Tantrums at 6 mos... NEED HELP from the BTDT

Seriously she is going to KILL ME!!!



I'm seriously hoping this is a NASTY phase. Alexa has started growling/grunting/ANGRY WINNING when she wants something, doesn't like something etc.

I don't know how to deal with this. She is really NASTY sometimes... I can' believe the amount of attitude this kid has already and she sin't even 6 mos yet



Is this a phase???? How do I deal with this.

Say she is sitting in the swing and she is bored she will grunt and whine until I "notice" her then she cackles and laughs and will SCREAM if I don't take her out.


She's been in her crib for the last 20 minutes "b*tching me out" cause she doesn't want to nap. I have to turn the monitor on and off I can't take listening to it.

Seriously, this is worse then crying...


I can't discipline this can I??

PLEASE I neeed Help I don't want her to turn into a total BRAT and things are starting to look this way

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I'm sorry but I don't think at 6 months old she is throwing a "tantrum"...I think something might be bothering her and I would try to console her as much as possible.

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Nope you can't discipline her.

Unfortunately she's trying to see what she can get away with and if she can 'work you.'

Jacen started around the same age. Although when you did something he didn't like... he'd just get stiff as a board or go limp. Then he'd cry.

I just ignored it or tried to distract him.

The phase will end... just in time for them to try something else to test their boundaries.

ETA: this is what happens when you have a very strong willed child.

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Posted by aliwnec10

Nope you can't discipline her.

Unfortunately she's trying to see what she can get away with and if she can 'work you.'

Jacen started around the same age. Although when you did something he didn't like... he'd just get stiff as a bored or go limp. Then he'd cry.

I just ignored it or tried to distract him.

The phase will end... just in time for them to try something else to test their boundaries.

ETA: this is what happens when you have a very strong willed child.

Re: Tantrums at 6 mos... NEED HELP from the BTDT

I agree. Tantrums are an issue when a child has an alternative way of communicating but can't or won't use it. At six months there is no alternative way to communicate other than crying. She may want more of your attention, or be held or stimulated. I would hold and engage her with a toy, and then leave her engaged with it for a few minutes if you need a break, take her for a walk, or out her in a bouncy and keep her in the room while you do errands, and talk and sing to her. Its wonderful that she wants so much engagement from you!

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DD did this too...still does at 19 months....i have no advice but you are not alone in having a DD vocalizing she wants something she cant get/have.

at that age DD wanted to move to get what she wanted but couldnt and I think that is what caused the tantrums.

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Posted by Blissful

but she wants me to "engage" her 24/7.... she use to be FINE sitting in the jumperoo for like 5 min.. I LITERALLY can't leave the room or not pay attention every WAKING MOMENT anymore....

I'm a SAHM so I'm ALWAYS with her....but I literally can't leave the room or she does this.....

She will cry when something is really bothering her, and I ALWAYS console her for this....

This is more boredom... I'm afraid that she is going to learn that she can growl at me and I will ALWAYS give her what she wants.

WHat do I do when I'm eating something she can have and she growls arches her back and gets stiff as a board because I won't give it to her??? She won't be distracted.... If she wants it she WANTS IT

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Maria, my son was the same way! Can she sit up yet? I would prop him up with the boppy around him, put him on a blanket, and place toys around him. I would engage him and sneak away briefly and yet to return before he cried for me. I also would put on noggin while getting ready for work. Not ideal, but if it buys you 30 mins then why not? Also I would sling him. I never really napped him because it was a terror, so I would go for drives and walks to get him to sleep and sneak him to his crib. Once they get moving and develop more play skills you get more of a break, but this is a very social age.... Crucial for social development. Trust me when I say its a GOOD thing that she is always seeking you out!

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She can tri-pod sit but is still a little wobbly.... I always forget about using the Boppy, I'll try that.


I do have to walk away sometimes because she really pushes my patience.... I'm "ON" 24/7 with her and have been since she was born because of her reflux being so bad so I think i'm a little "burnt out" by her

HA I thought I was goign to have an easy toddle since she was such a HORRIBLE newborn... I guess not

We don't put the TV on for her.... so thats not an option.

I guess I just have to hope she learns to crawl soon so she can go chase down what she wants.

Oy she is such a handful these days. I'm just STUNNED by the amount of "personality" she has so young... she KNOWS what she wants its INCREDIBLE!!!

I am thankful that she does want to spend so much time with us and wants our attention, its just REALLY HARD being a SAHM and doing this 24/7

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there is hope!! allison was like this for the past few months. i was convinced she knew how to "work" me. since we came back from nyc though, i've noticed she can crawl a little better and mobilize herself a little more. when i put her down to play and walk away she'll throw a fit, but then she'll realize "....hey i can sit...and i can semi crawl...and i can sorta pull myself up, this aint so bad!!" for the past 3 days since i've been here, she's been able to play alone for 10 minutes at a time....it's been GOLDEN!! i think lexi really is just frustrated she can't do things on her own and just cries cause that's the only thing that she knows how to do....help her develop by giving her lots of tummy time and practice standing her up to build those muscles so she can realize she doesn't need you every waking moment!! oh wait...she kinda does...

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IMO her personality at six months might not be indicative of what her personality will be like once she can communicate better, and maybe be more independantly mobile. My son was impossible until he hit about 10 months old, I held him 24/7 until he was about able to sit up, and he was walking at 10 months...and it was then his personality changed. She wants your attention, thats what babies do! Enjoy it, it all changes so quickly!

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oh yeah i also wanted to add that allison has mastered her fits too, she'll turn red from growling and screaming when she's in her high chair, mostly. it's amazing to see the color of her skin turn back to normal after she has one of these "explosions" i just look at her and i'm like "are you done?" goodness! the anger!!!

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Posted by Blissful

Posted by lipglossjunky73

I agree. Tantrums are an issue when a child has an alternative way of communicating but can't or won't use it. At six months there is no alternative way to communicate other than crying. She may want more of your attention, or be held or stimulated. I would hold and engage her with a toy, and then leave her engaged with it for a few minutes if you need a break, take her for a walk, or out her in a bouncy and keep her in the room while you do errands, and talk and sing to her. Its wonderful that she wants so much engagement from you!

but she wants me to "engage" her 24/7.... she use to be FINE sitting in the jumperoo for like 5 min.. I LITERALLY can't leave the room or not pay attention every WAKING MOMENT anymore....

I'm a SAHM so I'm ALWAYS with her....but I literally can't leave the room or she does this.....

She will cry when something is really bothering her, and I ALWAYS console her for this....

This is more boredom... I'm afraid that she is going to learn that she can growl at me and I will ALWAYS give her what she wants.

WHat do I do when I'm eating something she can have and she growls arches her back and gets stiff as a board because I won't give it to her??? She won't be distracted.... If she wants it she WANTS IT

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Re: Tantrums at 6 mos... NEED HELP from the BTDT

I am the mother of a very verbal, highly ambulatory 2 year old. Thank god, because before he could move and speak well, he would scream bloody murder. I always saw him as a frustrated baby. From birth he had a strong personality and knew what he wanted. But being trapped in a floppy body and no way to get and say his needs made life very difficult for him. Life changed significantly when he became a toddler. Cailen is an unusually good child. I think its because he has so much freedom and access to things he has little cause for complain. Hang in there! As much as I would like to go to the bathroom without a shadow providing the play by play (still) the day that he doesn't look for me when I leave the room will be a sad one for me.

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Posted by bonitachyc

Posted by dm24angel
In her mind she is the only person in the universe, you simply exist to please her, take care of her etc

funny and so true! i laugh, i cry.

Re: Tantrums at 6 mos... NEED HELP from the BTDT

Maybe its an "Alexa" thing, my DD is doing the same to me ...And I am trying to cook for a party of 50 people right now along with an "I want, give me" almost 4 year old ...

My saving grace with her is handing her a pickle, go figure

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Posted by bonitachyc

Posted by dm24angel
In her mind she is the only person in the universe, you simply exist to please her, take care of her etc

funny and so true! i laugh, i cry.

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Posted by Bops

Maybe its an "Alexa" thing, my DD is doing the same to me ...And I am trying to cook for a party of 50 people right now along with an "I want, give me" almost 4 year old ...

My saving grace with her is handing her a pickle, go figure