Toddler moms...how do you deal with
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btrflygrl
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Member since 5/05 12013 total posts
Name: Shana
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Toddler moms...how do you deal with
"I don't want to ______" add in go to sleep, eat, go inside, etc.
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Posted 3/28/08 9:09 AM |
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Eireann
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Re: Toddler moms...how do you deal with
I reply, "Well, you're going to." The end.
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Posted 3/28/08 9:10 AM |
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MyChip-n-Dales
lifes many lil twisted curves
Member since 10/07 5158 total posts
Name: aeriell
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Re: Toddler moms...how do you deal with
i just say yes.. and do it anyway....
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Posted 3/28/08 9:11 AM |
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Bxgell2
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Name: Beth
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Re: Toddler moms...how do you deal with
I have several techniques.
First, is leverage. If there's something she really likes, I tell her we'll do that when we get inside. Or, I'll tell her she can't have it unless she does ____.
Second, don't give her THAT choice. I mean, for example, if Alex doesn't want to go to sleep, I don't say to her, it's time for sleep, but instead give her OTHER options, like, ok, Alex, do you want Mommy to put on your pajamas or do you want to do it yourself? She usually says "I do it", and then proceeds to march into her bedroom to get ready for bed. I know this trick will only last for so long though.
Third, I tell her I'm going anyway. So, for example, if she's outside and doesn't want to come in, I tell her, ok, well mommy is going inside, bye-bye! Alex can't stand to play alone, so that usually gets her to start running into the house.
Fourth, I do the countdown method - I give her a warning. Then I tell her she has 5 seconds to do what I'm asking, otherwise I will do it for her, and will take her there myself. That used to work, now it's not quite as effective.
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Posted 3/28/08 9:15 AM |
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GoldenRod
10 years on LIF!
Member since 11/06 26792 total posts
Name: Shawn
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Re: Toddler moms...how do you deal with
I usually ask DS "Why?" I often find that when they are asked for reasons, they can't come up with one, and are more willing to go with your decision. That, or I give them a "choice". I give them two options, both of which give the end result of what *I* want, but it makes them *think* that they have some input into what goes on, and they are often more willing to go along with it.
It doesn't always work, and sometimes I do have to resort to "Well, too bad, Daddy says you have to", but I try and start with the above things first....
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Posted 3/28/08 9:16 AM |
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pharmcat2000
Mom of 2 + 1
Member since 10/05 7395 total posts
Name: Catherine
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Re: Toddler moms...how do you deal with
I usually just tell her "I know" or "that's okay, but you still have to" and then proceed with doing what I told her to do.
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Posted 3/28/08 4:13 PM |
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Mommy2Boys
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Name: C
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Re: Toddler moms...how do you deal with
I reply, "Well, you're going to." The end.
That's how it was in my family There was no bargaining...you did what you were told when you were told to do it. That didnt work so well when I became a teenager though
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Posted 3/28/08 4:49 PM |
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