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MrsZ2014
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Try or Not try?
My Husband and I are so torn so I'm turning to you guys for advice.
We got married in October and have been living together for the past 2 years. We recently bought our first house and just finished remodeling. We're going on vacation next week which happens to be my ovulation week and we want to start trying but my sister said something about enjoying the house first. We don't really go out much so it wouldn't be too much of a damper on our social lives but we keep going back to that statement.
Thoughts? anyone have something similar?
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MrsO
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Re: Try or Not try?
I say try but not like you try. More of wing it. If it happens it does and if it doesn't no worries.
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| Posted 5/5/15 6:11 PM |
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Honestly it's a completely personal decision but going by my experience I would tell you that if you truly feel like your ready for a family then why wait? The house will always be there, and just as you can enjoy it with your husband a baby will only add to that enjoyment. I feel like we try to plan out our lives so perfectly sometimes that we forget that we're not always in control. It took my DH and I 2.5 years of trying plus fertility treatments to finally get pregnant. We never ever would've thought that we would be down that road but life throws you curve balls sometimes. I'm just glad that we didnt wait another couple of years to start trying. I'm not at all saying that this will be your case and it most likely won't but if your ready then just go for it! And people will always give you their opinions and try and make you question your decisions but honestly it's not about them so don't make anyone persuade you. Good luck! Hopefully we'll see you back on these boards soon as an expecting mommy!
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| Posted 5/5/15 6:19 PM |
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ElizaRags35
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Re: Try or Not try?
Posted by PrayingForBaby747
Honestly it's a completely personal decision but going by my experience I would tell you that if you truly feel like your ready for a family then why wait? The house will always be there, and just as you can enjoy it with your husband a baby will only add to that enjoyment. I feel like we try to plan out our lives so perfectly sometimes that we forget that we're not always in control. It took my DH and I 2.5 years of trying plus fertility treatments to finally get pregnant. We never ever would've thought that we would be down that road but life throws you curve balls sometimes. I'm just glad that we didnt wait another couple of years to start trying. I'm not at all saying that this will be your case and it most likely won't but if your ready then just go for it! And people will always give you their opinions and try and make you question your decisions but honestly it's not about them so don't make anyone persuade you. Good luck! Hopefully we'll see you back on these boards soon as an expecting mommy!
I agree with this. We started TTCing when still living in our apartment. 10 months later we moved into our house, and nearly 2 years after that, we finally conceived. You just never know how long it'll take.
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Lara&Aidansmommy
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Totally your choice. My dh and I didnt officially start trying till we were married for one year. We bought a house together a couple of months before we got married, but never lived together until we were husband/wife. If your both ready, i would start. Good luck!!!!!
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ThreeforTea
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Try or Not try?
I honestly don't see how one has to do with the other. You can enjoy the house while still having kids. Do what's best for you. GL!
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Mrs213
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Try or Not try?
Try! You have years to enjoy your home and grow yoir family there
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| Posted 5/5/15 8:52 PM |
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MrsZ2014
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Try or Not try?
Thanks for all the feedback ladies! Maybe you'll see me around here soon =)
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| Posted 5/5/15 9:54 PM |
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Ellsey10
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Try or Not try?
DH and I lived together, bought a house after 2 year and got married in October also. After the wedding I got off the pill and said whatever happens happens. We're due in December and can't be more excited. Truthfully, you have to do what's good for you both and what's going to make you happy. Good luck and enjoy vacation!
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MrsS1231
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Try or Not try?
I brought my house April 2014, did renos and moved in Memorial Day weekend. We didn't get to truly enjoy is last summer because we were always doing something for the house (and it will continue). I was looking forward to enjoying this summer (I have pool) but got pregnant faster than I thought I would be and I'm due in September.
There will always be a reason NOT to try - money, work, school, family, vacations etc. If you wait for the "right" time, it may never happen. Just go for it. Like others have said, it may not happen right away.
It took me about 4 months of actively trying/tracking but I was off BC since April.
GL and don't stress it.
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LuckyStar
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Try or Not try?
I feel like I've heard people say they regret waiting and not much the other way around (though I can't imagine anyone would say they regret their child!)
That being said, I don't know a single person IRL who chucked their bc right after their wedding. I honestly didn't even know it was a thing till these boards. You need to be 100% ready and if there is any doubt in your mind there is nothing wrong with waiting.
It's a very personal decision that only you and your DH can make. Have a great vacation!
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| Posted 5/6/15 3:46 PM |
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NervousNell
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Posted by LuckyStar
I feel like I've heard people say they regret waiting and not much the other way around (though I can't imagine anyone would say they regret their child!)
That being said, I don't know a single person IRL who chucked their bc right after their wedding. I honestly didn't even know it was a thing till these boards. You need to be 100% ready and if there is any doubt in your mind there is nothing wrong with waiting.
It's a very personal decision that only you and your DH can make. Have a great vacation!
This. It's a very personal decision that only you can make.
I waited almost 10 years after getting married. For me, it took that long to be ready and even then I wasn't ready to be pregnant on the first try and I freaked out . I really thought I'd have longer to get used to the idea, but no.
So make sure you are ready and realize it can happen really fast.
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