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MrsGmomof3
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Re: Those with younger kids and Birthday Parties?
Options:
*find a sitter
*drop your child off at the party and pick her up when its over
*carpool
*skip the party
Under no circumstances would I bring my other children to a party that just one was invited to. IMO, its rude and puts an unfair burden on the hosts. Even if the siblings to not "participate", they are still sitting there watching a bunch of other kids have fun, and thats mean.
No siblings.
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Posted 10/23/10 4:21 PM  |
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justmefornow
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Re: Those with younger kids and Birthday Parties?
Posted by MrsGmomof3
Options:
*find a sitter
*drop your child off at the party and pick her up when its over
*carpool
*skip the party
Under no circumstances would I bring my other children to a party that just one was invited to. IMO, its rude and puts an unfair burden on the hosts. Even if the siblings to not "participate", they are still sitting there watching a bunch of other kids have fun, and thats mean.
No siblings.
So, if you were having a party for your DC and a parent asked to bring a sibling (because they didn't have a sitter, and the child that you invited is still sort of young to be dropped off), would you actually tell them NO? That's what I find would be difficult, even if I don't necessarily want them to bring another child, I wouldn't come right out and say "sorry no you can't bring your other DC."
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| Posted 10/23/10 6:07 PM |
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twicethefun
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Re: Those with younger kids and Birthday Parties?
Posted by justmefornow
Posted by MrsGmomof3
Options:
*find a sitter
*drop your child off at the party and pick her up when its over
*carpool
*skip the party
Under no circumstances would I bring my other children to a party that just one was invited to. IMO, its rude and puts an unfair burden on the hosts. Even if the siblings to not "participate", they are still sitting there watching a bunch of other kids have fun, and thats mean.
No siblings.
So, if you were having a party for your DC and a parent asked to bring a sibling (because they didn't have a sitter, and the child that you invited is still sort of young to be dropped off), would you actually tell them NO? That's what I find would be difficult, even if I don't necessarily want them to bring another child, I wouldn't come right out and say "sorry no you can't bring your other DC."
NO I probably would not say no, but I would be thinking that the other parent is way out of line. I would say yes though.
There was a parent who continually brought the sibling in our group, and yes people mentioned it. It is different if the parent is a single parent with little family in the area, but sometimes it just seems some parents do not want to leave their younger children home.
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| Posted 10/24/10 6:23 PM |
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Melissa77
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Re: Those with younger kids and Birthday Parties?
I leave the other child home but I am very fortunate to have a lot of family to help. If the other child wasn't invited, I would not ask. Maybe when declining say your reason and give them the option to offer bringing your other child. If someone asked me flat out, I would not say no because I would feel funny. I have also had people offer to pay for their other child but I felt funny taking their money so I ended up paying for them.
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| Posted 10/24/10 7:06 PM |
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MrsGmomof3
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Re: Those with younger kids and Birthday Parties?
Posted by justmefornow
So, if you were having a party for your DC and a parent asked to bring a sibling (because they didn't have a sitter, and the child that you invited is still sort of young to be dropped off), would you actually tell them NO? That's what I find would be difficult, even if I don't necessarily want them to bring another child, I wouldn't come right out and say "sorry no you can't bring your other DC."
Yes, I would say no and I HAVE said no.
If its been at a place where I am paying "per child" I have said "I am sorry, but no siblings are invited. We are under a strict budget and just cannot afford to include siblings". When its been at the house, I have said "No, I am sorry, the party is geared for (insert age of bday kid)."
Unless its an infant in a carrier, then it doesnt matter.
I know this sounds harsh to some, but once you allow one person to bring all their kids, then you have to let them all, and then before you know it, a party that 10 kids were invited to becomes a party with 20 kids, all different ages, and it no longer is a party for the birthday child and his/her friends. Its for the friends, siblings, parents.
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| Posted 10/24/10 7:33 PM |
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dawnygirl25
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Re: Those with younger kids and Birthday Parties?
Posted by MrsGmomof3
I know this sounds harsh to some, but once you allow one person to bring all their kids, then you have to let them all, and then before you know it, a party that 10 kids were invited to becomes a party with 20 kids, all different ages, and it no longer is a party for the birthday child and his/her friends. Its for the friends, siblings, parents.
this is exactly right!!!!!
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| Posted 10/24/10 8:24 PM |
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Merf99
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Re: Those with younger kids and Birthday Parties?
I'm not there yet personally since DD#2 is only 8 months and can't do anything anyway but I would try to find other options and not bring the sibling. It does put the host in a bad position because how can someone really say no? But bday parties are expensive. And like someone said, if it's a close friend the sibs are usually invited anyway. I don't want to pay for siblings of kids I had to invite because they are in DD's class.
We just had DD's 4th bday party. One mom told me that her 6 yr old was planning on staying home with his dad, but can she bring him because he wanted to "help" his little brother at the party. ***? The kid is 4, it was in a gym and the mom was staying. Why did she need to bring the 6 yr old when the dad was home? Buit what could I say???? no? I couldn't do that.
Another mom brought her son and didn't even tell me. They came late so I didn't notice them all come in. I looked in the foam ball pit and turned to one of my friends and said "who's that kid??" She said - "um it's so and so's brother!" Then the mom had this kid ask me for a goodie bag!!!
And one last one - a sibling came along and the dad was nice and had her sit on the side, but she was sitting there watching all of the other kids. How could I leave her there? Of course I couldn't so of course she came to play...
You see how it adds up?!
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| Posted 10/26/10 8:07 PM |
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FelAndJon
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Re: Those with younger kids and Birthday Parties?
Posted by Merf99
Another mom brought her son and didn't even tell me. They came late so I didn't notice them all come in. I looked in the foam ball pit and turned to one of my friends and said "who's that kid??" She said - "um it's so and so's brother!" Then the mom had this kid ask me for a goodie bag!!!
You have to be kidding me! In the 2 cases that I brought Dylan, I absolutely INSISTED on no goody bag for him. He wasn't invited!!
Message edited 10/28/2010 12:34:24 PM.
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| Posted 10/28/10 12:34 PM |
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