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My2Boys
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Re: Spinoff to the spinoff...pregnancy announcements?
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Posted by Beth1210
I wouldn't do that to my sister - and she wouldn't do that to me
I would not tell her something like in the situation-
I would be more concerned about the baby in NICU
but of course- when things calmed down- we would be very happy for the newly prego sister
I should say in my family we try to be very sensitive to anything like this- we don't have my Mom with us- so even a happy occassion - like a new baby- is not the same for us- it's sad but true
i agree - i'd be annoyed if our child was still in NICU and all wasn't clear yet
once everything was OK, let the party begin
I agree. I think the "timing" of her announcement is what's important.
Like Beth's family, my family is very sensitive to each other's feelings. I have 5 sisters and not one of them would have announced their pg (even with their 1st), if there was even the slightest chance that my new baby was in danger. Quite frankly, *I* would have waited until my sister's baby was out of NICU and at home before sharing the news.
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Re: Spinoff to the spinoff...pregnancy announcements?
Posted by dita
Posted by mrsmck
I'd wish her congratulations and a healthy 9 months.
I would hope that would be my reaction but I've never been in such a stressful situation so who knows I'd respond.
ITA.
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| Posted 3/3/08 10:03 PM |
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Re: Spinoff to the spinoff...pregnancy announcements?
Posted by My2Boys
I agree. I think the "timing" of her announcement is what's important.
Like Beth's family, my family is very sensitive to each other's feelings. I have 5 sisters and not one of them would have announced their pg (even with their 1st), if there was even the slightest chance that my new baby was in danger. Quite frankly, *I* would have waited until my sister's baby was out of NICU and at home before sharing the news.
I agree with this & anna's sentiments on what was the intent behind it.
eta. no matter what my feeling were, I would wish her the happy & healthy 9 months, it's only a matter of whether I would feel punched in the stomach at that point or not.
Message edited 3/3/2008 10:06:57 PM.
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Re: Spinoff to the spinoff...pregnancy announcements?
I don't think there would have been a right time for her to say anything. Maybe she knew there was a risk of someone else blurting out her news and she wanted to be the one to tell?
My SIL and I were due to give birth 2 months apart from each other. When I was hospitalized during my pg, I had to let her know how difficult it was for me to see a pg woman, even one I loved. She only came to see me once respecting and understanding what I needed at the time. And when I gave birth to my son who only ever lived in the NICU - I put my feelings aside about seeing her so she could come to the NICU to meet her nephew. My SIL gave birth and my nephew was born 3 weeks after my son died in the NICU so having to go back to a hospital and the maternity ward to share in my brother and SIL's happiness, while EXTREMELY hard and difficult, was something I would not have missed for the world. I was able to temporarily find happiness through my tears (and believe me, the tears just continued to come) was a bit therapeutic. It also helped me remember that what I was going through was not all my immediate family had to deal with at the time.
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Re: Spinoff to the spinoff...pregnancy announcements?
Donna  
no words... just hugs.. thanks for sharing that.. 
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Re: Spinoff to the spinoff...pregnancy announcements?
Posted by dooodles
I don't think there would have been a right time for her to say anything. Maybe she knew there was a risk of someone else blurting out her news and she wanted to be the one to tell?
My SIL and I were due to give birth 2 months apart from each other. When I was hospitalized during my pg, I had to let her know how difficult it was for me to see a pg woman, even one I loved. She only came to see me once respecting and understanding what I needed at the time. And when I gave birth to my son who only ever lived in the NICU - I put my feelings aside about seeing her so she could come to the NICU to meet her nephew. My SIL gave birth and my nephew was born 3 weeks after my son died in the NICU so having to go back to a hospital and the maternity ward to share in my brother and SIL's happiness, while EXTREMELY hard and difficult, was something I would not have missed for the world. I was able to temporarily find happiness through my tears (and believe me, the tears just continued to come) was a bit therapeutic. It also helped me remember that what I was going through was not all my immediate family had to deal with at the time.
And that is why you are SUCH an amazing human being and I love you dearly  
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Re: Spinoff to the spinoff...pregnancy announcements?
Posted by MrsR
Posted by mrsmck
I'd wish her congratulations and a healthy 9 months.
Me too!
me too!
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Re: Spinoff to the spinoff...pregnancy announcements?
Posted by mrsmck
I'd wish her congratulations and a healthy 9 months.
Me too
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Re: Spinoff to the spinoff...pregnancy announcements?
Posted by KarissaD
Posted by mrsmck
I'd wish her congratulations and a healthy 9 months.
Me too.
same here!!
I think I would be excited that my son/daughter will have a cousin so close in age! 
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Re: Spinoff to the spinoff...pregnancy announcements?
Posted by mrsmck
I'd wish her congratulations and a healthy 9 months.
Me too! I would be so excited for my sister.
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Re: Spinoff to the spinoff...pregnancy announcements?
I would be upset with my sister thinking to announce that at that moment. Even if the baby wasnt in Nicu, i think she could wait until another day to announce her pregnancy. This is the mom who just delivered day with her baby. Pregnancy is 9m and can wait until later to announce, doesnt have to be at that exact time. I would be very upset if someone did that to me.
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MetsGirl07
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Re: Spinoff to the spinoff...pregnancy announcements?
WOW... this exact thing just happened to me a month ago 
my sister had a baby in feb and he was put in NICU.. he had fluid in his lungs.. hooked up to machines and such..
WELL , i just found out i was pregnant a day before.. and i did NOT want to say anything to her or my family while the baby was still in NICU.. i wanted to wait it out.. and thats what i did.. as soon as the baby went home.. and they were settled in.. i called her up with the good news.. she was so happy for me!!
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Re: Spinoff to the spinoff...pregnancy announcements?
I'm not sure announcing you're PG when everyone is in vigl over a baby in NICU is good timing. The tactful thing to do would be to wait until the little one comes through and is home with mommy and daddy, then the announcement will add to the happiness. JMO.
I think when someone is facing the possibility of losing a child, it's not the time to make ANY kind of announcement.
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Re: Spinoff to the spinoff...pregnancy announcements?
I would wish her all the best and a happy and HEALTHY pregnancy! I would be truly happy for her...and that I am going to be an auntie again. The fact that she is announcing her joy will not in any way overshadow my joy, despite the fact that there are some complications.
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Re: Spinoff to the spinoff...pregnancy announcements?
Posted by mrsmck
I'd wish her congratulations and a healthy 9 months.
Same here!
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MommyofG
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Re: Spinoff to the spinoff...pregnancy announcements?
I would wish her the best. sometimes peoples emotions get the best of them and maybe she wanted to shed some happiness in a time of sadness( with her timing or place of announcement).
a pregnancy is a blessing and should never feel like it may be a bad thing to announce or share.
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Re: Spinoff to the spinoff...pregnancy announcements?
Honestly, I thought it was selfish. I mean, yes, it's a happy time, but the day I had the baby? And yes my baby was fine, thank goodness.
If you knew her, you'd probably see what I was saying. It was more the attention was off her for 5 minutes so she HAD to get it back on her.
I guess I should be grateful. I mean I had my shower the day before I had the baby (not planned that way) and she didn't announce it at my shower.
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JenBenMen
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Re: Spinoff to the spinoff...pregnancy announcements?
congrats and move on
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Re: Spinoff to the spinoff...pregnancy announcements?
Posted by mrsmck
I'd wish her congratulations and a healthy 9 months.
same here....
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Re: Spinoff to the spinoff...pregnancy announcements?
I agree with you Sarah- that's bad timing on her part. The day Amelia was born so prematurely? Seems like she could have waited to share the news at least a few days.
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