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DumpsterBaby
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Vent: Your gifts to the children in your life...
I have to say it. I'm peeved.
I am sick and tired of spending my hardearned money on some of the children in my family because they are completely ungrateful (I blame their parents) and I have NEVER EVER EVER EVER ONCE seen them play with something we got them or wear the clothes we got them. I mean, seriously!
These are kids we see on a daily/weekly basis. I put a lot of thought and money into giving them gifts that are practical/fit their personality/open them to new experiences/etc. I'm not handing them a generic baby doll.
It makes me not want to do that anymore. I love them, but give me a break. What's the point of barely getting a thank you before the gift is thrown to the wayside?
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Posted 12/17/11 7:45 PM  |
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Mushesgirl
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Re: Vent: Your gifts to the children in your life...
Holy ungrateful Batman! 
The only kid gifts i give are to my bff's little kids. And for the last 2 years they never even thanked me (yes i blame the parents). Last year i got her dd a little laptop toy, not cheap. I never saw it in their house, the kid never talked about it, and as far as i know it's stored in the attic
This year i didnt spend more than maybe 8 bucks on each kid.
My suggestion to you is to do the same. But you have a right to be mad.
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| Posted 12/17/11 8:12 PM |
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Blazesyth
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Re: Vent: Your gifts to the children in your life...
I used to do it too.. but not for the past few years. It always felt like all the money I spent and effort I put in was for nothing. So now they just get any toy I pick at the store, and a gift reciept. Kid already has it or doesnt like it? You can return it and choose what you want.
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| Posted 12/17/11 8:18 PM |
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drpepper318
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Re: Vent: Your gifts to the children in your life...
That would annoy me!!!
Myabe get them gift cards.
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| Posted 12/17/11 10:33 PM |
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newbie00
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Re: Vent: Your gifts to the children in your life...
that is why I only get gift cards......that way its up to the parents to decide what to get them and do the shopping
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| Posted 12/19/11 7:33 PM |
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springchick
make a wish
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Re: Vent: Your gifts to the children in your life...
like a PP said, now I buy cheap gift and don't put too much thought into it because they never say thank you! We used to live far from DH sister, I used to make sure to get her little daughter the cutest outfit and gift but for what, I never got a thank you. Now what I do is when Target get her toy clearance I grab whatever I find age appropriate and call it a day. The only person that make sure to send me a thank you is a friend of mine that even send me pictures of the baby wearing whatever outfit I send her. I take my time, put effort and money in her gift
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| Posted 12/19/11 7:43 PM |
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DrMeg
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Re: Vent: Your gifts to the children in your life...
I had one of my cousins ask me if he could return his giftcard to the store for cash, one year. I told him "No, but you can give it back to me if you are so ungrateful."
DH and I try hard to get the kids what they want, you should see the two of us going through Toy R us like "what the hell does Chuggington look like?" and "I think this is Olivia, but I am not sure."
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| Posted 12/20/11 9:51 AM |
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KittyGags
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Re: Vent: Your gifts to the children in your life...
We bought our 12 year old niece $150 uggs for her birthday and she opened the box, said yay and threw it on the floor. This was yesterday... 
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| Posted 12/21/11 9:57 PM |
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ItsTime2011
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Re: Vent: Your gifts to the children in your life...
This is why I stopped buying my sisters kids christmas presents. AND I told my sister the same. "Your kids are ungrateful, spoiled brats, I am trying to make ends meet and I don't need that kind of attitude, so no more presents"
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| Posted 12/23/11 7:55 AM |
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Mushesgirl
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Re: Vent: Your gifts to the children in your life...
Posted by KittyGags
We bought our 12 year old niece $150 uggs for her birthday and she opened the box, said yay and threw it on the floor. This was yesterday...
Oh haellll-no. I wouldnt have said a word but back into the box and back to the store and buy myself a spa day.
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| Posted 12/23/11 10:06 AM |
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DirtyBlonde
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Re: Vent: Your gifts to the children in your life...
I hope my little godson never does this 
I'd be so hurt
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| Posted 12/24/11 12:49 PM |
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lynnd126
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Re: Vent: Your gifts to the children in your life...
I'm crashing and maybe shedding some light. Some kids are ungrateful brats but a lot of kids just don't like a lot of toys. My own son actually enjoys /actively plays with maybe one in every ten things I pick. As he gets older it gets a little easier for me to think like him in the stores but we still have mostly fails. I think in general most playrooms are filled with unused unappreciated stuff. This year for xmas and birthdays i've been giving gift cards to go do something- movies, build a bear, children's museum- that type of stuff. Kids better appreciate an experience than some colorful plastic toy that's like all the toys they already have.
As for clothes, blame that on parents. If they don't wear it it's bc the parents didn't like it. I didn't give a ... what I was wearing until I was 10/11. Honestly, we got a lot of ugly clothes from people this xmas with no receipts. I'll end up donating them. I'll use stuff that's eh for playing etc but things I really don't like I'm not gonna put him in if there's plenty of other choices.
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| Posted 12/26/11 1:21 AM |
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Lisa
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Re: Vent: Your gifts to the children in your life...
Posted by lynnd126
I'm crashing and maybe shedding some light. Some kids are ungrateful brats but a lot of kids just don't like a lot of toys. My own son actually enjoys /actively plays with maybe one in every ten things I pick. As he gets older it gets a little easier for me to think like him in the stores but we still have mostly fails. I think in general most playrooms are filled with unused unappreciated stuff. This year for xmas and birthdays i've been giving gift cards to go do something- movies, build a bear, children's museum- that type of stuff. Kids better appreciate an experience than some colorful plastic toy that's like all the toys they already have.
As for clothes, blame that on parents. If they don't wear it it's bc the parents didn't like it. I didn't give a ... what I was wearing until I was 10/11. Honestly, we got a lot of ugly clothes from people this xmas with no receipts. I'll end up donating them. I'll use stuff that's eh for playing etc but things I really don't like I'm not gonna put him in if there's plenty of other choices.
sorry but this is total BS...children need to be taught by their parents that when they get a gift they should appreciate it. This is how children are taught manners....and not make excuses for their behavior....
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| Posted 12/26/11 8:29 AM |
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lynnd126
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Re: Vent: Your gifts to the children in your life...
Posted by Lisa
Posted by lynnd126
I'm crashing and maybe shedding some light. Some kids are ungrateful brats but a lot of kids just don't like a lot of toys. My own son actually enjoys /actively plays with maybe one in every ten things I pick. As he gets older it gets a little easier for me to think like him in the stores but we still have mostly fails. I think in general most playrooms are filled with unused unappreciated stuff. This year for xmas and birthdays i've been giving gift cards to go do something- movies, build a bear, children's museum- that type of stuff. Kids better appreciate an experience than some colorful plastic toy that's like all the toys they already have.
As for clothes, blame that on parents. If they don't wear it it's bc the parents didn't like it. I didn't give a ... what I was wearing until I was 10/11. Honestly, we got a lot of ugly clothes from people this xmas with no receipts. I'll end up donating them. I'll use stuff that's eh for playing etc but things I really don't like I'm not gonna put him in if there's plenty of other choices.
sorry but this is total BS...children need to be taught by their parents that when they get a gift they should appreciate it. This is how children are taught manners....and not make excuses for their behavior....
I guess u didn't really understand what I said. I never said a kid should not say thank you. I said (to address all the people who said that they never see their toys being played with) that most toys do not get played with. I meant that in general. Most toys collect dust. It has nothing to do with level of appreciation. Then I suggested gifts that give an experience. I also said you can't blame kids for not wearing clothes u gave- that's on mom.
If you don't have kids and ur ticked bc it seems like ur gifts to kids always go unused I would think maybe you'd appreciate the advice and also the explanation that it's probably not you picking an undesirable toy, etc.
I think ur response of "bs" was pretty nasty and unwarranted but to each their own.
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| Posted 12/26/11 4:12 PM |
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MrsKelly
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Re: Vent: Your gifts to the children in your life...
Posted by lynnd126
Posted by Lisa
Posted by lynnd126
I'm crashing and maybe shedding some light. Some kids are ungrateful brats but a lot of kids just don't like a lot of toys. My own son actually enjoys /actively plays with maybe one in every ten things I pick. As he gets older it gets a little easier for me to think like him in the stores but we still have mostly fails. I think in general most playrooms are filled with unused unappreciated stuff. This year for xmas and birthdays i've been giving gift cards to go do something- movies, build a bear, children's museum- that type of stuff. Kids better appreciate an experience than some colorful plastic toy that's like all the toys they already have.
As for clothes, blame that on parents. If they don't wear it it's bc the parents didn't like it. I didn't give a ... what I was wearing until I was 10/11. Honestly, we got a lot of ugly clothes from people this xmas with no receipts. I'll end up donating them. I'll use stuff that's eh for playing etc but things I really don't like I'm not gonna put him in if there's plenty of other choices.
sorry but this is total BS...children need to be taught by their parents that when they get a gift they should appreciate it. This is how children are taught manners....and not make excuses for their behavior....
I guess u didn't really understand what I said. I never said a kid should not say thank you. I said (to address all the people who said that they never see their toys being played with) that most toys do not get played with. I meant that in general. Most toys collect dust. It has nothing to do with level of appreciation. Then I suggested gifts that give an experience. I also said you can't blame kids for not wearing clothes u gave- that's on mom.
If you don't have kids and ur ticked bc it seems like ur gifts to kids always go unused I would think maybe you'd appreciate the advice and also the explanation that it's probably not you picking an undesirable toy, etc.
I think ur response of "bs" was pretty nasty and unwarranted but to each their own.
i think maybe she just wanted to vent...
and rightfully so, bc i used to go through this aggravation with my brother's kids - my nephew is now 15 and niece is 11 (i think  ) i definitely blame my brother and SIL for how ungrateful and picky they always seemed. heaven forbid you EVER picked something out that wasn't on their list, it would be returned immediately. they were just never fun to buy for - now i leave them as last, and i spend the least amount of time picking anything out. i usually get my nephew a video game and niece whatever the easiest toy to find is, on their list and then get a gc. for bdays its a check or a gc. i don't care to waste my time or thought anymore when i'm busy enough. ugh and i remember for my wedding, my SIL telling me "if you pick out a dress for stephanie that itches her, she won't wear it" - this after SIL ASKED ME if stephanie could be my flower girl. i was like "she's 6, not 6 months - tell her if she wants to be in the wedding, this is what she has to wear" who runs the show?! that is one of many incidents but that's what i was dealing with so i never dared to pick out an article of clothing. meanwhile my sister's daughter, is sooo appreciative of anything you get her - she always has been since she was little, and she's 17 now. if i pick her out clothes or jewlery or uggs, and it's not on her "list" - she couldn't care less, she loves everything she gets. 100% a difference in how they are raised.
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| Posted 12/26/11 7:07 PM |
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DumpsterBaby
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Re: Vent: Your gifts to the children in your life...
Posted by lynnd126
Posted by Lisa
Posted by lynnd126
I'm crashing and maybe shedding some light. Some kids are ungrateful brats but a lot of kids just don't like a lot of toys. My own son actually enjoys /actively plays with maybe one in every ten things I pick. As he gets older it gets a little easier for me to think like him in the stores but we still have mostly fails. I think in general most playrooms are filled with unused unappreciated stuff. This year for xmas and birthdays i've been giving gift cards to go do something- movies, build a bear, children's museum- that type of stuff. Kids better appreciate an experience than some colorful plastic toy that's like all the toys they already have.
As for clothes, blame that on parents. If they don't wear it it's bc the parents didn't like it. I didn't give a ... what I was wearing until I was 10/11. Honestly, we got a lot of ugly clothes from people this xmas with no receipts. I'll end up donating them. I'll use stuff that's eh for playing etc but things I really don't like I'm not gonna put him in if there's plenty of other choices.
sorry but this is total BS...children need to be taught by their parents that when they get a gift they should appreciate it. This is how children are taught manners....and not make excuses for their behavior....
I guess u didn't really understand what I said. I never said a kid should not say thank you. I said (to address all the people who said that they never see their toys being played with) that most toys do not get played with. I meant that in general. Most toys collect dust. It has nothing to do with level of appreciation. Then I suggested gifts that give an experience. I also said you can't blame kids for not wearing clothes u gave- that's on mom.
If you don't have kids and ur ticked bc it seems like ur gifts to kids always go unused I would think maybe you'd appreciate the advice and also the explanation that it's probably not you picking an undesirable toy, etc.
I think ur response of "bs" was pretty nasty and unwarranted but to each their own.
Look, I don't even know why you feel the need to comment on this. I didn't ask for a parents perspective. And I saw your post on parenting, which honestly, if people can't respect this board by now, then there's no point in you posting here. Do I give non parent opinions on parenting?
But once again, my nephew started acting bratty because we didn't give him enough presents. So eff this. And that's MY child free opinion.
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| Posted 12/26/11 8:28 PM |
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DumpsterBaby
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Re: Vent: Your gifts to the children in your life...
Posted by DirtyBlonde
I hope my little godson never does this
I'd be so hurt
It really does and I hate that it makes me bitter.
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| Posted 12/26/11 8:35 PM |
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lynnd126
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Re: Vent: Your gifts to the children in your life...
Posted by DumpsterBaby
Posted by lynnd126
Posted by Lisa
Posted by lynnd126
I'm crashing and maybe shedding some light. Some kids are ungrateful brats but a lot of kids just don't like a lot of toys. My own son actually enjoys /actively plays with maybe one in every ten things I pick. As he gets older it gets a little easier for me to think like him in the stores but we still have mostly fails. I think in general most playrooms are filled with unused unappreciated stuff. This year for xmas and birthdays i've been giving gift cards to go do something- movies, build a bear, children's museum- that type of stuff. Kids better appreciate an experience than some colorful plastic toy that's like all the toys they already have.
As for clothes, blame that on parents. If they don't wear it it's bc the parents didn't like it. I didn't give a ... what I was wearing until I was 10/11. Honestly, we got a lot of ugly clothes from people this xmas with no receipts. I'll end up donating them. I'll use stuff that's eh for playing etc but things I really don't like I'm not gonna put him in if there's plenty of other choices.
sorry but this is total BS...children need to be taught by their parents that when they get a gift they should appreciate it. This is how children are taught manners....and not make excuses for their behavior....
I guess u didn't really understand what I said. I never said a kid should not say thank you. I said (to address all the people who said that they never see their toys being played with) that most toys do not get played with. I meant that in general. Most toys collect dust. It has nothing to do with level of appreciation. Then I suggested gifts that give an experience. I also said you can't blame kids for not wearing clothes u gave- that's on mom.
If you don't have kids and ur ticked bc it seems like ur gifts to kids always go unused I would think maybe you'd appreciate the advice and also the explanation that it's probably not you picking an undesirable toy, etc.
I think ur response of "bs" was pretty nasty and unwarranted but to each their own.
Look, I don't even know why you feel the need to comment on this. I didn't ask for a parents perspective. And I saw your post on parenting, which honestly, if people can't respect this board by now, then there's no point in you posting here. Do I give non parent opinions on parenting?
But once again, my nephew started acting bratty because we didn't give him enough presents. So eff
this. And that's MY child free opinion.
That's fine. You're right I DON'T have much respect for this board bc of what I see, which ISN'T a bunch of people who don't have kids bsing about their lives etc. but rather actively bashing kids and parents. I think it's sad. It's like you guys have to keep on convincing everyone. Just live your lives.
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| Posted 12/26/11 9:24 PM |
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Stacey1403
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Re: Vent: Your gifts to the children in your life...
Posted by lynnd126
That's fine. You're right I DON'T have much respect for this board bc of what I see, which ISN'T a bunch of people who don't have kids bsing about their lives etc. but rather actively bashing kids and parents. I think it's sad. It's like you guys have to keep on convincing everyone. Just live your lives.
Follow your own damn advice and leave them alone!!!
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jlm2008
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Re: Vent: Your gifts to the children in your life...
Posted by lynnd126
Posted by DumpsterBaby
Posted by lynnd126
Posted by Lisa
Posted by lynnd126
I'm crashing and maybe shedding some light. Some kids are ungrateful brats but a lot of kids just don't like a lot of toys. My own son actually enjoys /actively plays with maybe one in every ten things I pick. As he gets older it gets a little easier for me to think like him in the stores but we still have mostly fails. I think in general most playrooms are filled with unused unappreciated stuff. This year for xmas and birthdays i've been giving gift cards to go do something- movies, build a bear, children's museum- that type of stuff. Kids better appreciate an experience than some colorful plastic toy that's like all the toys they already have.
As for clothes, blame that on parents. If they don't wear it it's bc the parents didn't like it. I didn't give a ... what I was wearing until I was 10/11. Honestly, we got a lot of ugly clothes from people this xmas with no receipts. I'll end up donating them. I'll use stuff that's eh for playing etc but things I really don't like I'm not gonna put him in if there's plenty of other choices.
sorry but this is total BS...children need to be taught by their parents that when they get a gift they should appreciate it. This is how children are taught manners....and not make excuses for their behavior....
I guess u didn't really understand what I said. I never said a kid should not say thank you. I said (to address all the people who said that they never see their toys being played with) that most toys do not get played with. I meant that in general. Most toys collect dust. It has nothing to do with level of appreciation. Then I suggested gifts that give an experience. I also said you can't blame kids for not wearing clothes u gave- that's on mom.
If you don't have kids and ur ticked bc it seems like ur gifts to kids always go unused I would think maybe you'd appreciate the advice and also the explanation that it's probably not you picking an undesirable toy, etc.
I think ur response of "bs" was pretty nasty and unwarranted but to each their own.
Look, I don't even know why you feel the need to comment on this. I didn't ask for a parents perspective. And I saw your post on parenting, which honestly, if people can't respect this board by now, then there's no point in you posting here. Do I give non parent opinions on parenting?
But once again, my nephew started acting bratty because we didn't give him enough presents. So eff
this. And that's MY child free opinion.
That's fine. You're right I DON'T have much respect for this board bc of what I see, which ISN'T a bunch of people who don't have kids bsing about their lives etc. but rather actively bashing kids and parents. I think it's sad. It's like you guys have to keep on convincing everyone. Just live your lives.
It seems like you are the one who is trying to convince everyone of something....you are posting on the CHILD FREE BOARD in case you missed it....none of us post on the Parenting board pushing our views or opinions when they aren't asked for, and believe me there are times I want to, but I am not a Parent so it is not my place.
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jlm2008
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Re: Vent: Your gifts to the children in your life...
And to the OP, if I was you I would just stop giving the little brats gifts, obviously, they and their parents don't appreciate it. More so the parents bare to blame, because they should teach their children manners.
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Re: Vent: Your gifts to the children in your life...
Posted by lynnd126
Posted by DumpsterBaby
Posted by lynnd126
Posted by Lisa
Posted by lynnd126
I'm crashing and maybe shedding some light. Some kids are ungrateful brats but a lot of kids just don't like a lot of toys. My own son actually enjoys /actively plays with maybe one in every ten things I pick. As he gets older it gets a little easier for me to think like him in the stores but we still have mostly fails. I think in general most playrooms are filled with unused unappreciated stuff. This year for xmas and birthdays i've been giving gift cards to go do something- movies, build a bear, children's museum- that type of stuff. Kids better appreciate an experience than some colorful plastic toy that's like all the toys they already have.
As for clothes, blame that on parents. If they don't wear it it's bc the parents didn't like it. I didn't give a ... what I was wearing until I was 10/11. Honestly, we got a lot of ugly clothes from people this xmas with no receipts. I'll end up donating them. I'll use stuff that's eh for playing etc but things I really don't like I'm not gonna put him in if there's plenty of other choices.
sorry but this is total BS...children need to be taught by their parents that when they get a gift they should appreciate it. This is how children are taught manners....and not make excuses for their behavior....
I guess u didn't really understand what I said. I never said a kid should not say thank you. I said (to address all the people who said that they never see their toys being played with) that most toys do not get played with. I meant that in general. Most toys collect dust. It has nothing to do with level of appreciation. Then I suggested gifts that give an experience. I also said you can't blame kids for not wearing clothes u gave- that's on mom.
If you don't have kids and ur ticked bc it seems like ur gifts to kids always go unused I would think maybe you'd appreciate the advice and also the explanation that it's probably not you picking an undesirable toy, etc.
I think ur response of "bs" was pretty nasty and unwarranted but to each their own.
Look, I don't even know why you feel the need to comment on this. I didn't ask for a parents perspective. And I saw your post on parenting, which honestly, if people can't respect this board by now, then there's no point in you posting here. Do I give non parent opinions on parenting?
But once again, my nephew started acting bratty because we didn't give him enough presents. So eff
this. And that's MY child free opinion.
That's fine. You're right I DON'T have much respect for this board bc of what I see, which ISN'T a bunch of people who don't have kids bsing about their lives etc. but rather actively bashing kids and parents. I think it's sad. It's like you guys have to keep on convincing everyone. Just live your lives.
No, you are WRONG! And I am a mom, so your argument that only CF people feel this way because they are bitter fails.
You give a child a gift, they need to show the utmost gratitude. No pathetic excuses. Even my 1 year old said thank you and gave a hug for every gift. I wouldn't permit otherwise. Perhaps if more parents took the time to teach basic manners, our CF family and friends would not be forced to post such vents. And if a child can't say thank you, the parent should school them right there or hand the gift back. Please don't make excuses for these children. They will grow up to be self-entitled, indulgent, lazy brats.
To the OP, couldn't agree more, I would be furious!
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Re: Vent: Your gifts to the children in your life...
Posted by lynnd126
Posted by Lisa
Posted by lynnd126
I'm crashing and maybe shedding some light. Some kids are ungrateful brats but a lot of kids just don't like a lot of toys. My own son actually enjoys /actively plays with maybe one in every ten things I pick. As he gets older it gets a little easier for me to think like him in the stores but we still have mostly fails. I think in general most playrooms are filled with unused unappreciated stuff. This year for xmas and birthdays i've been giving gift cards to go do something- movies, build a bear, children's museum- that type of stuff. Kids better appreciate an experience than some colorful plastic toy that's like all the toys they already have.
As for clothes, blame that on parents. If they don't wear it it's bc the parents didn't like it. I didn't give a ... what I was wearing until I was 10/11. Honestly, we got a lot of ugly clothes from people this xmas with no receipts. I'll end up donating them. I'll use stuff that's eh for playing etc but things I really don't like I'm not gonna put him in if there's plenty of other choices.
sorry but this is total BS...children need to be taught by their parents that when they get a gift they should appreciate it. This is how children are taught manners....and not make excuses for their behavior....
I guess u didn't really understand what I said. I never said a kid should not say thank you. I said (to address all the people who said that they never see their toys being played with) that most toys do not get played with. I meant that in general. Most toys collect dust. It has nothing to do with level of appreciation. Then I suggested gifts that give an experience. I also said you can't blame kids for not wearing clothes u gave- that's on mom.
If you don't have kids and ur ticked bc it seems like ur gifts to kids always go unused I would think maybe you'd appreciate the advice and also the explanation that it's probably not you picking an undesirable toy, etc.
I think ur response of "bs" was pretty nasty and unwarranted but to each their own.
Your kid should be gracious regardless. No, not accusing you of anything directly. But seriously, if someone takes the time to pick out a gift with hard earned money, you don't make excuses for your child's rudeness. There are tons of unfortunate kids who would be so grateful!
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| Posted 12/26/11 11:34 PM |
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Re: Vent: Your gifts to the children in your life...
Posted by lynnd126
That's fine. You're right I DON'T have much respect for this board bc of what I see, which ISN'T a bunch of people who don't have kids bsing about their lives etc. but rather actively bashing kids and parents. I think it's sad. It's like you guys have to keep on convincing everyone. Just live your lives.
You're wrong. I have two older kids and I read/post on this board because it applies to where I'm at in my life now. We don't have kids living at home anymore and we don't always enjoy being surrounded by other peoples' young (often poorly behaved) children.
This board offers LIFers like me a place to find out about activities, events and other things that are not focused on the needs of small children and their parents.
The parenting board is probably the most active board and FTR the board with the most off topic posts that are never moved so I have no idea why this less active board would be so bothersome to you.
As for the original topic, its TOTALLY rude when any person minimizes the importance of saying THANK YOU for a gift of any size or perceived value.
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| Posted 12/27/11 12:14 AM |
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lynnd126
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Re: Vent: Your gifts to the children in your life...
Posted by munchkinfacemama
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Posted by DumpsterBaby
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Posted by Lisa
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I'm crashing and maybe shedding some light. Some kids are ungrateful brats but a lot of kids just don't like a lot of toys. My own son actually enjoys /actively plays with maybe one in every ten things I pick. As he gets older it gets a little easier for me to think like him in the stores but we still have mostly fails. I think in general most playrooms are filled with unused unappreciated stuff. This year for xmas and birthdays i've been giving gift cards to go do something- movies, build a bear, children's museum- that type of stuff. Kids better appreciate an experience than some colorful plastic toy that's like all the toys they already have.
As for clothes, blame that on parents. If they don't wear it it's bc the parents didn't like it. I didn't give a ... what I was wearing until I was 10/11. Honestly, we got a lot of ugly clothes from people this xmas with no receipts. I'll end up donating them. I'll use stuff that's eh for playing etc but things I really don't like I'm not gonna put him in if there's plenty of other choices.
sorry but this is total BS...children need to be taught by their parents that when they get a gift they should appreciate it. This is how children are taught manners....and not make excuses for their behavior....
I guess u didn't really understand what I said. I never said a kid should not say thank you. I said (to address all the people who said that they never see their toys being played with) that most toys do not get played with. I meant that in general. Most toys collect dust. It has nothing to do with level of appreciation. Then I suggested gifts that give an experience. I also said you can't blame kids for not wearing clothes u gave- that's on mom.
If you don't have kids and ur ticked bc it seems like ur gifts to kids always go unused I would think maybe you'd appreciate the advice and also the explanation that it's probably not you picking an undesirable toy, etc.
I think ur response of "bs" was pretty nasty and unwarranted but to each their own.
Look, I don't even know why you feel the need to comment on this. I didn't ask for a parents perspective. And I saw your post on parenting, which honestly, if people can't respect this board by now, then there's no point in you posting here. Do I give non parent opinions on parenting?
But once again, my nephew started acting bratty because we didn't give him enough presents. So eff
this. And that's MY child free opinion.
That's fine. You're right I DON'T have much respect for this board bc of what I see, which ISN'T a bunch of people who don't have kids bsing about their lives etc. but rather actively bashing kids and parents. I think it's sad. It's like you guys have to keep on convincing everyone. Just live your lives.
No, you are WRONG! And I am a mom, so your argument that only CF people feel this way because they are bitter fails.
You give a child a gift, they need to show the utmost gratitude. No pathetic excuses. Even my 1 year old said thank you and gave a hug for every gift. I wouldn't permit otherwise. Perhaps if more parents took the time to teach basic manners, our CF family and friends would not be forced to post such vents. And if a child can't say thank you, the parent should school them right there or hand the gift back. Please don't make excuses for these children. They will grow up to be self-entitled, indulgent, lazy brats.
To the OP, couldn't agree more, I would be furious!
Reread my response and then read yours. You can't possibly maintain that what you're saying even addresses my comments. It's like you're just completely reinventing what I said.
Anyway, who cares. This is too serious...
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