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CJC25
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those who use CIO method Advise please...
DD sleeps in our bed. It just happened as a way for me to get sleep when she was very little and us being in a one bedroon apartment at the time it just made it easier. We moved into a 3 bedroom 6 months ago and she has her own room with a beautiful crib. I do try but she will only sleep for a short period of time in it. I feel horrible when she screams because being with us is really all she knows. I know it is not her fault so I give in and bring her into bed with us. She is now 9 months and I REALLY want her sleeping in her crib. I try to get her use to it by napping in it and playing in it. I just do not know how to go about letting her cry herself to sleep...is it too late have I totally ruined her. I am so weak when she crys for us...I can really use some help.
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Re: those who use CIO method Advise please...
Believe me, I know the feeling.
But if you choose to let her cry you have to just do it.
Letting her cry for awhile then giving in is just torturing her, IMO. But I know how hard it is, and have done it too.
If you really want to do it you just have to do it and be consistant. We did it at 6 months and it was awful but worked. Over a long period of time she reverted back to her old ways of sleeping with us (our fault obviously) so we had to do it again at 13 months and it wasn;t nearly as hard the 2nd time (she didn't cry as long or as hard).
Good luck with whatever you decide but I feel stongly that if you are going to start it you have to be willing to follow it through.
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| Posted 2/18/07 8:48 PM |
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Calla
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Re: those who use CIO method Advise please...
You haven't ruined her!! 
As mentioned above, if you do decide to go the CIO route you absolutely have to be consistent. Think of it like pulling off a bandaid. It may hurt more in the beginning, but the pain will be over much faster!!
If you are uncomfortable with CIO, you may want to check out Pantley's book The No Cry Sleep Solution. My daughter didn't have the right temperment for this approach, but I've heard of a lot of other parents that have been successful with it.
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monkeybride
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Re: those who use CIO method Advise please...
You haven't ruined her at all. You'll just have to be patient. I personally don't really do CIO. I have never really let DD cry for more than a few minutes (except on rare occasions where I couldn't take anymore).
We were lucky that she transitioned to her crib well but we still went through periods where she didn't want to go to sleep.
I think certain things are crucial.
First, put your DD in the crib awake but tired. You have to catch her before she is overtired or you're already fighting an uphill battle.
Also consistency is key. Naptime, bedtime should be the same time every day until you are into a really good routine.
As for crying...first distinguish crying vs fussing.
DD was a fusser for a long time. She would cry out/whimper, roll around or play then cry out or whimper. She would repeat this and finally fall asleep.
If she actually was crying I would give it a minute then I would go in and try to soothe her without taking her out of the crib. If that didn't work I would rock her to settle her down and then put her back in.
Eventually they get. A lot of babies have to be taught how to sleep but it doens't have to involve having them cry in hysterics for long periods of time IMO.
A lot of people like the No Cry Sleep Solution (not sure of the author). I never read it but I thin a lot of what we do follows it.
Good Luck!
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| Posted 2/18/07 9:45 PM |
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CJC25
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Re: those who use CIO method Advise please...
Thank you girls. I know I have to be strict about having her sleep in her crib. It is so hard hearing her cry. I do put her in when she tired and she will fall asleep but she while only sleep for about 2 hours and wake up looking for me.
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LuvMy2Girls
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Re: those who use CIO method Advise please...
Posted by CJC25
Thank you girls. I know I have to be strict about having her sleep in her crib. It is so hard hearing her cry. I do put her in when she tired and she will fall asleep but she while only sleep for about 2 hours and wake up looking for me.
I know how hard it is to hear her cry, i can't hear DD crying for more than a few minutes either.
When she wakes up a couple hours later, go in, don't turn the lights on, don't make eye contact, just soothe her and comfort her.
It def helps if she falls asleep in her crib and not your arms, otherwise if she falls asleep in your arms she wakes up and realizes you aren't there and will cry.
I agree with the above posters, consistency is key, once you start the transition the first week will be hard, but giving in after making her cry will just make it worse and all that crying will be for nothing.
I am not for CIO, but i did read the no cry sleep solution, i liked it, but it was a little too soft for me, I use a mixture of those techniques, and a tiny bit of CIO, meaning i don't let her scream for more than a couple minutes, I just couldn't bear it.
Def try to distinquish fussing from real crying, my DD will fuss for 15 minutes sometimes at night, but i won't go in for fussing, just for real crying.
Good luck!
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