SPR - Personal Trainer and VERY INAPPROPRIATE & GRAPHIC comment - WARNING

So now that I'm in my second trimester and feeling better, I decided to go back to the gym. I got myself 5 personal training sessions.

My 2nd session with the trainer was Wednesday. He is male and young (maybe 25)

As I was waiting for him, the manager of my gym came over and asked how I was feeling and commented on how great it was that I was back in the gym. He also said that exercising throughout would really help with labor. And I responded "yes, but I'm having a c-section, and I'm thrilled about avoiding the whole labor process and everything else that goes with it. I'm not good with the pain and gore and god knows what else".

At this point my trainer came by and overheard and chimed in with "yeah, I heard your clitoris could explode and come detached"

WHAT???????

So, he sees my face and CONTINUES with "oh, don't worry, they can reattach it and I don't think you lose any sensation."

At which point I said "ok, can you please stop? This is really not appropriate".

The rest of the session went fine. And he's otherwise a nice guy, and a good trainer, but honestly, I am really uncomfortable at the thought of my next session, which is today at 2.

Should I say something to him, the manager? Get a new trainer?

I feel bad bc I go to a small gym where everyone knows each other, sees each other working out and I don't necessarily want to get him in trouble.

I do know from the first session that his girlfriend is a nurse, and he is studyin nutrition and anatomy, and does often speak about how the body works, graphically, but always related to the muscles, tendons and training, so I don't know if he comment was completely out of left field.

It just left me feeling yucky.

WWYD?

Re: SPR - Personal Trainer and VERY INAPPROPRIATE & GRAPHIC comment - WARNING

i would probably just let it go now. you already told him his comment was inappropriate. if he made another wacked comment, however, i would consider changing trainers.

Re: SPR - Personal Trainer and VERY INAPPROPRIATE & GRAPHIC comment - WARNING

I would just forget it.

Sorry but I actually LOL at that comment. It just sounds like a weird immature comment from a guy who knows apparently nothing about having a baby!

So me laughing about it would just be me chalking it up to a stupid comment...moving along.

Re: SPR - Personal Trainer and VERY INAPPROPRIATE & GRAPHIC comment - WARNING

I'd chalk it up to another stupid thing a guy said.

Re: SPR - Personal Trainer and VERY INAPPROPRIATE & GRAPHIC comment - WARNING

***!?

That is the most random thing I have ever heard

I agree w/PP, I think if he is otherwise "normal" and doesn't make crude comments, I would let it go for now (chalk it up to a severe brain lapse ) ...BUT if he says ONE more thing, definitely tell the manager that he is very inappropriate and get a new trainer

Re: SPR - Personal Trainer and VERY INAPPROPRIATE & GRAPHIC comment - WARNING

I think if it were any another guy, I would let it go, but the fact is, this is a one on one personal trainer that I am paying A LOT of money to use.

I just can't wipe the comment from my head and it's such an intimate (ok, not quite the right word, but you get my drift) setting to be in, with one on one training.

Would it be bad if I didn't mention why, but asked if I could continue my remaining sessions with a female trainer, bc i feel she would be better suited for my needs?

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Re: SPR - Personal Trainer and VERY INAPPROPRIATE & GRAPHIC comment - WARNING

WHATTTTTT

He actually said that??!??!

And why were'nt we told that??

I personally would continue going to him and look up really disgusting things to tell him....

Like, if he starts to lift weights be like "Wow, be careful, a piece of your intestine can detatch and become permanately lodged in your ball making you have a indefinite erection" But you can fix it with surgury"

Or bring up protein shakes and stuff and be like "I hear if u take those you get small balls"

I dont know, I would be a brat but thats just me......

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Re: SPR - Personal Trainer and VERY INAPPROPRIATE & GRAPHIC comment - WARNING

Posted by jambalady

Posted by Tilde

ditto, i definitely don't think he meant any harm and really its not "crude" it IS just a body part. . .

okay, then maybe it's just me and I'm a prude.

That word just makes me feel icky!!

Re: SPR - Personal Trainer and VERY INAPPROPRIATE & GRAPHIC comment - WARNING

Re: SPR - Personal Trainer and VERY INAPPROPRIATE & GRAPHIC comment - WARNING

what an idiot to say something like that to you! I am a pretty conservative person, but I would probably chalk that one up to him being a dingbat. If he continures to make you uncomfortable or makes any other inappropriate comments I would do something more. Sorry he made you uncomfortable

Re: SPR - Personal Trainer and VERY INAPPROPRIATE & GRAPHIC comment - WARNING

if you now feel uncomfortable around him, I'd wouldnt hesitate to switch. if my trainer said that, I honestly probably would

Re: SPR - Personal Trainer and VERY INAPPROPRIATE & GRAPHIC comment - WARNING

I would have laughed so hard, I'd pee myself.

Poor kid: he has no idea. I'd say "Noooooooo..." I wonder if his mom told him that, or it was a "guy" conversation... I could see it:

"Yeah... and then, the girl's clit** explodes!"

Re: SPR - Personal Trainer and VERY INAPPROPRIATE & GRAPHIC comment - WARNING

Thank you guys for making me laugh and see this in a different light!!!

I can totally see the absurdity of the situation and the statement now, but I guess at the time, it just really threw me off!

oh, and Tilde, I didn't even realize there was slang for that body part!!

Geez - how did I even get PG in the first place????

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Re: SPR - Personal Trainer and VERY INAPPROPRIATE & GRAPHIC comment - WARNING

I would let it go, you got into the whole labor thing first, he probably felt it was ok to chime in on what you were saying. I would have died if someone said that to me don't bring up labor around him Lord knows what he woudl say next time around

Re: SPR - Personal Trainer and VERY INAPPROPRIATE & GRAPHIC comment - WARNING

I do not blame you one bit for wanting to change trainers! I'm surprised so many people would just brush it off! That comment is seriously bizarre on so many levels - first of all, it's completely false (what, is he 12 years old?), secondly, it's so personal, it's extremely socially awkward to even say that, thirdly, it's really unprofessional of him to say something like that to you as his client. I would be extremely creeped out too and would definitely not work with him again. I wouldn't want to sweat around him. You don't want to lift a weight and your cl*toris explode.

Re: SPR - Personal Trainer and VERY INAPPROPRIATE & GRAPHIC comment - WARNING

Posted by Chai77

I do not blame you one bit for wanting to change trainers! I'm surprised so many people would just brush it off! That comment is seriously bizarre on so many levels - first of all, it's completely false (what, is he 12 years old?), secondly, it's so personal, it's extremely socially awkward to even say that, thirdly, it's really unprofessional of him to say something like that to you as his client. I would be extremely creeped out too and would definitely not work with him again. I wouldn't want to sweat around him. You don't want to lift a weight and your cl*toris explode.