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Lucky09
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Spinoff to kinda WR... Ever asked to be in a wedding you didn't support?
Were you ever asked to be a MOH or Bridesmaid in a wedding you didn't really support?
What did you / would you do?
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Posted 12/27/06 10:24 AM  |
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jxnoscar
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Re: Spinoff to kinda WR... Ever asked to be in a wedding you didn't support?
I have not been, but I guess I would say yes, even if I didnt agree to it. I don't kknow if I would be willing to lose a friendship over something like this. I mean at the end of the day I am not marrying the guy she is.
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| Posted 12/27/06 10:25 AM |
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Phyl
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Re: Spinoff to kinda WR... Ever asked to be in a wedding you didn't support?
Thankfully NO. If I didn't support the wedding for whatever reason, I wouldn't accept an invitation to participate in it or even attend it.
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| Posted 12/27/06 10:25 AM |
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lululu
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Re: Spinoff to kinda WR... Ever asked to be in a wedding you didn't support?
Yes I was and for the most part, I kept my mouth shut about my feelings. When the bride needed an ear to listen to her vent I was there for her, but I tried to keep my opinions to myself.
Eventually the bride ended up calling it off - THANK GOD.
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| Posted 12/27/06 10:27 AM |
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lululu
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Re: Spinoff to kinda WR... Ever asked to be in a wedding you didn't support?
Posted by atracinact
Thankfully NO. If I didn't support the wedding for whatever reason, I wouldn't accept an invitation to participate in it or even attend it.
Really? I feel like that is a little harsh.... You would end a friendship because you didnt support her choice in a husband?
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| Posted 12/27/06 10:28 AM |
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Juliet
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Re: Spinoff to kinda WR... Ever asked to be in a wedding you didn't support?
Yes, and thankfully it worked out alright.
I wasn't really against the couple being together but the big problem was that the groom wasn't divorced from his first wife yet and they were making plans to be married. He got his divorce decree 10 days before the wedding.
Now they are happy but back then I was really feeling uneasy about being in the wedding.
The most difficult thing is that this was my brother
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| Posted 12/27/06 10:29 AM |
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june262004
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Re: Spinoff to kinda WR... Ever asked to be in a wedding you didn't support?
Posted by lululu
Yes I was and for the most part, I kept my mouth shut about my feelings. When the bride needed an ear to listen to her vent I was there for her, but I tried to keep my opinions to myself.
Ditto
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| Posted 12/27/06 10:29 AM |
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Christine
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Re: Spinoff to kinda WR... Ever asked to be in a wedding you didn't support?
I would support my friend and be there for her by accepting her invitation.
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| Posted 12/27/06 10:30 AM |
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Phyl
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Re: Spinoff to kinda WR... Ever asked to be in a wedding you didn't support?
Posted by lululu
Posted by atracinact
Thankfully NO. If I didn't support the wedding for whatever reason, I wouldn't accept an invitation to participate in it or even attend it.
Really? I feel like that is a little harsh.... You would end a friendship because you didnt support her choice in a husband?
If I had knowledge of abuse in any way-physical or chemical I would not be able to support that relationship. It is just something I feel strongly about.
ETA" Doestn't necessarily mean I wouldn't stop caring for a good friend. I just can't enable that kind of thing.
Message edited 12/27/2006 10:33:41 AM.
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| Posted 12/27/06 10:31 AM |
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Jax430
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Re: Spinoff to kinda WR... Ever asked to be in a wedding you didn't support?
I was a BM in a wedding that I had some concerns about, but I kept my opinions to myself. Honestly, I still have the same concerns now, and I'm there for my friend when she needs to talk, but I still keep my opinions to myself.
I think that if it was a more drastic situation (i.e. abuse), I would have had to speak up, but thankfully, that isn't the case.
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| Posted 12/27/06 10:31 AM |
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Christine
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Re: Spinoff to kinda WR... Ever asked to be in a wedding you didn't support?
Posted by atracinact
Posted by lululu
Posted by atracinact
Thankfully NO. If I didn't support the wedding for whatever reason, I wouldn't accept an invitation to participate in it or even attend it.
Really? I feel like that is a little harsh.... You would end a friendship because you didnt support her choice in a husband?
If I had knowledge of abuse in any way-physical or chemical I would not be able to support that relationship. It is just something I feel strongly about.
That makes sense, I agree with you here.
But what if it was something like a bad match??
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| Posted 12/27/06 10:32 AM |
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jxnoscar
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Re: Spinoff to kinda WR... Ever asked to be in a wedding you didn't support?
Posted by atracinact
Posted by lululu
Posted by atracinact
Thankfully NO. If I didn't support the wedding for whatever reason, I wouldn't accept an invitation to participate in it or even attend it.
Really? I feel like that is a little harsh.... You would end a friendship because you didnt support her choice in a husband?
If I had knowledge of abuse in any way-physical or chemical I would not be able to support that relationship. It is just something I feel strongly about.
I think if it was drug related or abuse related that would change my opinion too. But if I didn't like him bc he a jerk or lazy (something non threatening) I would still stand by my girl
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| Posted 12/27/06 10:32 AM |
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lululu
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Re: Spinoff to kinda WR... Ever asked to be in a wedding you didn't support?
Posted by atracinact
Posted by lululu
Posted by atracinact
Thankfully NO. If I didn't support the wedding for whatever reason, I wouldn't accept an invitation to participate in it or even attend it.
Really? I feel like that is a little harsh.... You would end a friendship because you didnt support her choice in a husband?
If I had knowledge of abuse in any way-physical or chemical I would not be able to support that relationship. It is just something I feel strongly about.
Yes I agree in the case of abuse. But other than that, I would support my friends no matter how bad I thought their choices were. In your original post you said if you didnt support it for "whatever reason" not specifically in cases of abuse.
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| Posted 12/27/06 10:33 AM |
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Phyl
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Re: Spinoff to kinda WR... Ever asked to be in a wedding you didn't support?
Posted by lululu
Posted by atracinact
Posted by lululu
Posted by atracinact
Thankfully NO. If I didn't support the wedding for whatever reason, I wouldn't accept an invitation to participate in it or even attend it.
Really? I feel like that is a little harsh.... You would end a friendship because you didnt support her choice in a husband?
If I had knowledge of abuse in any way-physical or chemical I would not be able to support that relationship. It is just something I feel strongly about.
Yes I agree in the case of abuse. But other than that, I would support my friends no matter how bad I thought their choices were. In your original post you said if you didnt support it for "whatever reason" not specifically in cases of abuse.
I should have been more specific! Of course if I had a friend that was marrying someone with a "personality malfunction" I would wish her the best of course...and always be there for her too!
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Ladybug63
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Re: Spinoff to kinda WR... Ever asked to be in a wedding you didn't support?
I was asked to be the MOH in a friends wedding. I told her I couldn't be her MOH and left it open if I would even be in her wedding party. I told her I was planning a family & it wouldn't be a good time for me & I wouldn't be there for her like I should.
We left it at that as she wasn't getting married for 2 yrs.
This past summer she put me on the spot in front of others and asked me to be in her wedding party. I said yes and a few weeks later backed out. I do not support her wedding. I do not think she should be getting married.
I know this is not my decision & if the groom knew about her and was ok w/ it I could support her but knowing he has no clue and her behavior I cannot stand up in church and bless her marriage. I feel it cheapens the sacrament.
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| Posted 12/27/06 10:39 AM |
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lululu
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Re: Spinoff to kinda WR... Ever asked to be in a wedding you didn't support?
Posted by atracinact
I should have been more specific! Of course if I had a friend that was marrying someone with a "personality malfunction" I would wish her the best of course...and always be there for her too!
Personality Malfunction - I like that!!!
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| Posted 12/27/06 11:02 AM |
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Phyl
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Re: Spinoff to kinda WR... Ever asked to be in a wedding you didn't support?
Posted by lululu
Posted by atracinact
I should have been more specific! Of course if I had a friend that was marrying someone with a "personality malfunction" I would wish her the best of course...and always be there for her too!
Personality Malfunction - I like that!!!
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MrsSchwags
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Re: Spinoff to kinda WR... Ever asked to be in a wedding you didn't support?
I am in that situation now. I don't really support for very good reasons.
but its family and she was in mine.
I'm secretly hoping they cancel or wait a little longer.
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| Posted 12/27/06 11:05 AM |
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Re: Spinoff to kinda WR... Ever asked to be in a wedding you didn't support?
I wouldnt... I cant be fake when it comes to life decisions.
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| Posted 12/27/06 11:06 AM |
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baghag
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Re: Spinoff to kinda WR... Ever asked to be in a wedding you didn't support?
If it's a personality malfunction (good word, Phyl!), I'll suck it up and deal with it like a big girl.
If it's abuse of some kind, then I'd tell my friend why I couldn't support the wedding.
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| Posted 12/27/06 11:09 AM |
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trnity44
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Re: Spinoff to kinda WR... Ever asked to be in a wedding you didn't support?
Yes, I have. I kept my mouth shut and didnt say a word. The bride is a really good friend of mine- and I wanted to be there to support her.
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| Posted 12/27/06 11:14 AM |
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Emily
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Re: Spinoff to kinda WR... Ever asked to be in a wedding you didn't support?
I was in a shotgun wedding....I don't support getting married quickly because there is a bun in the oven. People should marry for love. I was in the wedding anyways.
If you are talking about not supporting the relationship because you did not like the individual your friend was marrying, I would still be in the wedding. Just because I don't like the bride or groom, does not give me a right to upset my friend.
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| Posted 12/27/06 11:17 AM |
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MsMBV
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Re: Spinoff to kinda WR... Ever asked to be in a wedding you didn't support?
Yes. And I respectfully declined. I just said that I'd be happy to share their day as a guest but the timing was bad for me to be "in the wedding" & not fair to accept. OK so I lied but it worked out for the best.
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| Posted 12/27/06 12:27 PM |
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steph4777
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Re: Spinoff to kinda WR... Ever asked to be in a wedding you didn't support?
Yes.... I was actually the MOH. It's not that I ddin't support the wedding but I thought my GF was overly critical of her FH at the time. It got to the point where I thought that he could find someone better who would appreciate and accept him for who he was. He didn't finish his BA yet and she was embarrassed to have him met her extended family. I was so annoyed with her being so concerned about what other people would think about him. In the end, she got over it but I was tempted to tell her that I thought SHE was not good enough for him bc she cared too much about keeping up with the Jones'
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| Posted 12/27/06 12:48 PM |
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J9-13
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Re: Spinoff to kinda WR... Ever asked to be in a wedding you didn't support?
I have never been asked to be in a wedding that I did not support. If these people are important to me, I would do it regardless
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