Spinoff to Breaking "RULES"

Ive always wanted to post something but never have b/c I didnt know how to word it correctly...

As many of you know I have older children as well as Caden James who is 21 months...

I have always found it interesting that, to the best of my knowledge, my peds took a different approach with me than they do with their "new" parents....

I spoke to one of them about it. Essentially what it came down to is this..She isnt going to tell someone who has been a mother, longer than she has been a doctor, what to do..

We all figure out on our own what works for us and for our children. I think as a mother herself she knows that not everything can be/should be done by the book...especially when that book is constantly being rewritten.

I guess my point is...do what works for you and for your child/children...and dont feel guilty about it...

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Great post!

BTW, I love that pic of Caden in your avatar!!

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ITA-its all trial and error for us For instance-one of my sons most nights screas like a banshee for anywhere from 30 seconds to 5 minutes. Then he starts to whimper then falls into a deep sleep and wakes up very happy. When he was littler I would pick him up and e would quiet down because what baby doesn't love being held. Then I would play that game all night long. His sleep would suffer, mine would suffer. Once we started lettiong him cry a bit when he first goes down he sleeps so much better

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ITA!

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Good point!

I would like to add (not to create another spinoff of a spinoff!! ) that every child is different. I know we have all came here for some guidance at some point and ask what others do, what is the "norm". But we have to remember that it's not a cookie cutter. We have to adapt the traditional parenting "techniques" to our individual children. They all have different personalities, hit milestones in a different ways, etc... That does not them or us the parents any better or worst.

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Message edited 11/29/2011 8:16:00 PM.

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I agree completely, I was going to post that I didn't break any rules because I don't follow them, I trust my judgement and I trust my mothering.

Everyone has different comfort levels, they might be culturally based, or based on experience...but in the end, everyone is the best mother ever! And our kids are the best, cutest kids ever...don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

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Posted by racheeeee

I agree completely, I was going to post that I didn't break any rules because I don't follow them, I trust my judgement and I trust my mothering.

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This was myself also

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Posted by imthekevinofcindyandkevin

I was thinking about this too.

ITA. Every baby is different, they're people like that.

You don't treat every one you deal with the same so why would you do this with babies?

Guidelines? Sure but it's a total crap shot and you do what works for you. Co sleep, don't co sleep. CIO, don't CIO. Breast feed, don't breast feed.

And no one should criticize or make any one feel less of a parent because you happen to do things differently.


Remember it's us against them and they are younger so we have to stick together!

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funny - my ped said something very similar to what yours said.

Thanks for sharing that!

I agree 1000%