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EricaAlt
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Teen party gift question
Thanks all! I'll give a check similar to what he got. Just wasn't sure if GC was appropriate too in same amount, but everyone said money.
Thanks!
Message edited 11/22/2022 12:09:21 PM.
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ali120206
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Teen party gift question
Id give back what you got since your party was recently - maybe $75 though.
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| Posted 11/21/22 2:00 PM |
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lmcmcl
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Re: Teen party gift question
Posted by ali120206
Id give back what you got since your party was recently - maybe $75 though.
I agree
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| Posted 11/21/22 2:07 PM |
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KarenK122
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Teen party gift question
My daughter just had her Sweet 16 and the average gift was $50 unless it was a very close friend or family.
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| Posted 11/21/22 3:02 PM |
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lululu
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Re: Teen party gift question
$75
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| Posted 11/21/22 3:18 PM |
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Budjeg11
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Teen party gift question
I agree, $75
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| Posted 11/21/22 6:32 PM |
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Katareen
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Teen party gift question
I don’t see why this is any different than the other parties.
Just match the gift closely…$70 or $75
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| Posted 11/21/22 9:23 PM |
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EricaAlt
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Re: Teen party gift question
Posted by Katareen
I don’t see why this is any different than the other parties.
Just match the gift closely…$70 or $75
I wouldn't compare it to a bar mitzvah, but I guess more of a Sweet 16 type party. My son studied his torah for 6 months.
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NervousNell
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Re: Teen party gift question
Posted by EricaAlt
Posted by Katareen
I don’t see why this is any different than the other parties.
Just match the gift closely…$70 or $75
I wouldn't compare it to a bar mitzvah, but I guess more of a Sweet 16 type party. My son studied his torah for 6 months.
So is it a Sweet 16 or is it just a random big birthday party? Or some kind of religious event?
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| Posted 11/22/22 7:55 AM |
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Re: Teen party gift question
Sweet Sixteen, maybe $50.
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| Posted 11/22/22 8:01 AM |
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LuckyStar
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Teen party gift question
I would give back what they gave you, just as you did for the other bar mitzvahs. I don’t see why it being a girl or not a religious event would have any bearing on a gift. So either $72 or $75.
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| Posted 11/22/22 8:02 AM |
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lululu
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Re: Teen party gift question
Posted by EricaAlt
Posted by Katareen
I don’t see why this is any different than the other parties.
Just match the gift closely…$70 or $75
I wouldn't compare it to a bar mitzvah, but I guess more of a Sweet 16 type party. My son studied his torah for 6 months.
I don't think that most guests at a bar mitvah care that the kid had to study and prepare for it with regards to how much they give as a gift. That is something that your son chose to do as part of his religious upbringing. I would say the same for a confirmation gift. A lot of work goes into getting confirmed. Years of religious education and volunteer work etc. But if you have a party people are going to give whatever they are comfortable giving.
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lpg21
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Re: Teen party gift question
I would do $75
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| Posted 11/22/22 8:32 AM |
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EricaAlt
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Re: Teen party gift question
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by EricaAlt
Posted by Katareen
I don’t see why this is any different than the other parties.
Just match the gift closely…$70 or $75
I wouldn't compare it to a bar mitzvah, but I guess more of a Sweet 16 type party. My son studied his torah for 6 months.
So is it a Sweet 16 or is it just a random big birthday party? Or some kind of religious event?
It's a 13th birthday party. I'm guessing like a sweet 16. It's at a fire house and I believe they have a DJ and all. SO I will give $70 or $75
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EricaAlt
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Re: Teen party gift question
Posted by LuckyStar
I would give back what they gave you, just as you did for the other bar mitzvahs. I don’t see why it being a girl or not a religious event would have any bearing on a gift. So either $72 or $75.
Had nothing to do with it being a girl or religious thing. Was just trying to see if people compare it to a sweet 16 or bar mitzvah type since that's where the kids are at. It's his first just big bday party that's not a boy where they are going to Top Golf or a fancy bar mitzvah he's invited to. It sounds like just a fancy 13th birthday party I mean
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| Posted 11/22/22 12:05 PM |
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EricaAlt
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Re: Teen party gift question
Posted by lpg21
I would do $75
Thanks
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| Posted 11/22/22 12:05 PM |
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Posted by EricaAlt
Posted by LuckyStar
I would give back what they gave you, just as you did for the other bar mitzvahs. I don’t see why it being a girl or not a religious event would have any bearing on a gift. So either $72 or $75.
Had nothing to do with it being a girl or religious thing. Was just trying to see if people compare it to a sweet 16 or bar mitzvah type since that's where the kids are at. It's his first just big bday party that's not a boy where they are going to Top Golf or a fancy bar mitzvah he's invited to. It sounds like just a fancy 13th birthday party I mean
Wow for a 13th birthday? Honestly I would give like $30 then.
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| Posted 11/22/22 12:51 PM |
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EricaAlt
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Re: Teen party gift question
Posted by windyweather21
Posted by EricaAlt
Posted by LuckyStar
I would give back what they gave you, just as you did for the other bar mitzvahs. I don’t see why it being a girl or not a religious event would have any bearing on a gift. So either $72 or $75.
Had nothing to do with it being a girl or religious thing. Was just trying to see if people compare it to a sweet 16 or bar mitzvah type since that's where the kids are at. It's his first just big bday party that's not a boy where they are going to Top Golf or a fancy bar mitzvah he's invited to. It sounds like just a fancy 13th birthday party I mean
Wow for a 13th birthday? Honestly I would give like $30 then.
Thanks! This is why I was confused. I do think she's having a DJ and it's 4 hours. They rented the hall at a Fire House and it's all just kids. I heard she invited about 75 kids.
I will do more. SHe was at my son's bar mitzvah in May and they gave $72. He's either been at bar/bat mitzvahs or goes to a friend's 13th party at a place or sleepover. It was just different.
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nycbuslady
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Re: Teen party gift question
Posted by EricaAlt
Posted by windyweather21
Posted by EricaAlt
Posted by LuckyStar
I would give back what they gave you, just as you did for the other bar mitzvahs. I don’t see why it being a girl or not a religious event would have any bearing on a gift. So either $72 or $75.
Had nothing to do with it being a girl or religious thing. Was just trying to see if people compare it to a sweet 16 or bar mitzvah type since that's where the kids are at. It's his first just big bday party that's not a boy where they are going to Top Golf or a fancy bar mitzvah he's invited to. It sounds like just a fancy 13th birthday party I mean
Wow for a 13th birthday? Honestly I would give like $30 then.
Thanks! This is why I was confused. I do think she's having a DJ and it's 4 hours. They rented the hall at a Fire House and it's all just kids. I heard she invited about 75 kids.
I will do more. SHe was at my son's bar mitzvah in May and they gave $72. He's either been at bar/bat mitzvahs or goes to a friend's 13th party at a place or sleepover. It was just different.
In that case, I think $75 is a bit much. I think something in the $50 range is better. It's just a birthday party.
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lpg21
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Re: Teen party gift question
Posted by EricaAlt
Posted by windyweather21
Posted by EricaAlt
Posted by LuckyStar
I would give back what they gave you, just as you did for the other bar mitzvahs. I don’t see why it being a girl or not a religious event would have any bearing on a gift. So either $72 or $75.
Had nothing to do with it being a girl or religious thing. Was just trying to see if people compare it to a sweet 16 or bar mitzvah type since that's where the kids are at. It's his first just big bday party that's not a boy where they are going to Top Golf or a fancy bar mitzvah he's invited to. It sounds like just a fancy 13th birthday party I mean
Wow for a 13th birthday? Honestly I would give like $30 then.
Thanks! This is why I was confused. I do think she's having a DJ and it's 4 hours. They rented the hall at a Fire House and it's all just kids. I heard she invited about 75 kids.
I will do more. SHe was at my son's bar mitzvah in May and they gave $72. He's either been at bar/bat mitzvahs or goes to a friend's 13th party at a place or sleepover. It was just different.
Ok I change my answer then. I was thinking it was a sweet 16. If it's a random 13 year old party then I think it would be OK to do less. Maybe $50 then if they are having a big thing with a DJ.
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NervousNell
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Re: Teen party gift question
Posted by lpg21
Posted by EricaAlt
Posted by windyweather21
Posted by EricaAlt
Posted by LuckyStar
I would give back what they gave you, just as you did for the other bar mitzvahs. I don’t see why it being a girl or not a religious event would have any bearing on a gift. So either $72 or $75.
Had nothing to do with it being a girl or religious thing. Was just trying to see if people compare it to a sweet 16 or bar mitzvah type since that's where the kids are at. It's his first just big bday party that's not a boy where they are going to Top Golf or a fancy bar mitzvah he's invited to. It sounds like just a fancy 13th birthday party I mean
Wow for a 13th birthday? Honestly I would give like $30 then.
Thanks! This is why I was confused. I do think she's having a DJ and it's 4 hours. They rented the hall at a Fire House and it's all just kids. I heard she invited about 75 kids.
I will do more. SHe was at my son's bar mitzvah in May and they gave $72. He's either been at bar/bat mitzvahs or goes to a friend's 13th party at a place or sleepover. It was just different.
Ok I change my answer then. I was thinking it was a sweet 16. If it's a random 13 year old party then I think it would be OK to do less. Maybe $50 then if they are having a big thing with a DJ.
I have literally never heard of a big 13th birthday party at a hall.
To be honest it seems like she is jealous of her friends who are having bar and bat mitzvahs at this age and wanted a big party of her own.
I hear something new every day, I swear.
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Re: Teen party gift question
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Posted by lpg21
Posted by EricaAlt
Posted by windyweather21
Posted by EricaAlt
Posted by LuckyStar
I would give back what they gave you, just as you did for the other bar mitzvahs. I don’t see why it being a girl or not a religious event would have any bearing on a gift. So either $72 or $75.
Had nothing to do with it being a girl or religious thing. Was just trying to see if people compare it to a sweet 16 or bar mitzvah type since that's where the kids are at. It's his first just big bday party that's not a boy where they are going to Top Golf or a fancy bar mitzvah he's invited to. It sounds like just a fancy 13th birthday party I mean
Wow for a 13th birthday? Honestly I would give like $30 then.
Thanks! This is why I was confused. I do think she's having a DJ and it's 4 hours. They rented the hall at a Fire House and it's all just kids. I heard she invited about 75 kids.
I will do more. SHe was at my son's bar mitzvah in May and they gave $72. He's either been at bar/bat mitzvahs or goes to a friend's 13th party at a place or sleepover. It was just different.
Ok I change my answer then. I was thinking it was a sweet 16. If it's a random 13 year old party then I think it would be OK to do less. Maybe $50 then if they are having a big thing with a DJ.
I have literally never heard of a big 13th birthday party at a hall.
To be honest it seems like she is jealous of her friends who are having bar and bat mitzvahs at this age and wanted a big party of her own.
I hear something new every day, I swear.
Exactly and makes no sense. Any place out of NY would probably give $20 but because we think if you have something outside of the house, you need to give more. Not really OUR problem how much they choose to spend. Maybe I am cheap but $50 seems a lot too for a 13 yr old party. I spend that much on a 50 year olds party.
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LuckyStar
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Teen party gift question
Several kids in my DH’s family had 13th birthday parties like this. Basically a bar/bar mitzvah without the temple part. Not sure if this is what’s going on here, but from what I understand it’s fairly common in very reform circles.
If the party is equivalent to a bar/bat mitzvah minus the religious aspect, I’d still reciprocate the same gift she gave your son.
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| Posted 11/22/22 2:08 PM |
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EricaAlt
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Re: Teen party gift question
Posted by LuckyStar
Several kids in my DH’s family had 13th birthday parties like this. Basically a bar/bar mitzvah without the temple part. Not sure if this is what’s going on here, but from what I understand it’s fairly common in very reform circles.
If the party is equivalent to a bar/bat mitzvah minus the religious aspect, I’d still reciprocate the same gift she gave your son.
Thanks!
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NervousNell
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Re: Teen party gift question
Posted by LuckyStar
Several kids in my DH’s family had 13th birthday parties like this. Basically a bar/bar mitzvah without the temple part. Not sure if this is what’s going on here, but from what I understand it’s fairly common in very reform circles.
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Wow, that's interesting I never knew that.
I went to a lot of bar and bat mitzvahs of my friends growing up but never a 13th bday party like that.
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