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I don't have any advice as for the sleeping...although I have read that children aren't developmentally ready for a bed until close to 3 years old. I have no experience myself in that matter...

But I want to tell you not to be too hard on yourself. My DD fell at least 3 feet from the playground equipment yesterday when I turned my back. I was devastated and embarassed in front of other moms. But, Katherine was fine in the end, just shaken up--just like Alyssa. And the experience taught me to be vigilant at all times. Things happen for a reason sometimes and I bet it makes you a better mom in the end.

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You are NOT a bad mommy!!!!!

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Don't worry, it happens to many mommies. Jared jumped out of his crib onto the hard wood floors and landed on his head as well. I cried my eyes out and got him a mattress that very same day. We all have those "horrible mommy" stories.

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You are not a bad mommy....not at all. From what your saying looks like DD will be OK.

I agree about her probably needing sleep training all over. Can you put her in her crib and stay with her...then get closer and closer to the door until she sleeps?

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oh dont feel like a bad Mommy it happens.when my 5yr old DD was only afew weeks old a little 1 yr old pulled her right off the couch and I was sitting RIGHT there who knew that was gonna happen
I cried hysterically because I felt that I could have done something to prevent it but what could I have done?
I really have no advice on the sleep situation because both my first 2 DDs were cosleepers but my 7mth old DD actually enjoys her crib

GOOD LUCK!!!!!

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You are not a horrible Mommy

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If she starts vomiting or seems unusually sleepy or out of sorts, I might have her checked...esp if she vomits...otherwise chances are she is fine and its one of many falls she will take.

In my opinion...and my son has sleep issues, so I am not the best one to ask, I would get her out of your bed for her own safety. Its really hard I know , but you do not want to deal with these issues down the line as I am.....and I did not let him sleep in my bed unitl after he was two and he occasionally climbed in without my knowledge. When my son was still in his crib, music soothed him, still does. He has one of those cd players that repeat plays thru the night. Just an idea.

I would not take her out of the crib, it may only make things worse AND she will have easier access to your room.

You are not a terrible mommy. all kids fall, we all make mistakes, and everything is not black and white. In the long run this too shall pass with no permanent damage done. You are doing your best. Maybe dh needs to help you out at night so you are not so tired that you need to sleep and she ends up in your bed. I've been there done that.

JMO>

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That happened to me once, but we were camping, I was a mess. I thought for sure I gave him a concussion but there he was happy and smiling. I think every parent has done it at least once, nobody is 100% perfect. I used to lay in my DS's room on the floor until he went to sleep and eventually it worked. Good luck, and don't beat yourself up, I am sure you are a wonderful Mommy, otherwise you wouldn't be so upset over this.

Message edited 8/10/2007 2:06:17 PM.

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bump for the update (on top)

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Oh no! I just read this now. Thank goodness she is ok. Hang in there, you'll work it out with the sleep issues

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Jules too has fallen out of our bed...glad all is ok!!!!

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Posted by dawnygirl25

****UPDATE I just wanted to thank all of you ladies for the hugs and advice - you are all wonderful! Aly did fine today - she slept a lot due to loosing sleep last night but otherwise was her happy self. thank goodness....
Now the fun part begins tonight because I wont be taking her in bed withy us when she wakes in the middle of the night, UGH wish me luck

You'll do great!! It may take a night or two but Aly will adjust to the "new norm." Be firm and know that what you are doing is for the best.

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I think the idea of giving her something that she has every night at bedtime might help. Marron has the same music play for her when it is time to sleep. it is actually the music box from her mobile that we just detached the little animals from. She also gets her binky at bedtime.

If she gets really upset during the night, you may want to go in and calm her down, and then try telling her "It's time to sleep" and put her back down. I've had to do that a few times with Marron. In fact, sometimes she is very upset just because she dropped her binky and can't get it back. Once I gave it back to her, she'd stop crying and go back to sleep. It was then that I started putting multiple binkies in her crib with her. You might also be able to rock her back to sleep in her room, so she knows she has to go back to sleep but that she can't get into your bed, and then put her into her crib when she is almost asleep (or even fully asleep if you want). Then when she wakes up in her own bed, maybe she'll get the message. When nothing else worked and I knew she was fine, I just turned off the monitor until she fell asleep so I wasn't torturing myself by having the crying actually in my room with me.

Message edited 8/11/2007 3:32:18 AM.

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How did it go last night?

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