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HoneyBadger
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Re: Tacky or not? your thoughts....
Not tacky in the least...
I would also bring a gift, but that's just the kind of friend I am.
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Posted 12/11/07 11:14 AM  |
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eroxgirl
My Loves
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Re: Tacky or not? your thoughts....
I think the word tacky is misused and overused. I never, ever, ever thought throwing yourself a birthday party could even BE tacky. Your mom isn't going to do it for you forever...does that mean you shouldn't celebrate your life?
Adding 'no gifts' to the evite is a nice consideration but I wouldn't be put off if it wasn't there. I always buy people gifts for their birthdays when I celebrate with them, regardless of whether it's a party or not.
Message edited 12/11/2007 1:57:49 PM.
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| Posted 12/11/07 11:21 AM |
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LoveyQ
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Re: Tacky or not? your thoughts....
I have a question - besides the situation of a surprise party - who would throw your party besides yourself? Maybe your spouse if you're married? But otherwise, who other than you would send the invitation?
In our group of friends, we all send evites for our birthday celebrations, unless someone decides to do something very low-key. I don't think it's tacky and no one ever expects gifts although sometimes there are gifts involved. It's fine I think. It's like, it's my birthday, I'm excited, come celebrate with me at so and so place.
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| Posted 12/11/07 11:27 AM |
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mooshyboo
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Christine
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Re: Tacky or not? your thoughts....
my friend does this every year ~ Last year she forgot to write no gifts on the evite (she usually writes no gifts please your presense is my bday gift) and she didnt want gifts she just wanted to spend time with her friends.... I like the idea! 
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| Posted 12/11/07 11:36 AM |
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: Tacky or not? your thoughts....
Posted by Ophelia
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
Posted by MissJones
Not tacky if it says no gifts! It is a celebration!
right - but this one did *not* say "no gifts"
um, who gives a crap if it says no gifts or not.
why do you have to wait for someone else to celebrate YOUR birthday.
if you think it's tacky, most likely you are boring anyway. DON'T GO.
ugh...so effing judgmental.
who are you or anyone else to judge what is "tacky". I HATE this word.
this is something that REALLY ticks me off.
you're asking me who I think I am for judging, yet you are judging me. 
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| Posted 12/11/07 11:38 AM |
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KGools
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Kim
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Re: Tacky or not? your thoughts....
Not tacky. Perhaps the omission of "no gifts" was an oversight... Who else is going to throw and organize a party for you?!
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| Posted 12/11/07 11:42 AM |
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diva7531
My Peanut
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Ryan 3 boys EDD 11/6!
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Re: Tacky or not? your thoughts....
Nope, any excuse to chill with my friends works for me
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| Posted 12/11/07 11:47 AM |
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Ophelia
she's baaccckkkk ;)
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remember, when Gulliver traveled....
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Re: Tacky or not? your thoughts....
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
you're asking me who I think I am for judging, yet you are judging me.
I think there is a line between calling it like I see it...
and sitting there, after receiving an invitation from someone (who perhaps is under the mistaken belief that she should actually consider you a friend), actually thinking it may be "tacky" and further, posting about it on here to find out if other people could equally condemn her for reaching out to celebrate her LIFE...the thing ANY FRIEND should be glad to do.
with a gift.
with bells on.
and without labels from Mrs. Emily Post.
so yes, I am saying that people who judge others are judgmental.
does that make me a hypocrite. perhaps, if you choose to view it that way. and if you do, guess what..I'll take it. I'll accept it.
I'd rather be "judgmental" in my way than judgmental in yours.
Message edited 12/11/2007 11:52:17 AM.
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| Posted 12/11/07 11:51 AM |
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SweetestOfPeas
J'taime Paris!
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Re: Tacky or not? your thoughts....
Posted by Ophelia
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
you're asking me who I think I am for judging, yet you are judging me.
I think there is a line between calling it like I see it...
and sitting there, after receiving an invitation from someone (who perhaps is under the mistaken belief that she should actually consider you a friend), actually thinking it may be "tacky" and further, posting about it on here to find out if other people could equally condemn her for reaching out to celebrate her LIFE...the thing ANY FRIEND should be glad to do.
with a gift.
with bells on.
and without labels from Mrs. Emily Post.
so yes, I am saying that people who judge others are judgmental.
does that make me a hypocrite. perhaps, if you choose to view it that way. and if you do, guess what..I'll take it. I'll accept it.
I'd rather be "judgmental" in my way than judgmental in yours.
right - because no one on this site, least of all you, judges anyone
it was a simple question yet you chose to personally attack me and call me boring.
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| Posted 12/11/07 11:55 AM |
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Ophelia
she's baaccckkkk ;)
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remember, when Gulliver traveled....
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Re: Tacky or not? your thoughts....
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
right - because no one on this site, least of all you, judges anyone
it was a simple question yet you chose to personally attack me and call me boring.
I said most likely, since I have no idea, except from what you post....but I assume that "tight" people who are so morally justified all the time are in fact and in MY experience, boring.
and if you read above...you'd see I fully admit that I could be being hypocritical.
we make judgment calls all day. it is how we survive and make decisions.
but they are and should be SITUATIONAL. that is how mine are.
sweeping judgments are not my bag.
and as further proof I'll again take you back to the "most likely" in that boring statement...b/c even that is something to be determined individually. so you may not be boring...
but I would be DAMNED before I would judge my friend, or even WORSE, but their actions forth for public scrutiny.
Message edited 12/11/2007 12:02:11 PM.
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| Posted 12/11/07 12:01 PM |
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kmac
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Kris
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Re: Tacky or not? your thoughts....
Not tacky at all. My DH and I throw ourselves a little joint birthday get together every year, as do most of our friends! It's just a fun reason to get together and celebrate!
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| Posted 12/11/07 12:05 PM |
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Blu-ize
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Susan
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Re: Tacky or not? your thoughts....
I actually like the idea of inviting people to get together for your birthday. I've never really done it, but I may consider it.
My 40th really sucked last year and I may have a 41st party just to make me feel better.
I've been out with friends who have organized a night out or a few hours out after work or on the weekends and most of the time it's a cash bar situation so it's just to get together with friends.
Sometimes it's a bonafide party where the host is paying but those are usually for big milestone birthdays...I would always bring a gift.
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| Posted 12/11/07 12:13 PM |
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sticklee
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Stick
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Re: Tacky or not? your thoughts....
Posted by Shelly
I have done it and so do all my friends. It never occurred to me that it could be considered tacky. I never expected gifts (and never got any), even though I never put "no gifts" on the evite, it never ocurred to me that I needed to. They were house parties that would move onto a club. I invited my friends (not strangers), and it was fine.
i could have written this myself
i invite friends over for my birthday all the time - i've never received gifts - i think it's just understood
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| Posted 12/11/07 12:15 PM |
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heidla
Me and the guys
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Heidi
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Re: Tacky or not? your thoughts....
I see nothing wrong with throwing yourself a b-day party. It's not like the evite says "you must bring a gift" . Maybe they just didn't think about having to put "no gifts" on the evite.
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| Posted 12/11/07 12:22 PM |
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TheWhiteRabbit
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Re: Tacky or not? your thoughts....
I don't think it's tacky. I guess I don't see why one would have to write 'no gifts'. I might think it was tacky if they wrote "cash gifts over $100 only" 
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| Posted 12/11/07 12:24 PM |
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Brittny817
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Brittny
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Re: Tacky or not? your thoughts....
Not tacky at all. If anything you are relieving your friends/family the burden of putting something together and guessing what you want to do.
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| Posted 12/11/07 12:28 PM |
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Blu-ize
Plan B is Now Plan A
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Susan
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Re: Tacky or not? your thoughts....
Posted by KittyTheStray
I don't think it's tacky. I guess I don't see why one would have to write 'no gifts'. I might think it was tacky if they wrote "cash gifts over $100 only"
I guess i'll leave that statement off my evite..
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| Posted 12/11/07 12:34 PM |
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alisonggg
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Member since 3/06 4749 total posts
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Re: Tacky or not? your thoughts....
personally I don't think its tacky to throw yourself a party I love the idea of celebrating life with your friends, but I do think its tacky to not put "no gifts please"..jmho
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| Posted 12/11/07 12:35 PM |
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4monkeys
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Re: Tacky or not? your thoughts....
I think it depends on who is invited and how. it just depends on so many things.
this is an extreme case:
A coworker once was inviting everyone to a 30th bday she was throwing for herself at a REALLY nice restaurant. so in chatting with her, she said to a few of us "how do I tell everyone to ONLY BRING CASH, that's in the Russian tradition to do that, NO GIFTS, and also, I NEED the envelopes to pay for the party that nite, $35 each minimum"
I nearly fell over.
needless to say, not one person went after this went around. She was trying to figure out a way to word this on the invite! and she was a BIG spender, obviously spending way over her head.. but somehow wanted everyone to throw her this big bash.
this just reminded me of that.
and THIS case was above and beyond tacky (in my opinion)
but for the most part, im a hUGE "lets celebrate" person.. but it depends on how it's done/approached, who the crowd consists of, etc.
if I got an evite to go out to a birthday dinner, if I went, I'd probably be close enough to the person to get them a gift anyway.
I wouldnt thinktwice about the fact that she didnt write no gifts. she's probably more than happy with everyone just being there !!
Message edited 12/11/2007 12:40:06 PM.
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| Posted 12/11/07 12:38 PM |
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littlejoy06
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Re: Tacky or not? your thoughts....
Nope, not tacky at all. I know people who do it all the time. So when is the party!!!
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| Posted 12/11/07 1:06 PM |
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bikramaddict
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Re: Tacky or not? your thoughts....
not tacky, in general.
however, IMO what you do for the party could affect the tackiness if you are telling people to pay for themselves.
For example, one of my friends just did this - a full on party at a bowling alley that she coordiated with them...no different than a kids bday party, full on package, etc. then she asked everyone to pay for themselves. i didn't agree with that one particular example.
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| Posted 12/11/07 1:35 PM |
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Preguntas
it's pretty precious
Member since 1/07 3839 total posts
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Lauren
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Re: Tacky or not? your thoughts....
Nothing wrong with inviting your frineds yourself to celebrate your birthday. I agree with Rebecca- the word "Tacky" is being misused.
It would be tacky to ASK for gifts, like that $35 russian dealy.
I have been invited ot birthday celebrations by my friends. And I don't ever bring a gift. Gifts are for family and children, IMO. A 31 year old doesn't get a gift for turning 31... Maybe a bottle of wine for inviting me over.
And if I threw myself a party, I would assume people knew not to bring gifts, so I probably wouldn't think to add "no gifts please"
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| Posted 12/11/07 1:42 PM |
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headoverheels
s'il vous plaît
Member since 6/07 42079 total posts
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LB
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Re: Tacky or not? your thoughts....
not tacky at all! i would much rather decide where to celebrate my birthday myself and invite all my friends to join!
i am glad you are not putting "no gifts" on the invite - to me, THAT is tacky.
when my friends and i get together for a birthday, it's expected that we will pay for ourselves and the birthday guy or girl. IMO, if i am invited to a party of ANY kind, and i can't afford to go, i don't. we usually just get together at a bar, though, which means it's never an outrageously expensive birthday. ALL of my friends and i plan our own birthdays - so much easier that way!
Message edited 12/11/2007 1:48:46 PM.
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| Posted 12/11/07 1:46 PM |
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HoneyBadger
YourWorstNightmare.
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BahBahBlackJeep
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Re: Tacky or not? your thoughts....
Posted by Blu-ize
Posted by KittyTheStray
I don't think it's tacky. I guess I don't see why one would have to write 'no gifts'. I might think it was tacky if they wrote "cash gifts over $100 only"
I guess i'll leave that statement off my evite..
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| Posted 12/11/07 1:50 PM |
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