LIFamilies.com - Long Island, NY


RSS
Articles Business Directory Blog Real Estate Community Forum Shop My Family Contests

Log In Chat Index Search Rules Lingo Create Account

Quick navigation:   

Spinoff to kids in Church - a Q for parents

Posted By Message

SweetestOfPeas
J'taime Paris!

Member since 3/06

32345 total posts

Name:

Spinoff to kids in Church - a Q for parents

if you're at the grocery store and you have a toddler who starts screaming, how do you handle it? I understand that if you're in the middle of food shopping, you can't just take the kid outside.

I was at S&S last week and this little kid, probably about 3 or 4 was screaming bloody murder!!!! up and down every single aisle. the kid just walked behind his mom tears streaming down his face and what he was saying was barely audible. I guess the mom just gave up trying to calm him and ignored the kid.

how would you have handled this?

Posted 3/20/07 4:07 PM
 
Long Island Weddings
Long Island's Largest Bridal Resource

Stacey1403
Where it all began....

Member since 5/05

24065 total posts

Name:

Re: Spinoff to kids in Church - a Q for parents

Easy, my DH does our food shopping while I stay home with the kidsChat Icon


IMHO I would never take my kids food shopping. That just equals stress to meChat Icon

Posted 3/20/07 4:09 PM
 

QuoteTheRaven424
22 Months?!!!!

Member since 5/05

13659 total posts

Name:
And If That Isn't A True Blue Miracle

Re: Spinoff to kids in Church - a Q for parents

yeah, we said that when we have them

NO grocery shopping Chat Icon

but in THIS case, unlike church, i think it's OK to let the kid scream and do nothing

9 times out of 10, the kid wants something, whether it be a toy, cookies, or a box of frosted flakes Chat Icon

if you give in and give it to him/her to shut them up, that sends the message that a tantrum gets me what I want

Posted 3/20/07 4:11 PM
 

4ForMe
:)

Member since 11/05

5666 total posts

Name:
Barbara

Re: Spinoff to kids in Church - a Q for parents

Posted by Stacey1403

Easy, my DH does our food shopping while I stay home with the kidsChat Icon


IMHO I would never take my kids food shopping. That just equals stress to meChat Icon



I agree - I used to try to go either when he was home and could stay with the kids, or he would just stop on his way home from work.

But, if I was that mother you saw in the store, I probably would have just packed up my child and left. I can't think straight enough to shop when my kids act like that.

Posted 3/20/07 4:14 PM
 

nrthshgrl
It goes fast. Pay attention.

Member since 7/05

57538 total posts

Name:

Re: Spinoff to kids in Church - a Q for parents

Posted by Stacey1403

Easy, my DH does our food shopping while I stay home with the kidsChat Icon


IMHO I would never take my kids food shopping. That just equals stress to meChat Icon



For the most part, same here

The tantrums are usually because they want something & you haven't put it in the cart.

The way I handle it is I lie. I tell them that the candy is only for the employees. When they cry "So I can't have any?" I say "Of course you can. You can get a job here when you get older & you can have all of the candy you want."

Most parents are against lying. I'm not. According to my kids, restaurants are equipped with spanking rooms as well.

Posted 3/20/07 4:14 PM
 

steph4777
**************

Member since 5/05

11726 total posts

Name:
Stephanie

Re: Spinoff to kids in Church - a Q for parents

I try to go shopping without DS. Right now if I do have to go with him, I just bring him a toy and his pacifier. Luckily we've never had a meltdown in public yet.

If he did ever act up, I'd take him to a remote part of the store and whisper in his ear what's going to happen to him if he doesn't stop. I think if you nip tantrums when they are young, you won't have kids who act up like that all time.

Posted 3/20/07 4:15 PM
 

SweetestOfPeas
J'taime Paris!

Member since 3/06

32345 total posts

Name:

Re: Spinoff to kids in Church - a Q for parents

Posted by nrthshgrl


The way I handle it is I lie. I tell them that the candy is only for the employees. When they cry "So I can't have any?" I say "Of course you can. You can get a job here when you get older & you can have all of the candy you want."

OMG that's GREAT!!!!! Chat Icon I'll have to remember that one! I may have to steal it someday - I HOPE Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 3/20/07 4:17 PM
 

Shelly
She's 7!!!

Member since 8/05

14624 total posts

Name:

Re: Spinoff to kids in Church - a Q for parents

In a supermarket, I dont have a problem listening to kids scream. Its not a place (like church/temple/library/etc...) where quiet is expected.

Now Jordana is only a year, but I have seen her tantrums when I deny her something she wants to play with (like the garbage pail or a shoe) and I fear what I am going to have to go through when she is 3 or 4. But its part of being a parent.

Its a tough call for parents- we get chastized for bothering everyone else- but we also get chastized for giving in and raising brats. I still hear that song from Willy Wonka- "Who do you blame when your kid is a brat? Pampered and spoiled like a Siamese cat? Blaming the child is a lie and a shame You know exactly who’s… to… blame ... the MOTHER AND THE FATHER"

So I guess I will try to calmher down- try to explain what is going on, maybe lie, bring her toys to entertain her- but if nothing works- then I would just go on with my shopping.

Posted 3/20/07 4:45 PM
 

MsMBV
:P

Member since 5/05

28602 total posts

Name:
Me

Re: Spinoff to kids in Church - a Q for parents

I have not had my baby yet, but....

When I was about 3 I threw a fit in the grocery store & my mom actually abandoned her cart in the middle of the produce section, put me in the car & took me home. About 1/2 way home I said, "OK I am better we can finish shopping" & my mom was like, "No, you are going home & into your room for the exact amount of time you made me waste in the store." I NEVER threw a tantrum in a store ever again.

My mom then went shopping when my father got home.

Posted 3/20/07 5:08 PM
 

CathyB

Member since 5/05

19403 total posts

Name:

Re: Spinoff to kids in Church - a Q for parents

So far (knock on wood) we haven't had any huge meltdowns in a store. It probably helps that I bring a cup of cheerios with us so she is somewhat occupied. Plus I tend to ask her what she sees, what color different boxes are, she holds the list for me, etc.

We did have one in a restaurant shortly after ordering and I just packed her up and home we went. It was my fault for stopping by one more store and then we had to wait for a table, so she was hungry and cranky. The person I was with appologized to the waiter and paid for our sodas and gave him what we guessed the tip on the whole meal would have been.

I have already told DH that if we have a meltdown in a store I'm just going to leave the store. It's not fair to the other shoppers, and I'm not going to give in to her demands.

Posted 3/20/07 5:15 PM
 

leighdvm
My golden boys!

Member since 3/06

4419 total posts

Name:
Michele

Re: Spinoff to kids in Church - a Q for parents

I always feel for the parents who are in this situation......However, I remember when i was a kid, if I ever tried that, my mother would have kicked me azz once I got in the car! Back in the day, my mom was no joke! Chat Icon

Posted 3/20/07 5:17 PM
 

Palebride
I am an amazing bakist

Member since 5/05

13673 total posts

Name:
Lori

Re: Spinoff to kids in Church - a Q for parents

Posted by MsMBV

I have not had my baby yet, but....

When I was about 3 I threw a fit in the grocery store & my mom actually abandoned her cart in the middle of the produce section, put me in the car & took me home. About 1/2 way home I said, "OK I am better we can finish shopping" & my mom was like, "No, you are going home & into your room for the exact amount of time you made me waste in the store." I NEVER threw a tantrum in a store ever again.

My mom then went shopping when my father got home.



Perfect!!
That's exactly what i would do.

Growing up, we were warned as we walked into a store what would happen to us if we misbehaved....so we were good.

Posted 3/20/07 5:30 PM
 

PatsBrat
LIF Adult

Member since 10/06

2326 total posts

Name:
Ms. Brat

Re: Spinoff to kids in Church - a Q for parents

As a mother of a tantrum prone toddler, I have to find ways to get things done regardless, because I don't have the option to leave my kids with my husband very often.

When my son tantrums I ignore him. It may not be what you or anyone else wants to hear, and believe me, if I'm in church, at a ceremony of some type, or any other place that commands respect or a semi quiet environment i act accordingly, but to react is giving him what he wants ~ attention ~ which fuels his fire. If I try to appease him he gets 900 times worse.

For the most part, my kids are extremely well behaved in public because it is a rare day when I let them run the show.

Posted 3/20/07 5:59 PM
 

burberrygirl
so happy!!

Member since 1/07

2091 total posts

Name:
Mommy

Re: Spinoff to kids in Church - a Q for parents

thanks I am not at that stage yet.

Posted 3/20/07 6:03 PM
 

joenick
Us

Member since 6/06

9370 total posts

Name:
Valerie...aka...Do Me A Favor?

Re: Spinoff to kids in Church - a Q for parents

Posted by Stacey1403

Easy, my DH does our food shopping while I stay home with the kidsChat Icon


IMHO I would never take my kids food shopping. That just equals stress to meChat Icon



Same here!! I haven't been food shopping since 2002 when my first child was born!Chat Icon

Posted 3/20/07 6:06 PM
 

Maathy317
Grammie's Little Man

Member since 2/06

3235 total posts

Name:
D

Re: Spinoff to kids in Church - a Q for parents

In all honesty, I never had this problem. One time, and one time only, my oldest daughter demanded I give her something NOW that I was buying for her. I put the item on the counter, grabbed her by the hand, walked out of the store, got down on her level, put my face in hers and told her she was NEVER to act that way again. She was about 3. I never had another problem after that. My children were taught from a very early age how to behave in public. I could take them anywhere and never had to leave because of their behaviour. Were they perfect? Of course not. They were children, but, they knew not to cross a certain line. I would never have put up with a screaming, tantrum throwing, down on the floor kicking child. If I said no, they knew I meant it and that was the last word. I never ignored inappropriate behaviour. I would deal with it at that time and they learned what was acceptable and what was not.

Posted 3/20/07 6:08 PM
 

MrsPowers
So blessed!

Member since 11/06

10348 total posts

Name:
Ivelysse

Re: Spinoff to kids in Church - a Q for parents

Posted by nrthshgrl

Posted by Stacey1403

Easy, my DH does our food shopping while I stay home with the kidsChat Icon


IMHO I would never take my kids food shopping. That just equals stress to meChat Icon



For the most part, same here

The tantrums are usually because they want something & you haven't put it in the cart.

The way I handle it is I lie. I tell them that the candy is only for the employees. When they cry "So I can't have any?" I say "Of course you can. You can get a job here when you get older & you can have all of the candy you want."

Most parents are against lying. I'm not. According to my kids, restaurants are equipped with spanking rooms as well.



I like both of those lines! Good ones! I may need to use those someday!!

Posted 3/20/07 6:10 PM
 
 

Potentially Related Topics:

Topic Posted By Started Replies Forum
Parents that have travelled with their kids Tany 1/9/07 6 Parenting
Spinoff from "super sweet 16" and parents spoiling their kids SweetestOfPeas 1/7/07 23 Families Helping Families ™
Parents of kids around 6 months Shelly 10/5/06 10 Parenting
Attenion parents of school age kids(i would say 6th grade and up) did you hear about this janet 6/3/06 74 Families Helping Families ™
Parents with kids who have lost their teeth - weird question CathyB 2/26/06 1 Parenting
Parents and their SIXTEEN kids video on CNN MrsJ 10/14/05 1 Families Helping Families ™
 
Quick navigation:   
Currently 261447 users on the LIFamilies.com Chat
New Businesses
1 More Rep
Carleton Hall of East Islip
J&A Building Services
LaraMae Health Coaching
Sonic Wellness
Julbaby Photography LLC
Ideal Uniforms
Teresa Geraghty Photography
Camelot Dream Homes
Long Island Wedding Boutique
MB Febus- Rodan & Fields
Camp Harbor
Market America-Shop.com
ACM Basement Waterproofing
Travel Tom

      Follow LIWeddings on Facebook

      Follow LIFamilies on Twitter
Long Island Bridal Shows