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Diane
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Tell me to stay strong......Do I tonight??
Matthew is now up and he has been crying for 30 minutes and it is killing me Im letting him CIO for the first time and he is crying so hard and trying to get up....give me the strength to NOT give in
Do I pick him up and try to console him or just let him cry??
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Charly
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Re: Tell me to stay strong......
I don't know anything about CIO Diane, but I wanted to give you hugs
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| Posted 3/23/07 11:18 PM |
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Diane
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Re: Tell me to stay strong......
It is killing me already
Im a BAD mommy, because I know Im going to give in
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| Posted 3/23/07 11:20 PM |
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Charly
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Re: Tell me to stay strong......
I'm soooo sorry. I know how painful it is to listen to your baby cry, however many women on this site have had a lot of success with it.
Is this your first time using it on him? I think you may want to try to soothe him....but again I'm not sure.
ETA: you aren't a bad mommy if you give in. Maybe you need to do a little more research on how to do it first so you are more comfortable with trying it.
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| Posted 3/23/07 11:28 PM |
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luvsun27
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Re: Tell me to stay strong......
Have you gone in to soothe him without picking him up? Rub his back/belly?
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| Posted 3/23/07 11:32 PM |
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Diane
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Re: Tell me to stay strong......
Posted by luvsun27
Have you gone in to soothe him without picking him up? Rub his back/belly?
no, he keeps crying then stops for a few minutes.... than cries again
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| Posted 3/23/07 11:33 PM |
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Re: Tell me to stay strong......
I never had the strength to let any of my kids CIO I am such a wuss
I used to drive them around until they fell asleep
I said I wouldnt do this with Brianna and I haventI swaddle her and for now that is working
when the time comes to put her in the crib at bedtime (she is still in the bassinet) I dont know what I am gonna do
so I am sending hugs to you now because I know this must be so hard for you
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| Posted 3/23/07 11:34 PM |
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luvsun27
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Re: Tell me to stay strong......
Posted by Diane
Posted by luvsun27
Have you gone in to soothe him without picking him up? Rub his back/belly?
no, he keeps crying then stops for a few minutes.... than cries again
How long does he stop for? I would keep up the good work. I know it's hard...but after a few rough nights...it will get easier.
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| Posted 3/23/07 11:38 PM |
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luvsun27
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Re: Tell me to stay strong......
Does Christopher sleep through the night?
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Diane
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Re: Tell me to stay strong......
Posted by luvsun27
Does Christopher sleep through the night?
yes...thank goodness he does.
He stops for a good minute or 2 then starts again. I just went in there to change him because he flipped over.
They are belly sleepers, and now he is crying again.....in a deep cry.
Im in the basement now because I sant stand to hear the cry.
My bedroom is right next to theirs....I just hope Christopher stays asleep
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luvsun27
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Re: Tell me to stay strong......
DD is also a belly sleeper. I try to rub her back/bottom or push down on her to rock her...without picking her up.
Good luck
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Diane
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Re: Tell me to stay strong......
thanks
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Re: Tell me to stay strong......
Stay strong Diane!
We waited too long to CIO & failed miserably as a result.
If you're a horrible mom for not letting him CIO, than I paved the way in that category.
Maybe if you think about it as 30 less minutes he'll have less to cry than if you go in, pick him up & try CIO again.
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| Posted 3/23/07 11:49 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: Tell me to stay strong......
I would go in and console him but don't pick him up. Assure him that he's OK and it's time for sleep. Maybe help lay him down and rub his back a little to soothe him then leave again. CIO doensn't have to be long intervals of crying.
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Diane
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Re: Tell me to stay strong......
uggg....so he saw me and now he is crying full force again and now Christopher is starting to wake
Please tell me this is going to work
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monkeybride
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Re: Tell me to stay strong......
Posted by Diane
uggg....so he saw me and now he is crying full force again and now Christopher is starting to wake
Please tell me this is going to work
Is their any possible way to do it separate? Like put Christopher in a pack n play in another room until you get a routine established?
Does he wake often or just once to be fed? I know you posted but I don't remember.
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Diane
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Re: Tell me to stay strong......
Posted by monkeybride
Posted by Diane
uggg....so he saw me and now he is crying full force again and now Christopher is starting to wake
Please tell me this is going to work
Is their any possible way to do it separate? Like put Christopher in a pack n play in another room until you get a routine established?
Does he wake often or just once to be fed? I know you posted but I don't remember.
I wanted to put Matthew in the pack n play, but I didnt. i wanted them to get used to each other's crying.
It is now going on 2 hours.....now Im getting so mad because Im so tired...what if he is really hungry??
But I came this far Im NOT giving in, but it is so tempting
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| Posted 3/24/07 12:54 AM |
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monkeybride
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Re: Tell me to stay strong......
I'm sorry I'm not great with advice because I never did full on CIO, I always soothed her or fed her.
Is he settling down at all?
I'm not trying to discourage you at all from doing what you think is best but Miranda is just the type of baby that gets more wound up the longer she is upset about anything. Like if we put her to bed and she's laying down fussing/crying it ends in a minute or two because she knows she tired and needs to go to sleep but if she's standing up screaming and throwing her babies out of her crib then no matter how long we leave her she is not going to settle down and go to sleep so we just go get her and let her play 15 minutes more and then put her back and she usually goes right down.
I just wonder if Matthew and Christopher are different and just have different needs and personalities. I can't imagine how hard it is with two and one of them not sleeping through the night.
Ugggh I guess I didn't give you any good CIO advice, it's just that after 2 hours he might be too worked up to settle back down. KWIM?
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Diane
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Re: Tell me to stay strong......
Jen...I appreciate your advice...he is chewing on his hand which now makes me believe he is now hungry, but Christopher now went back to sleep (for now..I hope)
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monkeybride
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Re: Tell me to stay strong......
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Jen...I appreciate your advice...he is chewing on his hand which now makes me believe he is now hungry, but Christopher now went back to sleep (for now..I hope)
Will he take a bottle and just go to sleep?
Most of the CIO mom seems to have had 45min-1 hour be their longest before sleep. Maybe he really is hungry. 
Have you FM'd Mrs.R? She was the resident expert when she did it with Talia and she'll give you better support than me.
Maybe try again tomorrow so you can get some sleep. Aren't you on your own tomorrow because DH is away? Definitely make sure you get some rest.
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yankinmanc
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Re: Tell me to stay strong......
Personally I think with CIO, you have to know what your own limit is and be comfortable with it. For instance, I never let Noah cry for more than 25 minutes. If he seems too hysterical at 10 minutes, he come out and I take him downstairs for a break.
Just make sure you are comfortable with what your limits are. Don't go beyond them.
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twicethefun
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Re: Tell me to stay strong......
I couldn't do it either....so I brought the book by Ferber, solve your child's sleep problems. I would then go in briefly at intervals and rub his back and tell him I loved him. In between visits I would read the Ferber book over and over. It gives good explanantions and encouragement....stating things like "you'r teaching your child to sleep on his/her own" "you're doing this for them" all true statements but reading them while listening to his screams would help. I really like the Ferber method and I know he got some slack for things people believe that he advocated, but I think when you read the book it's very good. People hear "ferber method and often try it just on hearsay. I would get the book
After two nights my son slept through the night like a champ. Of course now he's 3 and wakes up from nightmares all the time....UGGH
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AlohaMa
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Re: Tell me to stay strong......
oh Diane! I hope things got better
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Re: Tell me to stay strong......
I know how hard it is. What got me through is knowing that if I picked her up after she cried for an half hour or however long, that I just let her cry for no reason because if I picked her up it ruined the whole thing.
The key is to be consistant.
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