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GoodThoughts
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Re: Teenagers can be so cruel!
As someone who has devoted her life to working with troubled adolescents, I am appalled by what your coworker said. I am further distubed by the way in which you described the children and their families. If this is the way you feel about children with whose care you are entrusted, perhaps this isn't the right setting for you. If their familes are as dysfunctional as you describe, it is that much more important for them to feel cared about by other adults.
Personal matters should never be discussed in front of a class. The child's comment was certainly hurtful to you, and I can understand that. You and your coworker are the adults in the situation and should behave as such.
If you worked for me, and this matter was brought to my attention, my issue would be with your indiscretion and your coworker's inexcusable response.
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PennyCat
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Re: Teenagers can be so cruel!
Posted by MsMBV
The kid was out of line certainly. But for someone to reinforce to a child who already has issues at home where he may feel worthless that he should never have been born is inexcusable for anyone, nevermind someone who is in a position of authority.
Exactly. I worked with kids who came from very upsetting backgrounds.. had severe emotions disturbances... but I always kept in perspective that their time in my room was their only chance for 'stability' in their entire day because their home lives were in such turmoil.
Sorry-- this is not meant to bash the OP -- but I think I am just as appalled by this as some others are.
If anything, I hope this is a lesson to never discuss any of this in front of the kids- and saying anything eluding to the fact that you are trying to have a baby AT ALL is just wayyyy too personal, in my opinion. My kids actually knew about some of my issues and I was absolutely mortified but it was because I was 17wks pregnant when I lost my baby .. so they knew I was pregnant and then I wasn't.
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NiKKi
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Re: Teenagers can be so cruel!
Omg sorry for even posting this topic. I didn't know it would cause such drama. IMO, I don't who knows I want to get pregnant? It's normal. Especially when 4 kids are sitting there pregnant themselves or have a pregnant girlfriend.
And all because I described the kids the way I did does not mean I'm not a positive roll model. I was simply stating facts. I am very good at what I do and I get complimented all the time. I'm not even saying I agree with what my co worker said, because I don't. But I can't control what she says AND she is my superior there.
I feel like I'm being bashed for something my coworker did? I simply wanted to vent
Sorry.
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Re: Teenagers can be so cruel!
Posted by gina409
i would turn around and say..i can have them i am just waiting in case they turn out like you
i am sorry he is such a tool
Kids are just idiots! Im sorry
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| Posted 4/7/12 3:26 PM |
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Re: Teenagers can be so cruel!
Posted by bringonthebaby
Posted by gina409
i would turn around and say..i can have them i am just waiting in case they turn out like you
i am sorry he is such a tool
Kids are just idiots! Im sorry
This must be why you want one so badly? Extremely unprofessional conversation going on here and as a teacher you should know better! You're lucky to have a teaching job and I suggest you watch how you speak about your kids!
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| Posted 4/7/12 3:39 PM |
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gina409
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Re: Teenagers can be so cruel!
this whole thread is getting so judgmental and harsh
op..i do not think u meant any harm and i am sorry things are getting out of hand
now to have a poster who's first post is to call someone out?
please everyone let's just end this post right now b4 it gets ugly
as someone said ttc is hard enough we do not need to battle one another as well
whether you think she was wrong or right or the co worker was wrong or right or whatever..who cares..u want to judge her fine but do it in a fm they way everyone else on these boards do 
i would hate to scare someone off that could really use the help and support of these boards bc now she feels judged
i know i have said some pretty snap and harsh things during my ttc journey
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Re: Teenagers can be so cruel!
Posted by NiKKi
Omg sorry for even posting this topic. I didn't know it would cause such drama. IMO, I don't who knows I want to get pregnant? It's normal. Especially when 4 kids are sitting there pregnant themselves or have a pregnant girlfriend.
And all because I described the kids the way I did does not mean I'm not a positive roll model. I was simply stating facts. I am very good at what I do and I get complimented all the time. I'm not even saying I agree with what my co worker said, because I don't. But I can't control what she says AND she is my superior there.
I feel like I'm being bashed for something my coworker did? I simply wanted to vent
Sorry.
You can say whatever you want, but if you're posting on a public internet board, don't expect everyone to ignore or agree with you about how you are describing your STUDENTS. Being a mom and a former teacher, it's a scary reminder to me that my kid(s) could possibly have teachers who feel like you do. Having a bit of compassion and empathy for their "situations" will do you wonders.
Message edited 4/7/2012 6:38:52 PM.
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PhyllisNJoe
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Re: Teenagers can be so cruel!
Posted by gina409
this whole thread is getting so judgmental and harsh
op..i do not think u meant any harm and i am sorry things are getting out of hand
now to have a poster who's first post is to call someone out?
please everyone let's just end this post right now b4 it gets ugly
as someone said ttc is hard enough we do not need to battle one another as well
whether you think she was wrong or right or the co worker was wrong or right or whatever..who cares..u want to judge her fine but do it in a fm they way everyone else on these boards do
i would hate to scare someone off that could really use the help and support of these boards bc now she feels judged
i know i have said some pretty snap and harsh things during my ttc journey
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| Posted 4/7/12 6:55 PM |
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NiKKi
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Re: Teenagers can be so cruel!
Posted by brownie
Posted by NiKKi
Omg sorry for even posting this topic. I didn't know it would cause such drama. IMO, I don't who knows I want to get pregnant? It's normal. Especially when 4 kids are sitting there pregnant themselves or have a pregnant girlfriend.
And all because I described the kids the way I did does not mean I'm not a positive roll model. I was simply stating facts. I am very good at what I do and I get complimented all the time. I'm not even saying I agree with what my co worker said, because I don't. But I can't control what she says AND she is my superior there.
I feel like I'm being bashed for something my coworker did? I simply wanted to vent
Sorry.
You can say whatever you want, but if you're posting on
a public internet board, don't expect everyone to ignore or agree with you about how you are describing your STUDENTS. Being a mom and a former teacher, it's a
scary reminder to me that my kid(s) could possibly have
teachers who feel like you do. Having a bit of compassion
and empathy for their "situations" will do you wonders.
I am not a teacher and these are not my students. They come to my program as a form of punishment. They are in my life for a MAX of 30 hours. However, that is rare. It's usually about 15. After that, I don't see them again.
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PennyCat
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Re: Teenagers can be so cruel!
Posted by NiKKi
I am not a teacher and these are not my students. They come to my program as a form of punishment. They are in my life for a MAX of 30 hours. However, that is rare. It's usually about 15. After that, I don't see them again.
I def don't mean to keep this going, I just can't hold back from saying... It doesn't matter if you are with them for 10 minutes or 10 months. They still deserve the same amount of professionalism and care. Oh trust me ... I know how it is. I was told by a student to suck his, well .. ya know ...
Sorry, just had to say my piece 
It stinks you were put in that situation by the student, hopefully that's the last they hear of your very personal situation!
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IveGotAFeeling
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Re: Teenagers can be so cruel!
I can't believe all the backlash...seriously this is why I don't work with children. That little ******* would have been lucky if he didn't get smacked.
Not saying that it was such a great comment to make on your co-workers part but I'm so sick of people being spoken to by kids like this and just "taking it" because they're afraid they might do more damage to their fragile little minds. The kid is obviously an asshole who has absolutely no respect or boundaries. There's no repercussion that scares, and there should be some kind of a "punishment" for speaking to a person of authority like this.
I'm really sorry Nikki. Don't listen to this kid. He's just an idiot
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jams92
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Re: Teenagers can be so cruel!
kids can be cruel; try not to take it to heart. Think of how many times you were growing up and fought with your parents and said "i hate you"...when clearly you dont. Kids dont realize what they say and the hurt that is behind it.
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PhyllisNJoe
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Re: Teenagers can be so cruel!
Posted by IveGotAFeeling
I can't believe all the backlash...seriously this is why I don't work with children. That little ******* would have been lucky if he didn't get smacked.
Not saying that it was such a great comment to make on your co-workers part but I'm so sick of people being spoken to by kids like this and just "taking it" because they're afraid they might do more damage to their fragile little minds. The kid is obviously an asshole who has absolutely no respect or boundaries. There's no repercussion that scares, and there should be some kind of a "punishment" for speaking to a person of authority like this.
I'm really sorry Nikki. Don't listen to this kid. He's just an idiot
I LOVE this! just doesn't cut it.
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TyReseGreen
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Re: Teenagers can be so cruel!
Posted by gina409
i would turn around and say..i can have them i am just waiting in case they turn out like you
i am sorry he is such a tool
Totally Agree!
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