will fully support him exploring that, but I'm not choosing it for him when I rejected it myself.

Also, when we considered doing it for a second, it quickly became clear there was going to be drama about who we wanted as Godparents, so that was an extra reason to just avoid it.

Spinoff: Baptism Question

DH and I do not attend church and have no desire to raise our child with a religion The rest of my family is very religious and I do not plan to baptize my child just because the rest of my family is religious.

I don't really get the point of baptism if you don't plan oN attending church on a regular basis with your child.

Spinoff: Baptism Question

If I remember correctly, baptism is to absolve the child of original sin. That is typically why it is done so early. It is so if something were to happen to the child it would be forgiven. It has nothing to do with future religious education.

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Spinoff: Baptism Question

It's not just absolving them of original sin, but also committing them to the religion. Cannon law regarding baptism states:
Can. 868 §1 For an infant to be baptised lawfully it is required:
(1) that the parents, or at least one of them, or the person who lawfully holds their place, give their consent;
(2) that there be a well-founded hope that the child will be brought up in the catholic religion. If such hope is truly lacking, the baptism is, in accordance with the provisions of particular law, to be deferred and the parents advised of the reason for this.

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Spinoff: Baptism Question

I'm a lapsed Catholic and DH is agnostic but was raised Jewish (pork eating, Christmas celebrating, kicked out of Hebrew school Jewish). My family and I do not go to church.

DD is baptized. I plan to have her make her communion as well.

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For us it was very important

But if I was you I would look at it like this,if it's not in your beliefs then it's just water

Obviously it's your decision and whatever you decide is the right thing


If it's super import to her and if you don't mind then I would.
If you do then don't,Kwim

Hope I am making sense lol

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Spinoff: Baptism Question

Dh nor I are religious at all. However, I was raised in the Catholic Church so we had dd baptized and will do it for this one too. They will both be communed and confirmed and they can choose what they want to do in the future. I just want them to have some foundation.

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