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mommysboy
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terrible 2's vent and any help appreciated
my son is 2yrs 8 months and it has begun the terrible 2s I guess. He has always been that baby since he was born that everyone has told me im lucky he has never cried, always listened to me it was great. But now overnight he has started not to listen at all, he throws temper tantrums and screams for no reason. I do my best to nip it in the bud I am into very strict discipline like he cant leave the dinner table till he finishes his meal so its not that Im easy on him.I dont believe in hitting although I have to admit he has gotten spanked on his bottom this week cause Im 33 weeks pregnant and whenever I go to pick him up he starts kicking at my belly. I dunno if this is starting because he has finally realized the baby is coming soon and is jelous because he is a mommies boy or hes just getting into the terrible 2's but Im at my wits end. my dh doesnt get home ill almost 8 at night and leaves before he is awake in the morning so me being a Sahm Im almost in tears by the time he gets home. Thank you for letting me vent and if you have any advice Ill take it
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sweetp
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Re: terrible 2's vent and any help appreciated
I am here with you sister...Tristan got out of the grocery cart today and led me on a wild goose chase through the parking lot, laughing the whole time, he thought we were playing a game. He has always been good and listened, what happened to my sweet baby and why was he replaced with this unrecognizable demon. Good luck, I just say stick it out we are bound to get our darlings back one day. I have heard this is the time when toddlers test boundaries, so you have to be tough and stick to your word so they know you mean business. I don't pay attention to tantrums and eventually he stops. I am SAHM also, and DH works until 6 so I at my wits end by then. It is not fair DH gets a sweet boy ready for bed and I get something that needs an excorcism...that's what it feels like sometimes. He is fine one minute and the next you tell him no and he turns into this screaming child that you just can not even deal with. Sorry I guess I needed to vent to.
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| Posted 10/20/06 2:37 PM |
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LexiBear212
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Re: terrible 2's vent and any help appreciated
What you're going through is totally normal, I have a 3 1/2 year old daughter and when she was 2 1/2 if she didn't get what she wanted she through the most horrifying temper tantrum I have ever seen, I didn't know what to do with her but as she got older and I learned how to ignore her she sees that screaming isn't working she will stop. I also have a 2 year old son and im totally ready for him, I know now what to do and how to react to him. Best thing to do if you're child starts when you're out you might have to just leave what you're doing to show that they aren't going to get away with it! Hope everything works out!! IT DID FOR ME
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| Posted 10/20/06 3:08 PM |
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mommysboy
my beautiful baby is here :-)
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Re: terrible 2's vent and any help appreciated
Posted by sweetp
It is not fair DH gets a sweet boy ready for bed and I get something that needs an excorcism...that's what it feels like sometimes. He is fine one minute and the next you tell him no and he turns into this screaming child that you just can not even deal with. Sorry I guess I needed to vent to.
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I have to laugh at the exorcism part I actuatly asked him today if he was possesed lol so I understand what yu mean. I am glad I am not the only one dealin with this. I want my good boy back
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| Posted 10/20/06 3:34 PM |
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DRMom
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Re: terrible 2's vent and any help appreciated
Well I'm not a Mom but my nephew is almost 3 and when he was 2 he was given time outs for bad behavior. They can understand that now so maybe try that when at home?
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| Posted 10/20/06 4:21 PM |
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mommysboy
my beautiful baby is here :-)
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Re: terrible 2's vent and any help appreciated
Posted by melijane
Well I'm not a Mom but my nephew is almost 3 and when he was 2 he was given time outs for bad behavior. They can understand that now so maybe try that when at home?
yeah I try that I put him in his room and all but he just keeps freaking out. I know my aunt tries that with her 5 yr old and it doesnt really help
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| Posted 10/20/06 4:36 PM |
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ILJ619
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Re: terrible 2's vent and any help appreciated
I feel your pain. My daughter is 2 yrs 2 months old and she started her terrible 2's very early. My mom says I was that way too 
She would throw herself on the floor in a temper tantrum and start screaming it was really hard to take her to the stores. But I bought this book 1,2,3 Magic and its kind of old but I found it works for us.
I won't lie and say she is tantrum free but over time they have gotten to be less and less. Also the book kind of walks you through time-outs which have worked really well for us. I tell her you want time-out and most times she will correct her behavior on her own. We still have our moments though 
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| Posted 10/20/06 4:38 PM |
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KSJ1210
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shannon
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Re: terrible 2's vent and any help appreciated
I feel your pain... lol My Daughter has started with the terrible 2's She was always the baby that everyone always commented on how good she was and sometimes I feel as if she was switched somehow.. lol She is also very in to the Mine Mine Mine stage. Just curious if you ladies have any advice on how to handle this when attending a mommy and me like class as if I try to disipline her in class she throws a tantrum. 
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| Posted 10/20/06 4:43 PM |
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mommysboy
my beautiful baby is here :-)
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Re: terrible 2's vent and any help appreciated
Posted by KSJ1210
I feel your pain... lol My Daughter has started with the terrible 2's She was always the baby that everyone always commented on how good she was and sometimes I feel as if she was switched somehow.. lol She is also very in to the Mine Mine Mine stage. Just curious if you ladies have any advice on how to handle this when attending a mommy and me like class as if I try to disipline her in class she throws a tantrum.
we had the mine mine mine thing to about 2 months ago and honestly everytime he would say mine wed take the toy or whatever it was away from him and tell him he has to share and if hed say mine hed get it taken away I think it has worked pretty good he hasnt done it lately and he has gotten pretty good about sharing
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| Posted 10/20/06 5:06 PM |
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avamamma
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Re: terrible 2's vent and any help appreciated
My daughter turned 2 in July. When she has a meltdown in public, I offer her a lollipop or stickers to distract her. It works pretty well.
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Kidsaplenty
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Re: terrible 2's vent and any help appreciated
Posted by mommysboy
Posted by melijane
Well I'm not a Mom but my nephew is almost 3 and when he was 2 he was given time outs for bad behavior. They can understand that now so maybe try that when at home?
yeah I try that I put him in his room and all but he just keeps freaking out. I know my aunt tries that with her 5 yr old and it doesnt really help
They always freak out when you first try time out. My DD would scream and cry on the floor. I wouldn't talk to her or look at her when she was in the corner. After 5-6 times she would stand up straight with her face in the corner. Most of the time when they do things they are testing you. They want to see if they can get away with things. For examply, when he kicks at your stomach when you try to pick him up, just lay him back of the floor. Tell him you won't pick him up until he can behave himself.
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Kidsaplenty
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Re: terrible 2's vent and any help appreciated
Posted by avamamma
My daughter turned 2 in July. When she has a meltdown in public, I offer her a lollipop or stickers to distract her. It works pretty well.
Thats rewarding bad behavior IMO
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| Posted 10/20/06 10:48 PM |
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ddunne2
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Re: terrible 2's vent and any help appreciated
I ignore the tantrums and walk away. Then I make him tell me he is sorry. His new thing it to come up to me right away and say "kiss" as if he wants to beat me to the punch because he knows he's done something wrong!!
Its all about them testing and seeing how much they can get away with. You have to remember that yes they are only two, but two year olds know more than we think and test the limits everyday.
Just try not to give in and don't reward the behavoir in any way.
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| Posted 10/21/06 8:59 AM |
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mommysboy
my beautiful baby is here :-)
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Re: terrible 2's vent and any help appreciated
Posted by ddunne2
I ignore the tantrums and walk away. Then I make him tell me he is sorry. His new thing it to come up to me right away and say "kiss" as if he wants to beat me to the punch because he knows he's done something wrong!!
Its all about them testing and seeing how much they can get away with. You have to remember that yes they are only two, but two year olds know more than we think and test the limits everyday.
Just try not to give in and don't reward the behavoir in any way.
my son does the same thing about the kiss.we also started to teach him o say sorry. believe me in no way do I rewards a bad behavior if he throws a toy he doesnt get it back it goes in a draw or gets thrown out depending on what kind of toy it was. for example the other night we were at home depot he had one of those car room things for painting he was looking at the pictures and he started flipping cause i needed to hold his hand so he threw the thing and my friend was gonna give it back to him i said no leave it there he doesnt get back things he throws I grabbed his hand and he stopped his tantrum in about 2 minutes probably cause i didnt give in. my friend said she was impressed because most mothers she sees gives in so the kid wont cry
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