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Its4Real
LIF Toddler
Member since 6/10 393 total posts
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Wait and see
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Telling people i am TTC...
So I tell a coworker that I will be TTC and she basically tried to convince me not to!!!! She has 3 kids and was saying how she loves them but she is miserable! I had to actually justify why I am ready to have kids! It bothered me so much b/c I could not believe she was honestly attempting to talk me out of it!
I am so nervous to begin with, like extremely nervous, I really dont need you to tell me not to do it
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Posted 6/30/10 12:54 PM  |
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Egg
LIF Adolescent
Member since 5/09 627 total posts
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Re: Telling people i am TTC...
that is SO wrong and uncalled for. this is why I've told no one except my BFF (who besides this board, is giving me all sorts of tips).
People always think it's okay to offer their opinions, and everyone thinks they are an expert. I would NEVER tell co-workers b/c they already give me comments. My own boss (a man) tells me not to wait too long b/c i'm not getting any younger, and one of the secretaries (older) cannot fathom why I haven't had a baby yet - what else is there??  meanwhile, for all these people know I might have been trying for years with issues!! people are so insensitive.
tell her to mind her own business and STFU.
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| Posted 6/30/10 1:07 PM |
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Exarina
My Two Girls
Member since 12/09 1249 total posts
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Lisa Marie
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Re: Telling people i am TTC...
a lot of factors go into that....
like..how old is she...did she marry the first guy she ever dated
do her inlaws SUk
does she get help
does she HAVE to work
is her husband abusive?
Does her husband work nites?
Does her husband cheat on her?
Moral of the story - everyones different I would feel bad for her and move on!
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| Posted 6/30/10 1:28 PM |
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wants2bamom
Praying For A Miracle
Member since 10/09 1652 total posts
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Re: Telling people i am TTC...
Everyone has a different experience and just because she is miserable, doesnt mean she should rub her negativity onto you. I def. wouldnt tell her anything else going further. Also, try not to tell too many people because it REALLY starts to get annoying if you dont get preggo. I have people who ask me CONSTANTLY...."Are you pregnant???" "Soooooooooo do you have to tell me something??" ... it gets very annoying! Of course I would tell a few close friends, but thats about it. Good luck!!!
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| Posted 6/30/10 1:31 PM |
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Harlow-J
Mason's mommy!
Member since 12/09 3623 total posts
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Jen
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Re: Telling people i am TTC...
Ugh just ignore her! You don't need her bad energy around you! 
Don't tell her anything else and when you get your BFP make sure she's the last to know (she'll probably feel stupid for saying that eventually).
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| Posted 6/30/10 3:03 PM |
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springsandra
Baby girl has a baby brother!
Member since 11/09 7155 total posts
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Sandra
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Re: Telling people i am TTC...
I feel like people did the same thing to me when I told them we got engaged... it's like they believe talking about how miserable they are in their lives has anything to do with how the rest of us are.
Other people you tell will be super excited for you and will gush -- which is probably more of the reaction you expect. You're confident in your path and don't let any bitter people get you down.
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| Posted 6/30/10 7:32 PM |
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ItsaJoya19
my cup runneth over
Member since 1/10 2949 total posts
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Re: Telling people i am TTC...
i know someone who does this and it's like no matter how bad you make it out to be or how "horrible" you say being pg and giving birth is that is not going to stop me from starting MY family. not all pregnancies are alike and not all mommies feelings about having kids are alike. just ignore her and move on. i wouldn't share anything TTC related with her again.
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| Posted 6/30/10 8:29 PM |
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EmiNoa628
She is the cutest Island EVER!
Member since 8/08 1063 total posts
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Emz
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Re: Telling people i am TTC...
Lots of ppl would say things like that.. I remember before when we were not even thinking about children.. PPL would say"ohh your whole life change.." .. "It makes you miserable that you dont have me time"..
I think we have had lots of me time and we are a normal couple in love with lots of accomplishments. MY WHOLE FAMILY and DH's ONLY ASK 3MILLION times when we going to start... Now they will be delighted to get the news..
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| Posted 6/30/10 9:20 PM |
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mrsyoungmommy
can't wait to meet Sophia!
Member since 6/10 1441 total posts
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Danielle
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Re: Telling people i am TTC...
people at my office say this too..i always get the tried and true "you guys are so young, and only married a year! go out and travel!!" yea thanks  i would love to go waste money on travelling when we are trying to save for a house on long island. thanks jerks.
don't listen to them! and good luck!
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| Posted 6/30/10 10:53 PM |
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hotsauce345
my love, my life, my son
Member since 1/09 4169 total posts
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Melody
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Re: Telling people i am TTC...
unfortunately I have someone very close to me whom I told about Brooke's reading and I was like "aww yeaah, she said it would be a girl...I always thought I'd have a boy first" and she blurted out so fast "maybe you should wait, I would wait..." as if waiting is gonna affect the sex of the baby!!! I don't care what I have...i just HOPED to have an older boy to watch after any sisters that may come.
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| Posted 6/30/10 11:17 PM |
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babydancer10
LIF Infant
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Re: Telling people i am TTC...
Posted by mrsyoungmommy
people at my office say this too..i always get the tried and true "you guys are so young, and only married a year! go out and travel!!" yea thanks i would love to go waste money on travelling when we are trying to save for a house on long island. thanks jerks.
don't listen to them! and good luck!
I HATE that! You took the words right out of my mouth.
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| Posted 7/1/10 9:01 AM |
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w8andsee
LIF Adult
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Re: Telling people i am TTC...
ugh how annoying! if she was so miserable, why did she have 3????
whenever i get negative comments from parents with multiple kids, I tell them well it can't be that bad since you went ahead and had more than 1. . .
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| Posted 7/1/10 9:26 AM |
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