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menmyboys
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Nikole
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Sprinkle/Shower Question...
We had a shower (hosted by my mom) for our first and received most of everything... but now that we have twins on the way, we need double and somethings quadruple (my mom will be watching them) of everything... would it be too presumptuous of us to ask my MIL for her to host a sprinkle to help ease the cost of what's ahead of us??
ETA: A few friends are "donating" some of the bigger items, i.e. carseat and bases and exersaucers/bouncers...
There will be 2.5 yrs btwn DS1 and the twins.
Message edited 12/3/2011 7:53:58 AM.
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Re: Sprinkle/Shower Question...
i had a very small sprinkle. my mom and sisters and sil brought it up. i wouldn't have asked anyone to host it (just my personal opinion).
it was very small....immediate family and my 2 closest friends. and my mom had it at her house and my moms and mil split the cost of food.
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| Posted 12/3/11 8:01 AM |
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MelToddJulia
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Re: Sprinkle/Shower Question...
Not at all.  For twins you will need A LOT!!
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| Posted 12/3/11 8:04 AM |
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BargainMama
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Re: Sprinkle/Shower Question...
I would never, in a million years, ask someone to have a shower or sprinkle for me. JMO
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| Posted 12/3/11 8:36 AM |
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sunflowerjesss
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Re: Sprinkle/Shower Question...
My mom threw my shower when I was pregnant with DS.
When I got pregnant with the twins (girls) my mom said she wanted to throw me a sprinkle. I went along with it figuring it was generous of her to offer and we did need A LOT of stuff.
With all of that being said, I think it is hard for you to ask someone to throw a sprinkle for you. If she offered I'd say take her up on the offer, but to say "hey, we are having twins, want to throw us a party?" might be a bit bold.
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| Posted 12/3/11 9:49 AM |
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nferrandi
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Re: Sprinkle/Shower Question...
Honestly, not only would I not ask someone to throw me a party, but even if someone were throwing me one, I wouldn't register again. My friends did have a sprinkle brunch for me, as we've had for most of our friend's, but there was no registering. It was more things like clothes, books, diapers, etc... No big ticket items were purchased.
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headoverheels
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Re: Sprinkle/Shower Question...
Posted by BargainMama
I would never, in a million years, ask someone to have a shower or sprinkle for me. JMO
I agree. If they offer I think that's nice but I personally would be so embarrassed to ask someone to throw me a party for the sole purpose of getting gifts for my baby/babies.
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| Posted 12/3/11 10:03 AM |
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MrsPJB2007
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Re: Sprinkle/Shower Question...
Posted by headoverheels
Posted by BargainMama
I would never, in a million years, ask someone to have a shower or sprinkle for me. JMO
I agree. If they offer I think that's nice but I personally would be so embarrassed to ask someone to throw me a party for the sole purpose of getting gifts for my baby/babies.
Ditto on both accounts
If someone offers, go for it. But to ask someone to throw it for me I think would be in poor taste. My reasoning being that they will likely feel guilted into doing the party vs wanting to do it on their own.
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| Posted 12/3/11 10:09 AM |
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menmyboys
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Re: Sprinkle/Shower Question...
I re-read my post and totally said it wrong... Would it be wrong of us to ask people to come to a sprinkle/shower hosted by my MIL... not asking my MIL to host it. my bad. DUH
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MrsPJB2007
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Re: Sprinkle/Shower Question...
Posted by menmyboys
I re-read my post and totally said it wrong... Would it be wrong of us to ask people to come to a sprinkle/shower hosted by my MIL... not asking my MIL to host it. my bad. DUH
Then in this case, no it's not bad. Send the invites and let them decide if they want to come or not.
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| Posted 12/3/11 11:07 AM |
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headoverheels
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Re: Sprinkle/Shower Question...
Posted by MrsPJB2007
Posted by menmyboys
I re-read my post and totally said it wrong... Would it be wrong of us to ask people to come to a sprinkle/shower hosted by my MIL... not asking my MIL to host it. my bad. DUH
Then in this case, no it's not bad. Send the invites and let them decide if they want to come or not.
LOL that is totally different! I agree, it's fine. If people are offended or don't want to come that's on them, not you 
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| Posted 12/3/11 11:26 AM |
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lynnd126
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Re: Sprinkle/Shower Question...
I don't think it is nice at all. You want to throw a sprinkle to "ease the cost"? If I was on the guest list and read your post I would be super turned off. I'm pretty turned off by sprinkles anyway- except in limited scenarios (like a pp mentioned her group of mom friends do brunches for each other- I think that's nice/ different).
What is "the cost" anyway? You said yourself that you already have a bunch of stuff from your first dc and some of your friends are giving you other stuff. When people come to a sprinkle they only bring some clothes/ small gifts so it's not like you are going to get anything so valuable.
Also, you know, you don't necessarily need two of everything just because you are having twins. I know someone with twins and one goes in the jumperoo while the other is in the exersaucer, etc. She only has two of a few things that they both use a lot all day- like bouncers when they were infants.
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| Posted 12/3/11 11:56 AM |
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nycgirl
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Re: Sprinkle/Shower Question...
It's your family & friends who you are inviting. these people should probably want to give you a gift regardless... I'd register to avoid getting a million onsies in the size 0-3 mo.
I had a sprinkle & found it to be a lot more relaxing than my shower.
Go for it... and YES you can get your DH to ask for your MIL to help out.
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| Posted 12/3/11 12:23 PM |
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lululu
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Re: Sprinkle/Shower Question...
I am all for it. To me, if people don't want to come, they can decline. It makes me sad that my second and third child were not really celebrated in any special way. I definitely don't need the gifts and we can afford to go out and buy all the stuff that we don't have - but it's the fact that no one cares enough to celebrate the pregnancy.
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| Posted 12/3/11 7:53 PM |
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fdnywife
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Re: Sprinkle/Shower Question...
Posted by MelToddJulia
Not at all. For twins you will need A LOT!!
I agree completely!
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| Posted 12/3/11 8:25 PM |
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TripletMom
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Re: Sprinkle/Shower Question...
I think it is rude to be asking for a sprinkle/shower. If your family wants to give you one fine but to ask its just wrong IMO....
I feel that a person should have only one shower.....for their first baby and thats it.....sure if you want to have a little gtg with friends if you have asecond baby thats fine but to ask for a sprinkle to cut costs for you bc you are having twins is just wrong....But thats just my opinion.
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menmyboys
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Re: Sprinkle/Shower Question...
Posted by TripletMom
I think it is rude to be asking for a sprinkle/shower. If your family wants to give you one fine but to ask its just wrong IMO....
I feel that a person should have only one shower.....for their first baby and thats it.....sure if you want to have a little gtg with friends if you have asecond baby thats fine but to ask for a sprinkle to cut costs for you bc you are having twins is just wrong....But thats just my opinion.
I had posted this a little further down:
Posted by menmyboys
I re-read my post and totally said it wrong... Would it be wrong of us to ask people to come to a sprinkle/shower hosted by my MIL... not asking my MIL to host it. my bad. DUH
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Bridex100
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Re: Sprinkle/Shower Question...
Posted by menmyboys
Posted by TripletMom
I think it is rude to be asking for a sprinkle/shower. If your family wants to give you one fine but to ask its just wrong IMO....
I feel that a person should have only one shower.....for their first baby and thats it.....sure if you want to have a little gtg with friends if you have asecond baby thats fine but to ask for a sprinkle to cut costs for you bc you are having twins is just wrong....But thats just my opinion.
I had posted this a little further down:
Posted by menmyboys
I re-read my post and totally said it wrong... Would it be wrong of us to ask people to come to a sprinkle/shower hosted by my MIL... not asking my MIL to host it. my bad. DUH
I think many people perceive second showers to be inappropriate.
Personally I love all reasons to celebrate.
When DS#2 was born, everyone bought us gifts. We got mostly cash and gift cards along with some clothing. Everyone knew we had everything from older DS.
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