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Teenagers Today...
Do you find them to be more obnoxious? or is it just me?
Like DH was telling me how he stopped off at his sister's house on his way home from work the other day and his 12 year old niece was being mean towards one of her friends that was over. DH said that his niece was upset that her friend was wearing the same outfit that she was and as she was complaining to her mom she kept calling her friend "dumb" and "stupid". DH was like "I couldn't believe she was calling her friend dumb and stupid while the girl was just a few feet away from her and then a half hour later they were hugging and laughing". then DH was like "I was so disgusted with my nieces attitude, it's not just today, she's been very annoying lately period". I just looked at DH and was like "hello she's almost a teenager she's supposed to act obnoxious, especially if she's a teenage girl, is it annoying? yes but unfortunately that's how it is when you are a pre-teen/teenager". And this is just the beginning. Wait till she's well into her teen years...
Then he turned to our DS and said "don't you ever become a teenager, just stay little"
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Re: Teenagers Today...
I can't stand teenagers! I know that is a harsh statement but I say to DH all the time...these kids are such little punks nowadays and the girls are OUT OF CONTROL! It wasn't THAT long ago that I was a teenager and I don't remember kids acting the way they do now! They are also very LAZY. Our generation we all had jobs as soon as we were old enough to save up for a car or anything else we wanted...now these kids don't even want to get their licenses! My cousin is 18 years old, graduating high school this year and he JUST got his permit.
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Re: Teenagers Today...
Posted by MrsPJ
I can't stand teenagers! I know that is a harsh statement but I say to DH all the time...these kids are such little punks nowadays and the girls are OUT OF CONTROL! It wasn't THAT long ago that I was a teenager and I don't remember kids acting the way they do now! They are also very LAZY. Our generation we all had jobs as soon as we were old enough to save up for a car or anything else we wanted...now these kids don't even want to get their licenses! My cousin is 18 years old, graduating high school this year and he JUST got his permit.
They have no jobs and they are walking around with cell phones and i-pods. I think these teens are too spoiled today.
I have to try and teach my son how to save money to buy what he wants instead of just having it handed to him on a silver platter.
DH is a highschool teacher and he is always talking about how some of his students are punks.
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Re: Teenagers Today...
i think it has alot to do with the fact that more parents are working.. i know we all have to do it and it s*cks but our moms were home with us!
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Re: Teenagers Today...
Teens could be worse today, but teens will be teens no matter what the generation....I remember my mom saying that stuff to me when I was a kid, how spoiled we all are and in her day, she would never talk back to her parents and this and that, etc.
Teenagers will always be snotty - it is sort of a rite of passage, so to speak! Hopefully, we will all raise good kids who love their parents and bypass those awful years of being know it all lazy bums! Somehow, I doubt it though.
ETA: I also remember my mom saying how growing up in the 50's was so idyliic and how crazy the 80s are (this is when I was a teen)....now the 80's look so innocent! HA!
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Re: Teenagers Today...
Well, I honestly think that the problem with teenagers today is their parents. And I also think that an entire group of children get a bad reputation based on the attitudes of a small percentage of them. I work with teenagers and they are some of the most compassionate and caring people I've ever come across. But then again, so are their parents.
There are definitely spoiled, bratty, obnoxious teenagers out there, but I don't find that they are the majority.
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Re: Teenagers Today...
Posted by JTK
i think it has alot to do with the fact that more parents are working.. i know we all have to do it and it s*cks but our moms were home with us!
I have to disagree with that. You can have great kids and still work. It all has to do with the parenting. You can be a sahp and be the worst parent and have kids who are punks.
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Re: Teenagers Today...
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by JTK
i think it has alot to do with the fact that more parents are working.. i know we all have to do it and it s*cks but our moms were home with us!
I have to disagree with that. You can have great kids and still work. It all has to do with the parenting. You can be a sahp and be the worst parent and have kids who are punks.
of course!! i'm not saying it's all parents that work..
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Right now I am leaning on my walking frame and scowling....kids today!!
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Re: Teenagers Today...
Posted by JTK
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by JTK
i think it has alot to do with the fact that more parents are working.. i know we all have to do it and it s*cks but our moms were home with us!
I have to disagree with that. You can have great kids and still work. It all has to do with the parenting. You can be a sahp and be the worst parent and have kids who are punks.
of course!! i'm not saying it's all parents that work..
I saw once my dd went to elementary school that you could not tell the difference between the child who had a sahm vs. wohm. They are all the same. Since both my children have and are going through daycare, I totally disagree with the statement that kids in daycare have more behavorial problems. Kids always had problems if their mothers were home or not. Not all kids are disciplined and I see many a sahm that does not discipline their children because it is just easier to let them do what they want.
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Re: Teenagers Today...
I don't think it's teenagers TODAY. I think it's teenagers in general.
Every generation went through the same phase where they were too cool for their parents & started the Mean Girls pecking order.
We think kids are spoiled today but every older generation think the younger generation was that way. I will say this...while they may have it "easier" today, economically they will be burdened like never no other generation before once they hit adulthood.
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Re: Teenagers Today...
Posted by prncssrachel
Well, I honestly think that the problem with teenagers today is their parents. And I also think that an entire group of children get a bad reputation based on the attitudes of a small percentage of them. I work with teenagers and they are some of the most compassionate and caring people I've ever come across. But then again, so are their parents.
There are definitely spoiled, bratty, obnoxious teenagers out there, but I don't find that they are the majority.
I agree!!
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Posted by nrthshgrl
I don't think it's teenagers TODAY. I think it's teenagers in general.
Every generation went through the same phase where they were too cool for their parents & started the Mean Girls pecking order.
We think kids are spoiled today but every older generation think the younger generation was that way. I will say this...while they may have it "easier" today, economically they will be burdened like never no other generation before once they hit adulthood.
I have to agree with you. Technology makes it easier but I think it will be very hard for our daughters to be able to stay home with the way the economy is now.
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Re: Teenagers Today...
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by JTK
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by JTK
i think it has alot to do with the fact that more parents are working.. i know we all have to do it and it s*cks but our moms were home with us!
I have to disagree with that. You can have great kids and still work. It all has to do with the parenting. You can be a sahp and be the worst parent and have kids who are punks.
of course!! i'm not saying it's all parents that work..
I saw once my dd went to elementary school that you could not tell the difference between the child who had a sahm vs. wohm. They are all the same. Since both my children have and are going through daycare, I totally disagree with the statement that kids in daycare have more behavorial problems. Kids always had problems if their mothers were home or not. Not all kids are disciplined and I see many a sahm that does not discipline their children because it is just easier to let them do what they want.
alot of working moms that i know.. ( and i am a working mom as well) spoil thier kids out of guilt of not being able to be home. Many of these teenagers have cell phones )(mine included) because it makes it easier to contact them and know where they are. i personally think and hope for my kids sake that if they are in a good daycare program that is motivating and educational and at home the parent s make the most of their time with their kids than absolutely a working mom can be even BETTER than a SAHM..it's not the fact that we have to work. i didn't mean to offend anyone.. i'm right there with you.. i just know alot of teenagers since i have one.
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Re: Teenagers Today...
Posted by JTK
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by JTK
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by JTK
i think it has alot to do with the fact that more parents are working.. i know we all have to do it and it s*cks but our moms were home with us!
I have to disagree with that. You can have great kids and still work. It all has to do with the parenting. You can be a sahp and be the worst parent and have kids who are punks.
of course!! i'm not saying it's all parents that work..
I saw once my dd went to elementary school that you could not tell the difference between the child who had a sahm vs. wohm. They are all the same. Since both my children have and are going through daycare, I totally disagree with the statement that kids in daycare have more behavorial problems. Kids always had problems if their mothers were home or not. Not all kids are disciplined and I see many a sahm that does not discipline their children because it is just easier to let them do what they want.
alot of working moms that i know.. ( and i am a working mom as well) spoil thier kids out of guilt of not being able to be home. Many of these teenagers have cell phones )(mine included) because it makes it easier to contact them and know where they are. i personally think and hope for my kids sake that if they are in a good daycare program that is motivating and educational and at home the parent s make the most of their time with their kids than absolutely a working mom can be even BETTER than a SAHM..it's not the fact that we have to work. i didn't mean to offend anyone.. i'm right there with you.. i just know alot of teenagers since i have one.
I totally agree with you. I am not the "guilty" type of person like that just because I work. I know I am doing the best for them by working so they can have a home and all the things they need in life.
No insult taken. I just get very defensive when people (not you because you were stating a point and you do wohm so you know how it is-lol!) try and say that kids are worse off now because more moms are working. Alot of people who have never used daycare don't know that it can a great thing.
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Re: Teenagers Today...
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by JTK
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by JTK
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by JTK
i think it has alot to do with the fact that more parents are working.. i know we all have to do it and it s*cks but our moms were home with us!
I have to disagree with that. You can have great kids and still work. It all has to do with the parenting. You can be a sahp and be the worst parent and have kids who are punks.
of course!! i'm not saying it's all parents that work..
I saw once my dd went to elementary school that you could not tell the difference between the child who had a sahm vs. wohm. They are all the same. Since both my children have and are going through daycare, I totally disagree with the statement that kids in daycare have more behavorial problems. Kids always had problems if their mothers were home or not. Not all kids are disciplined and I see many a sahm that does not discipline their children because it is just easier to let them do what they want.
alot of working moms that i know.. ( and i am a working mom as well) spoil thier kids out of guilt of not being able to be home. Many of these teenagers have cell phones )(mine included) because it makes it easier to contact them and know where they are. i personally think and hope for my kids sake that if they are in a good daycare program that is motivating and educational and at home the parent s make the most of their time with their kids than absolutely a working mom can be even BETTER than a SAHM..it's not the fact that we have to work. i didn't mean to offend anyone.. i'm right there with you.. i just know alot of teenagers since i have one.
I totally agree with you. I am not the "guilty" type of person like that just because I work. I know I am doing the best for them by working so they can have a home and all the things they need in life.
No insult taken. I just get very defensive when people (not you because you were stating a point and you do wohm so you know how it is-lol!) try and say that kids are worse off now because more moms are working. Alot of people who have never used daycare don't know that it can a great thing.
just a note about daycare as well.. my kids didn't go to daycare honestly because i couldn't afford it ( they stay with my mom) but the preschoolers that DID go to daycare are MUCH more prepared for school than the ones who didn't.. they are educated and social and i wish i could've offered this to my kids! i hate being away from my kids but i love my career so i try the best to make the most of our time together.
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Re: Teenagers Today...
Posted by JTK
Posted by hazeleyes33
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Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by JTK
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by JTK
i think it has alot to do with the fact that more parents are working.. i know we all have to do it and it s*cks but our moms were home with us!
I have to disagree with that. You can have great kids and still work. It all has to do with the parenting. You can be a sahp and be the worst parent and have kids who are punks.
of course!! i'm not saying it's all parents that work..
I saw once my dd went to elementary school that you could not tell the difference between the child who had a sahm vs. wohm. They are all the same. Since both my children have and are going through daycare, I totally disagree with the statement that kids in daycare have more behavorial problems. Kids always had problems if their mothers were home or not. Not all kids are disciplined and I see many a sahm that does not discipline their children because it is just easier to let them do what they want.
alot of working moms that i know.. ( and i am a working mom as well) spoil thier kids out of guilt of not being able to be home. Many of these teenagers have cell phones )(mine included) because it makes it easier to contact them and know where they are. i personally think and hope for my kids sake that if they are in a good daycare program that is motivating and educational and at home the parent s make the most of their time with their kids than absolutely a working mom can be even BETTER than a SAHM..it's not the fact that we have to work. i didn't mean to offend anyone.. i'm right there with you.. i just know alot of teenagers since i have one.
I totally agree with you. I am not the "guilty" type of person like that just because I work. I know I am doing the best for them by working so they can have a home and all the things they need in life.
No insult taken. I just get very defensive when people (not you because you were stating a point and you do wohm so you know how it is-lol!) try and say that kids are worse off now because more moms are working. Alot of people who have never used daycare don't know that it can a great thing.
just a note about daycare as well.. my kids didn't go to daycare honestly because i couldn't afford it ( they stay with my mom) but the preschoolers that DID go to daycare are MUCH more prepared for school than the ones who didn't.. they are educated and social and i wish i could've offered this to my kids! i hate being away from my kids but i love my career so i try the best to make the most of our time together.
Yes. When my daughter was in her last year of daycare, they spent a certain amount of hours doing pre-k work so they would be prepared.
I would love to be home too but I need to work for financial reasons and am glad that my kids are in good hands when I am at work.
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Posted by nrthshgrl
I don't think it's teenagers TODAY. I think it's teenagers in general.
Every generation went through the same phase where they were too cool for their parents & started the Mean Girls pecking order.
We think kids are spoiled today but every older generation think the younger generation was that way. I will say this...while they may have it "easier" today, economically they will be burdened like never no other generation before once they hit adulthood.
I agree.
I also think you really have to know them before you (and that's the general "you") make generalizations. There are jerky teenagers, just like there are jerky adults and jerky 4 year olds. There were spoiled kids when we were young, just like there are now.
I know I am totally in the minority, but I LOVE teenagers (on the average...hehehe)!!! Then again, I would hope so, I teach about 150 of them each year! Most of them are so full of life and energy--as a result, I'm convinced I'm still a teenager too!
Shows like "My Super Sweet 16" don't help the stereotypes. That's also an example of the parents "ruining" the children. Trust me, most kids are not like that.
Having said all of that--I'm still scared out of my wits to raise a teenage daughter one day!!!
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Re: Teenagers Today...
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by JTK
i think it has alot to do with the fact that more parents are working.. i know we all have to do it and it s*cks but our moms were home with us!
I have to disagree with that. You can have great kids and still work. It all has to do with the parenting. You can be a sahp and be the worst parent and have kids who are punks.
I agree. Makes no difference whether you are a working parent or not. It does have to do with the parenting.
It's funny how when I was a teenager I always used to roll my eyes whenever my mom made a comment about us "teenagers". Now here I am saying the same things my mother said to me...LOL
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Posted by JTK
i think it has alot to do with the fact that more parents are working.. i know we all have to do it and it s*cks but our moms were home with us!
I have to disagree. My mom worked and wasn't home with me. However, I knew that, if I messed up, I had to deal with her and that wasn't good for anyone. My children knew the same thing and I never once had a problem. Even though I was a SAHM, I wasn't with them 24/7. When they left the house, they were on their own. I just had to hope for the best. Both my daughters told me, they were more afraid of coming home and telling me that they were in trouble than anything else. So, they never were in trouble. Even when they were at the mall and their friends would brag about the "five-finger discounts" they were getting, they would never get involved. They were polite and respectul to adults because I required it. There weren't any problems in school because they knew I wouldn't stand for it. They had everything and anything they desired, but, they knew that I could take it away as quickly as I gave it. There wasn't any "smart mouth" or "back talk", yet, they always expressed their opinions. There were curfews and they had to obey them. It's called "discipline" and, that's what missing today.
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