you're right. there are still a lot of questions left unanswered. especially, since we just go back to the same "stuff" two days later.
i'm hoping that tonight, with having had some breathing room, we'll be able to discuss things calmly. i'm going to approach him about getting counseling, because we've been able to get us "here", so maybe someone else can get us somewhere else.
again, thank you for all your kind words and for thinking of me.