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alexlynn7
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Re: Spinoff to Breast Feeding post...
Posted by lipglossjunky73
OMG - I TOTALLY would do it wherever and whenever if I could... let people give me dirty looks and stare - whatever 
After years of working on my body to fulfill some standard that is almost impossible to fulfill, this is a woman's time to say - know what? It's time I use my body for ME and for feeding my child....
you took the words right out of my mouth! i totally agree.
i am also coming from a position where i never really viewed my bbs as especially sexual. so for me, breastfeeding will be giving them some kind of purpose.
i can see why people would choose NOT to do it. it's a very personal decision.
katedevine - like your dh, i was also super premature- hospitalized in an incubator for my first 6 weeks - and had to be bottle-fed. my sister and brother (born at term) were breast-fed. i like to think i turned out just as good 
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Re: Spinoff to Breast Feeding post...
Yes BM is best but it isn't going to guarantee your child's going to Havard nor is FF going to cause your kid to flunk out of school. I think we all need to drop the I was FF and I turned out fine argument already.
I don't think anyone should be made to feel guilty for giving formual over breast but at the same time I think us nursing mothers need more support with BF. I think too many mothers throw in the towel from lack of support, lack of education, pressure from family and friends to bottle feed, and just society's overall negative attitude towards it.
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Re: Spinoff to Breast Feeding post...
Posted by Disneygirl
Yes BM is best but it isn't going to guarantee your child's going to Havard nor is FF going to cause your kid to flunk out of school. I think we all need to drop the I was FF and I turned out fine argument already.
I don't think anyone should be made to feel guilty for giving formual over breast but at the same time I think us nursing mothers need more support with BF. I think too many mothers throw in the towel from lack of support, lack of education, pressure from family and friends to bottle feed, and just society's overall negative attitude towards it.
well said!! 
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Re: Spinoff to Breast Feeding post...
Posted by Disneygirl
Yes BM is best but it isn't going to guarantee your child's going to Havard nor is FF going to cause your kid to flunk out of school. I think we all need to drop the I was FF and I turned out fine argument already.
I don't think anyone should be made to feel guilty for giving formual over breast but at the same time I think us nursing mothers need more support with BF. I think too many mothers throw in the towel from lack of support, lack of education, pressure from family and friends to bottle feed, and just society's overall negative attitude towards it.
Very well said.
I plan on trying to breastfeed and I'm already kind of appalled at how strong the opinions are on both sides.
It makes me uncomfortable to talk about with people because I feel they are going to push their views on me one way or the other. 
It's 2nd only in hot topics to being a SAHM or not.
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| Posted 2/19/07 7:49 PM |
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Re: Spinoff to Breast Feeding post...
This whole controversy does shock me too - I mean, BFing is not a new concept, and neither is FF. Its just like choosing to go natural for child birth... let people do whatever they want - why is there such controversy over it? They are just boobs, after all... Its ok for us to see them squished all over the tabloids and media... If I wanted to wear some cleavage bearing ho-dress, everyone would be like, aw yeah, but then if I wipped it out to feed my child, its disgusting all of a sudden? I don't get it....
I was watching the E true Hollywood on Demi Moore the other day, and they discussed the famous Vanity Fair cover where she is nude with her big preggo belly, and how it made a pregnant woman look sexual, and thats where people flipped out. But, if she were not pregnant, just nude with her arms covering herself strategically, it would have been alright.
Its amazing how hung up people get - there are double standards within double standards....
I mean, we all had sex to get pregnant, but pregnant women are not allowed to be sexual.
We are allowed to sex up our curves and boobs, but god forbid we use them for what they are for, in public no less - the same public that loves to see women bearing it all, and it becomes gross or inappropriate.
Please don't flame me or get angry - I am all for whatever anyone wants to do, and I intend on FFing, but I just get so amazed at how much this subject becomes such a SUBJECT!
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| Posted 2/19/07 7:57 PM |
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CkGm
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Re: Spinoff to Breast Feeding post...
Honestly, I don't see what other people's opinons matter, other than DH. I know there are those who don't believe in breastfeeding, find it weird whatever. I could care less.
I feed my daughter in my own living room no matter who is present. If they have problems with it, so be it. Don't come in my home.
I also breast feed in public- not overtly, but still do it. I am feeding my daughter, not having a peep show.
Just my two cents on this matter.
Oh, I also supplement with formula occasionally so I completely support that camp as well.
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| Posted 2/19/07 8:20 PM |
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Re: Spinoff to Breast Feeding post...
Posted by lipglossjunky73
It's time I use my body for ME and for feeding my child....
Well said! And you know what?? That's exactly why those things are there in the first place. Why do you guys think women have breasts in the first thing? ;) Not for sex at all! They were put on our chest by mother nature in order to to feed our babies.
I am European too, as a few of other posters on this thread, and all women in my family BFed. There were never any questions as to will you or will you not. That's just something you do, naturally. Same as you don't chose to carry the baby in the uterus, it's the only place where you can carry it.
So, in fact, until a few years ago, I had no idea there was such thing as formula and the whole BF vs FF debate, and I have been in this country for many years.
I think that, besides the formula propaganda of the 70s and yearly 80s, America's preoccupation with breasts is also what is turning a lot of women off breastfeeding. To them, breasts are only sexual and they can't see past it. In Europe, breasts are just breasts, not a big deal, they are definitely sexual as well, but they are not made into this huge taboo because of their extremely sexually elevated status. You can see nipples on TV, there are nude beaches. Nobody makes a big deal out of it. That's why I think European women are less uptight about BF. Of course, it also helps that they see a vast majority of other wopmen around them BF as well.
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alexlynn7
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Re: Spinoff to Breast Feeding post...
Posted by lipglossjunky73
I just get so amazed at how much this subject becomes such a SUBJECT!
me too... i am new to this board and new to the whole pregnancy thing, and i guess i never realized that BF vs FF is such a hot topic. i never really THOUGHT about it - i always knew i wanted to try BF, but i know plenty of people who didn't, and i never thought anything of it, positive OR negative.
it seems to me that, in the end, whatever choice is best for the mother will be best for the baby.
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| Posted 2/19/07 8:30 PM |
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Re: Spinoff to Breast Feeding post...
Not pregnant yet but when I do have children I have absolutely no intention of breastfeeding. I have no opinion on those who choose to but for me it's the best decision for a number of reasons. I do not want to be the sole source of nutrition for my child but rather both of his/her parents. I also don't want to be the one who has to get up 90% of the time during the night to feed and I also want DH to 'bond' with the baby as much as I do. IMO, DH and I will collectively be better parents for not BF'ing.
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| Posted 2/19/07 8:42 PM |
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karacg
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Re: Spinoff to Breast Feeding post...
Posted by babyhopeful
Not pregnant yet but when I do have children I have absolutely no intention of breastfeeding. I have no opinion on those who choose to but for me it's the best decision for a number of reasons. I do not want to be the sole source of nutrition for my child but rather both of his/her parents. I also don't want to be the one who has to get up 90% of the time during the night to feed and I also want DH to 'bond' with the baby as much as I do. IMO, DH and I will collectively be better parents for not BF'ing.
Well that's why I plan to pump - so DH can feed the baby often as well.
Getting back to the original question (I plan to BF but believe it is a personal decision and nobody has the right to tell someone else what to do) -- I think breasts in the US are "taboo" - no topless bathing at the beaches for example. I could just see a lawsuit from some crazy overly-conservative mom agains a woman because her child saw that woman's breast when she was BFing. Oh my Lord!! What a shock! We in the US need to get over our uptight attitude over BFing. And other things as well.
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| Posted 2/19/07 10:10 PM |
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Re: Spinoff to Breast Feeding post...
i think people definitely need to be better educated on the topic. Honestly, since i started researching this, my attitude about it has basically done a 180... and i'm not even PG or TTC... i'm just more enlightened about the reality of it, and i guess more empathetic to the challenges that BFing mom face. 
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Re: Spinoff to Breast Feeding post...
Posted by sweetness
We are taught that boobs are sexual objects and made for sex and for our husbands, not to feed children.
Sweetness, hope you don't mind if I paraphrase your post I honestly think this is what its about. In the US there is so much attention paid to physical appearance and being sexy for men. I think most women have viewed their bbs as Michelle said above and are grossed out at the idea of a sexual body part being used to feed their baby.
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Re: Spinoff to Breast Feeding post...
Posted by karacg
(I plan to BF but believe it is a personal decision and nobody has the right to tell someone else what to do)
I'm totally with you here (and as a BFer)! As women we need to support the choices of our fellow women. We shouldn't pass judgment, it only leads to defeat.
I know how to eat healthy, I know all the benefits of it, but it doesn't mean I always do it.
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| Posted 2/20/07 1:30 PM |
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I plan on BFing for the child's health benefits and to save the cost of formula too. But I cant see BFing in front of anyone else besides DH. I guess thats what the pumps are for sometimes.
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Re: Spinoff to Breast Feeding post...
Posted by CkGm
Honestly, I don't see what other people's opinons matter, other than DH. I know there are those who don't believe in breastfeeding, find it weird whatever. I could care less.
I feed my daughter in my own living room no matter who is present. If they have problems with it, so be it. Don't come in my home.
I also breast feed in public- not overtly, but still do it. I am feeding my daughter, not having a peep show.
Just my two cents on this matter.
Oh, I also supplement with formula occasionally so I completely support that camp as well.
This was how I felt when I was BF my daughter, I could give a rats a$$ who didn't like what I was doing, its the best thing you can do for your child!
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Re: Spinoff to Breast Feeding post...
Posted by MelTodd604
Posted by CkGm
Honestly, I don't see what other people's opinons matter, other than DH. I know there are those who don't believe in breastfeeding, find it weird whatever. I could care less.
I feed my daughter in my own living room no matter who is present. If they have problems with it, so be it. Don't come in my home.
I also breast feed in public- not overtly, but still do it. I am feeding my daughter, not having a peep show.
Just my two cents on this matter.
Oh, I also supplement with formula occasionally so I completely support that camp as well.
This was how I felt when I was BF my daughter, I could give a rats a$$ who didn't like what I was doing, its the best thing you can do for your child!
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I have no discomfort with breastfeeding, but I cant do it in public or in front of anyone besides my husband.
I am going to try to get over that this time around b/c I think having to always pump and/or go in another room threw off my routine and was part of the cause of my decreased milk supply with my daughter. I was only able to BF her for 3 months, and I would like to go for a year this time around...
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Re: Spinoff to Breast Feeding post...
I have no discomfort breastfeeding. I live in Manhattan and I see women breastfeeding *everywhere* from Central Park to restaurants. I went back to work when she was 3 months old. Now she is 10 months. I will stop when she is a year old.
I had no issue about it because I knew how good it would be for Jordana. She never got sick before she went to daycare and I felt so comfortable taking her out because I knew she had my antibodies. It was also *so bonding* for us.
At first I never thought I would BF in public, but then I was stuck and had to do- and it was fine. I just use a blanket to cover up.
DH has no problem with it. He knows the benefits it has for Jordana.
It is a little wierd to see that your breasts were created for *this* purpose, and not for sex- but its OK. It is so wonderful.
I hope that some of you can get over the uncomfortablness of it- it is really a wonderful experience.
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Re: Spinoff to Breast Feeding post...
I've been researching this topic and was wondering how it worked out for all you ladies....
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Re: Spinoff to Breast Feeding post...
I didn't BF my son, and I don't plan on BF this next one either.
It was never an option for me. There was not an ounce of me that ever wanted to do it. I know that formula is just as good these days and I don't believe that BF makes you bond with your child more than a mother and a baby that is FF. My son and I are very very close and feeding him a bottle, and holding his little hand, is just the same to me to be honest!
I also have a huge family who came to visit ALL THE TIME. I am not the type of person who would be able to BF in public.
And lastly, I guess I'm selfish - I wanted to be able to share feeding duties with my DH and anyone else who wanted to take part in it!
HTH Gerty! 
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Re: Spinoff to Breast Feeding post...
I wasn't pregnant when this was originally posted.. but I will tell you before giving birth I was so uncomfortable at the thought of breastfeeding. I can't explain why, but the whole idea made me very uncomfortable. I decided that I was going to breastfeed DS only while in the hospital and once coming home switch to exclusive pumping. Once I breastfed DS for the first time my plans changed. He latched on right away and there was an incredible bond  I really enjoyed it and the bonding and private time I got with DS. Yes, at times it was overwhelming, but I ended up continuing for a few months.
The best advice I could give for breastfeeding is that you don't know how you will feel about it until you actually do it.
And also, don't expect your plans to work out - and thats for everything including labor plans, breastfeeding, plans for the baby... nothing went according to plan for me AT ALL! Go with the flow!
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Re: Spinoff to Breast Feeding post...
As you know -- I hoped to BF for many months. But at 5 weeks, Ale refused the breast and we had to switch to the bottle.
It's all about being able to go with the flow. Yes you have certain ideas in your head but your child's ideas may be totally different than yous! 
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| Posted 4/30/09 11:28 AM |
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Interesting. No change in me as I was speaking from experience. I bf for 11 months (#1) and 8 months (#2). I had to supplement at 8month (#1) and 5 months (#2).
I get that people aren't comfortable with their bodies & some don't want to give it a shot. However, I always found it a little strange to categorizes a breast as purely sexual, when its purpose is to nurse a child. Lucky for me my breasts can multi-task. (Lauren don't read that)
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Re: Spinoff to Breast Feeding post...
I was not an original responder since I was on the IF board at the time, but I will give my feedback now as I was one of the ones who had to totally change from what my expectations were.
My boys were born early and in NICU I started pumping right away. For the 1st few days I got NOTHING at all. We were also very concerned with weight gain so I ended up giving them BM and then topping them off with formula. I BF Declan a few times but the NICU actually discouraged it because they said it burned too many calories
I had great expectations of a vag birth and putting both babies to breast at the same time. Well that didn't work out. I had an emergency c-section because of preeclampsia and then my babies couldn't nurse. I didn't even put Ronan to breast until he was 9 days old.
I did try to BF them together but cause they were so little it was REALLY hard -they were so floppy and I needed to hold them on the boob. I began pumping after feeding them pumped bottles. Around 9 weeks D was diagnosed with a milk allergy and i had to put him on nutramigen AA while i went off dairy-which I did religiously for 6 weeks. Unfortunately when we put him back on BM he still reacted to it and I had to put him on AA permanently. I still pump for Ronan and he has about 4 bottles of BM a day and any others are Good Start formula.
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Re: Spinoff to Breast Feeding post...
I didn't try very hard to BF DS#1 bc I had a breast reduction and though I wouldn't be able to. The few times that I tried he had latching issues and I just didn't have the energy to pump regularly to help my supply. So when I got pregnant with #2, I really was excited to to try. We were doing good in the hospital, but then he was sent to NICU for his jaundice. He spent 2 weeks in the hospital, while at the same time DS#1 was home sick with pneumonia. I was so stressed and when he came home my supply was almost non existent.
If we have another child, I hope to give it another try. I would really love to be successful at it, if given the opportunity again.
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