stuborn/resistant potty training kid

my daughter has all the signs that she is ready, the nursery school teacher sees it and the ped. the big problem is her, she refuses to do any bowel movement in the potty or the toilet. i have tried everything from bare bottom (she holds it for hours) to both positive and negative reinforcement. any ideas, she is going to be 3 in september.

Message edited 3/11/2009 10:03:47 AM.

Re: stuborn/resistant potty trainers kids

I can't help cause my almost 3 year old is the same way...she'll do #2 when she feels like it on the potty, but getting her to train is a battle.

We've back off cause she wants the control. She'll be 3 in May.

Sorry no advice, but just wanted to say you are not alone

Re: stuborn/resistant potty training kid

thanks, it's just some people make me feel like a bad mom cause my dc isn't potty trained.

Re: stuborn/resistant potty training kid

She is still young for potty training. You can't force it. Just wait. If she was 4, then I'd be concerned perhaps, but you have time.

Re: stuborn/resistant potty training kid

Try to not make it a big deal. She's still testing out her limits and yours. So if she sees that it's not a big deal she may just start doing it on her own for you.

Re: stuborn/resistant potty training kid

Yup, my kid did the same thing. The more you stress about it the more she will resist. Relax, don't make a big deal out of it and have faith that, at some point, she will get it. She won't be pooping in her undies when she's in school, so give her a little time to figure it out.

In the meantime, I would talk to her teacher to give some positive reinforcement, and I'd use positive rewards. Whenever Alex had an accident, I wouldn't even mention it, I'd clean it up and move along. But if she DID use the potty, I would give her lots of rewards.

It took a little while, but she transitioned on her own eventually.