Talk about a hard time with change.

So, I've posted a lot lately about how we're going through a lot of changes over here with JT's new overnight hours and Ava having to go to daycare a few days a week. Well, I now see that the person having the hardest time of all is my husband. He's been home with Ava her whole life since he always worked evenings, and he just cannot handle putting her in daycare now. We've looked at tons of programs and he has a problem with every, single program. We finally settled on one close by, and when we went down today to register her, he decided he absolutely did not want her there. My heart is breaking for him because this is so tough for him. He told me he's not ready to give up his time with her and that he'd rather sleep less and be home with her than put her in a sub par daycare (which is just theatrical because they were all perfectly fine programs). So, as it stands for now, we are not putting her in daycare as per his request, and we have our old babysitter coming to work for us again two days a week. I cannot imagine that this is a good idea for him because how much sleep is he expecting he's going to actually get? But there's not talking him into anything else at this point. I really think school will be so good for her, but he just isn't ready. My heart breaks because he feels so bad about the change in schedule and how it is affecting Ava, but at the same time, I think it's crazy that he's going to sacrifice sleep just because he thinks a 2.5 yr old knwos what's best for herself. Ugg. Just needed to vent about that. Thanks.

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Change is really tough on everyone-it's wonderful that he cares so much, I just hope he comes around and can see that day care can be great. It can open a whole new world for your daughter and bring more balance to your family

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Chris does it.

Ava doesn't nap anymore, right? The BEST thing we've figured is to have Christopher lay down around 3pm so that Chris can go to sleep from 3-9pm when he needs to get up for work.

You come home from work earlier than me I think, so maybe JT can have "quiet time" with Ava in the early afternoon and then go to sleep when you get home. its hard, but not the worst thing ever

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When he showed me how his schedule would work with her, I admit that it seemed like it will work, but that's in theory, not practice. I mean, Mondays and Fridays will never be a problem because my mom watches Ava, it's just Tue/Th and every other Wed. So, my cousin is coming Tue/Thur from 11:30 till when I get home, so he can sleep from noon-6, but that's still only 6 hours sleep, then he does a 12 hour shift, and we have no one for Wednesdays Ugg. I just hope that after a month, he'll see that it's too hard and we can find another place.

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When he showed me how his schedule would work with her, I admit that it seemed like it will work, but that's in theory, not practice. I mean, Mondays and Fridays will never be a problem because my mom watches Ava, it's just Tue/Th and every other Wed. So, my cousin is coming Tue/Thur from 11:30 till when I get home, so he can sleep from noon-6, but that's still only 6 hours sleep, then he does a 12 hour shift, and we have no one for Wednesdays Ugg. I just hope that after a month, he'll see that it's too hard and we can find another place.