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I can't shake what happened to that little girl in montauk out of my mind....

Do you ladies ever get hit that no matter what you do for your child to keep him/her safe, there is always this feeling that anything can happen at any time?

Granted, the dad left the kids alone, but just for a minute... Anything could happen. I also can never shake the story about the little flower girl who was hit in the limo after the wedding. I know more about that story than I ever would want to know....

It gets me so sad and sometimes a little panic-stricken to think how vulnerable my child is, and how fragile life can be.


We are given the most wonderful gift being parents, and with that gift comes the potential for devastation and loss that I can't even imagine....

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what happened, my SIL is out there now

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I have little panic attacks about this at times, because really there are so many crazy things that can happen, it's scares the heck out of me, because honestly, I just don't know how I would ever go on without my son....

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That is a few neighborhoods over from me, and I can't get it out of my mind either. Life is so fragile...

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Yes - I think about things like this all the time. We try to control so much - but there are so many things that are unfortunately out of our control. Sometimes I get so nuts and let it consume me. It's then that I have to take a step back and realize that it's out of my control.

I not only worry about him now - and in a few years - I already worry about when he's a teenager and driving. I am already thinking about the drunk drivers out there and am praying that by the time he drives there will be a way to prevent the drunk driving.

But - accidents happen every day. And - we can't do anything to stop them. It's a very scary world that we live in - we just need to do our best everyday, that we teach our children to do the right thing and to be cautious and careful, and pray that everything works out.

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I think about this all the time. It's a small part of the reason why I don't want more kids. More possibility for potential devastation. Also more possibility for more joy and amazement, but I'm warped...

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Life is very scary in that way! It reminds you to be thankful for what you have & to not take things for granted!

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I heard this story on news 12 the other day and I just started crying and immediately picked up DD to hug her...

It scares me so much...As pp's have said, we try so hard to protect them and provide a safe world for them, but anything can happen at any time...

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I couldn't sleep thinking about it. I wish I hadn't seen the news story. I want to sob for these people. If it affects us this way - my god, that poor family, that poor woman who hit her. I told DH about it this morning and reminded him how we just can't take our eyes of our children for one second.

I feel some people consider me uptight or an overprotective mom. I want my child to live and experience life but there are just too many terrible things that can happen in the blink of an eye - so I'd rather be overprotective.

for all families involved

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Oh no...I didn't hear about this, will have to go read.

But, yes, it makes me sick to my stomach when she cries out in pain. I can't imagine what I would feel if anything ever happened to her. I'm pretty sure I couldn't go on and I'm pretty sure I can't even think about this anymore.

ETA: I just read that story. How heartwrenching. I do think of Katie Flynn from time to time also. The thought of DD going to school, riding a bus, being a teenager and going in their car, makes me want to curl up in a ball. I never had any idea of what I was doing to my parents. I never understood why my mother and father couldn't sleep until I got home. I didn't get it. I am sure none of us did.

Message edited 8/19/2008 1:22:20 PM.

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Yes I cannot stop thinking about all parties involved. I live in Eh -the next town over and we were on that stretch of road earlier that day - it just doesn't bear thinking about - I also think about that little flynn girl that died in the limo accident. Sometimes I dread the fact that one day DD will have to leave my care and go to school and what if........

Things like this shake me to the core as I cannot rationalise the "why" in this - what lesson was there to be learned from it? that you have to watch your kids every second on the day? I keep a very careful eye on DD but I know this too could have easily happened to me and its all so senseless.

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My stepdaughter is 17 and always gets driven by friends. DH will not go to sleep until she calls him and tells him that she is home (when she is staying with her mom...) He has stayed up until 4 in the morning for that call!!!

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Every darn day.

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I'm scared every day, especially since I'm at work and I have no idea what she is doing.

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Yes, this story hit home every way. I mean, how do you think the driver felt? I mean, it was a accident..what she has to go through her entire life. Think about how many split seconds you look away to hand DC something in the back seat, or look to change the radio station, or whatever might take your eyes off the road.

And then...losing a child there is absolutely nothing more tragic. It's been on my mind constantly since I heard about it.

The driver was a girl from my town. I feel just aweful that this is something that's going to be on her shoulders for the rest of her life. This is something that is NEVER forgotten.

The poor family that lost their baby. The mother wasn't even able to say good-bye

I feel my heart start to race every time I think of "what would I do?"

I just pray for each and every one involved.

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My anxiety goes through the roof when I think of that poor little girl. I'm constantly worried about my DD, I actually try and stop myself sometimes, because I can be such a doomer in my own mind. Luckily, DH knows how to talk me down.

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I feel the same way you do Liza, we can do EVERYTHING right for our children and the unimanigable can still happen...We just need to cherish every moment that we have with our loved ones

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My father told me about this poor little girl a little bit ago and i cant stop crying.. and at work on sat they were talking about the little girl who was killed by that guy driving the wrong way on meadowbrook about a year or two ago.. and i cant stop thinking of both of them..

Im absolutely terrrified with the thought of something happing to my dd.. i dont think i could go on living with out her.

for all the families.

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Every single day.
I remember when it was time to move him in the crib I didn't sleep a wink.
All these thoughts kept running through my head, even though he was right next door.
Took me a while to even put him in the car.
It's scary and my heart breaks hearing all these stories and I admit, I do get nervous every single day.

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Yes. I'm not one to live in a bubble but honestly, those stories really affect me. I had to learn a few years ago to not read them for my own sake.

But I actually think about something else a lot more.

Before the end of the year, I will be the exact same age my mother was when she was hit and killed by a car... she died at age 38 and 6 weeks or so... that's all she got, that's all we got. It's going to be very strange when I get to that point.

I pray every moment of every day that we are all safe and DH and I are able to enjoy a lifetime of memories with our children. The job, the house, vacations, whatever... none of it matters at all when a family looses a parent or a child

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I feel the same way. I can't get that story out of my head or the vision of the wagon in the middle of the street. My DH pulls my girls in the same wagon all the time. My heart bleeds for that family and stories like this just add to my anxiety. We just bought a minvan and the first night we had it I was awake all night worried about my kids sitting in the third row. God forbid we get rear ended. I sat in the back with my DD cause I didn't want her alone back there. I pray for that poor family.

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At the risk of sounding insensitive, here are my thoughts:

Yes, it is very sad. Especially if you are a mother, it is in our nature to take things like this to heart. Like chelle said, we go over all of the pain that all parties involved feel. The driver, the parents and families of the girl, etc.

Yes, anything can happen. No matter how hard you try to avoid it (even the unavoidable), bad things happen. Children go missing every single day. Babies die. Kids have to worry about and fight things that they should never even know about!

However, I can not constantly think about all of the bad that CAN happen. Because then I will miss out on what IS happening. When I hear about things, I feel sad, I say a prayer and I have to move on. If I think about it or try to put myself in the mother's shoes, it is too heart-breaking.

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I constantly worry about DD and something happening to her. There are times I wonder who will protect and shield her when DH and I are not around? But accidents do happen and I cry with the news of every child that is killed or dies.

I've already lost one child, I don't think I could live losing another one. When our son died, there were many, many, many, many times I wished I could die right along with him for not wanting to live without my child. But you find a way to get through.

I find myself quite often looking at my daugther thinking of her future and how safe she is in this world. Sort of makes me understand (and a bit grateful as I look back) on how very strict my father was raising us.

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It's very hard and heartbreaking to hear about these stories...makes me linger over my sleeping child a bit longer every night.

I think that's why I went into panic mode when he was not in his daycare room at the end of the night a while back...it seemed like overreacting but when you look at it from this perspective maybe people can understand it more. The what ifs can consume you.