| Posted By |
Message |
| Pages: [1] 2 |
|
|
Went to a double funeral today
For Dr. Tedd carr and his wife whose lives were taken by that drunk driver.
Their 20 year old son spoke (wearing his parents' wedding rings around his neck,) and I wish his speech could be published somewhere. Never have I heard such an eloquent speaker, and such beautiful words.
he said to not base life on whether someone is breathing, walking around, with a beating heart, because there are many who are physically alive, but dead inside.
He said everytime an African American votes, Martin Luther King Jr. still lives, and everytime someone with autism gains skills and lives independently, that is his father still living, and everytime someone who was treated for depression by his mother, and continue to live, she continues to live.
He said for those angry at the drunk driver who killed them, to stop. Why waste another thought or your energy on someone you don't even know, when you can be thinking of all the good his parents did. And for everyone to go out and do good and not live in anger. do something to make a change, help someone else.
It was the hardest and most devsatating funeral I ever attended.
|
Posted 6/24/09 3:32 PM  |
| |
|
Long Island Weddings
Long Island's Largest Bridal Resource |
|
|
Re: Went to a double funeral today
what a strong young man, and what a beautiful way to look at life. his parents should be very proud.  for this strength through his terrible time.
Message edited 6/24/2009 3:37:21 PM.
|
| Posted 6/24/09 3:37 PM |
| |
|
MsSissy
xoxoxo
Member since 3/07 39159 total posts
Name:
|
Re: Went to a double funeral today
He sounds like an amazing young man.
I'm sure his parents are looking down at him beaming with pride.
|
| Posted 6/24/09 3:38 PM |
| |
|
Shorty
.
Member since 5/05 30390 total posts
Name:
really
|
Re: Went to a double funeral today
I had a class with Dr Carr at SB - he was a great professor. Such a sad, sad, situation 
|
| Posted 6/24/09 3:38 PM |
| |
|
|
|
Re: Went to a double funeral today
Posted by Mssissy
He sounds like an amazing young man.
I'm sure his parents are looking down at him beaming with pride.
Thats what I said to someone there. His parents taught him well. What a gift for parents to do for their child - to teach them how to survive without them... At any age.
|
| Posted 6/24/09 3:40 PM |
| |
|
greenfreak
.
Member since 9/06 11483 total posts
Name:
greenfreak
|
Re: Went to a double funeral today
When I was reading about it on Newsday.com, I was also struck by how mature and eloquent he is. It's such a horrible tragedy. 
|
| Posted 6/24/09 3:42 PM |
| |
|
Ophelia
she's baaccckkkk ;)
Member since 5/06 23378 total posts
Name:
remember, when Gulliver traveled....
|
Re: Went to a double funeral today
God Bless that young man. what an incredible message to send. and what a legacy his parents have left. 
|
| Posted 6/24/09 3:46 PM |
| |
|
Phyl
R.I.P. Sweet Mia ♥
Member since 5/06 28918 total posts
Name:
The Mystical Azzhorse! ™
|
Re: Went to a double funeral today
What a special young man. 
Message edited 6/24/2009 3:49:04 PM.
|
| Posted 6/24/09 3:48 PM |
| |
|
Cpt2007
A new love!
Member since 1/08 5946 total posts
Name:
Liz
|
Re: Went to a double funeral today
his parents would be and probably are so proud of him. what a wonderful testament to them.
|
| Posted 6/24/09 4:01 PM |
| |
|
Peainapod
Peanuts are here!
Member since 1/09 13591 total posts
Name:
Diana
|
Re: Went to a double funeral today
terrible that he lost both his parents. god give him strength
|
| Posted 6/24/09 4:16 PM |
| |
|
NS1976
My princess!
Member since 5/05 6548 total posts
Name:
|
Re: Went to a double funeral today
What an amazing individual...and his parents should be commended for raising someone so so wonderful. I am crying while reading this..so, so sad and just didnt have to be. 
|
| Posted 6/24/09 4:18 PM |
| |
|
kahlua716
3 Girls for Me!
Member since 8/07 12475 total posts
Name:
Keri
|
Re: Went to a double funeral today
Posted by Shorty
I had a class with Dr Carr at SB - he was a great professor. Such a sad, sad, situation
OMG! So did I! I didn't even think of that until you wrote it! That was one of my favorite classes! (I originally wanted to be an early intervention evaluator)
ETA: His wife's name sounds very familiar- did she also teach at some point?
Message edited 6/24/2009 4:37:12 PM.
|
| Posted 6/24/09 4:34 PM |
| |
|
heathergirl
Cocktail Time!
Member since 10/08 4978 total posts
Name:
American mouth
|
Re: Went to a double funeral today
|
| Posted 6/24/09 5:18 PM |
| |
|
Jackie24
~We Did it~
Member since 7/06 6718 total posts
Name:
Jackie
|
Re: Went to a double funeral today
|
| Posted 6/24/09 8:49 PM |
| |
|
lvdolphins
My Loves!
Member since 5/05 46292 total posts
Name:
|
Re: Went to a double funeral today
What a strong young man!
|
| Posted 6/24/09 8:59 PM |
| |
|
PictureFrame
LIF Infant
Member since 5/09 70 total posts
Name:
Lizzy
|
Re: Went to a double funeral today
Sounds like their son is as good a speaker as his dad. I didn't know the funeral was today. I know many people who wanted to attend, maybe it was private? I hope all who wanted to give their respect had the chance or can find another way to respect and remember.
Its terrible and hard to not be angry!
Message edited 6/24/2009 9:14:19 PM.
|
| Posted 6/24/09 9:13 PM |
| |
|
|
|
Re: Went to a double funeral today
Posted by PictureFrame
Sounds like their son is as good a speaker as his dad. I didn't know the funeral was today. I know many people who wanted to attend, maybe it was private? I hope all who wanted to give their respect had the chance or can find another way to respect and remember.
Its terrible and hard to not be angry!
It was supposed to be close friends and family - I admit I wasn't close with him but I am with many that went. But otherwise, there will be another memorial in the fall for professors and collagues away for summer to pay their respects, I heard....
|
| Posted 6/24/09 9:25 PM |
| |
|
JenBenMen
party of five
Member since 9/06 11343 total posts
Name:
Jen
|
Re: Went to a double funeral today
wow
I am so sorry that these lives were taken
|
| Posted 6/24/09 10:24 PM |
| |
|
kimbalina
Bring on the glitter and bows!
Member since 6/08 15158 total posts
Name:
Kim
|
Re: Went to a double funeral today
Wow! What a horrible situtation. His parents must be so proud of him
|
| Posted 6/25/09 7:47 AM |
| |
|
littlejoy06
Love
Member since 3/07 6944 total posts
Name:
|
Re: Went to a double funeral today
|
| Posted 6/25/09 10:46 AM |
| |
|
seaside
LIF Adult
Member since 6/08 3101 total posts
Name:
|
Re: Went to a double funeral today
What a special kid they have.
|
| Posted 6/25/09 11:19 AM |
| |
|
DaniJude
You're My Home <3
Member since 11/06 14815 total posts
Name:
Danielle
|
Re: Went to a double funeral today
Wow, what a remarkable young man!
It's so ironic because I recently wrote my victim impact statement to the person who hurt Kenneth. At the end, and I will post it on Kenneth's thread after the sentencing, I wrote about how this is it for me - after this moment, I will not think of him (the defendant) again. That horrible chapter is over for me, I have my closure/justice - and I will instead move forward and focus on Kenneth and his recovery. As well as helping other victims so they can feel comforted, helping brain injury victims, etc. So, when I read what you wrote above, it hit home for me.
I think there's a certain level of grief, upsetment, sadness, etc. for everyone who is a victim and their loved ones -- but, the real beauty is to try and see your way out of it. Otherwise, you punish yourself emotionally - you carry it with you. And believe me, the person responsible isn't carrying it - so why am I?
That being stated, it is easier said than done for many people - the hard liner on drunk driving today is the person who had their sister killed by one last night... and I understand that, I cannot judge the way in which a person grieves... but, many good things can come from terrible situations. I'm sure this young man will go on to do great things for so many. I hope that I have done some good things since Kenneth got hurt and I want it to continue - I want to help. When stuff like this happens you can grow a lot - I NEVER thought, in the first few weeks after Ken got hurt, I would be able to see any silver lining.
God Bless him and his parents!!!
They will be so proud of him!!
|
| Posted 6/25/09 11:23 AM |
| |
|
Milerose
MY BABY!
Member since 9/06 4161 total posts
Name:
R
|
Re: Went to a double funeral today
What beautiful words!!
|
| Posted 6/25/09 1:02 PM |
| |
|
|
|
Re: Went to a double funeral today
I can't get this tragedy out of my mind. I have read their story in the paper countless times and it's just not fair that two good people had their lives taken away from them at such an early age. Their poor son had to bury both parents at 20 years old! I can't even imagine losing both at the same time. They seemed like such wonderful people, it is truly a shame.
|
| Posted 6/25/09 1:20 PM |
| |
|
Aga
hello baby Albert
Member since 9/05 7750 total posts
Name:
Aga
|
Re: Went to a double funeral today
sounds like a wonderful speech to honor his parents
|
| Posted 6/25/09 1:29 PM |
| |
|
| Pages: [1] 2 |
