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Posted by Tilde

Posted by chikita315

Preguntas

that is unforgivable.

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For my parents, I honestly think that all three of us would contribute.
I definitely contribute the most. Not that my parents are ill - they are fine and fairly young right now.

It's just that I go and see them every week and call them everyday because I don't want to regret not having spent enough time with them.

We're a tight knit family and I seriously think we would all step up to the plate.

With DH's family, I think his one sister would take them in. Not that I wouldn't want to, but she is just extremely close to his parents and there is no way that should would let anyone else do it.

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My mother and uncle set a wonderful example for my cousins, sister and I. They worked together so wonderfully with my grandmother for my grandfather's care, and then with my grandmother for her care that I couldn't ever see my sister and I not making decisions together regarding my parents.

But, that being said, my sister is a reporter and moves around a lot, so DH and know we will shoulder the brunt of the day to day "grunt work" per se. But my parents are so wonderful to us, that I would never, ever deny them.

We will probably be taking care of my SMIL too. My MIL and her girlfriend, I don't know. My SIL is very good at "grand gestures" but not at execution....so, who knows. They live in Florida, us in NY and SIL in Baltimore, so that is a unique situation.

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It would be me. My brother is generous but selfish and always the first to point the finger and say you should do this. I have always been the one expected to do everything b/c my whole family knows he wont and it isnt worth the fight to get him to help out.

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Posted by Bxgell2

OMG
How can people - FAMILY - be so cruel??

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When it comes to my mom I think we all (being myself & 2 brothers) would share it almost equally as we are all very close to my mom.

My dad is different in that first he is remarried & my stepmom is 13 years younger than my dad. They also tend not to really let too many 'in'. My younger brother gets more info than I do but I don't ever see him caring for my dad physically.

Re: What about your parents?

Posted by Blu-ize

Posted by Tilde

Posted by chikita315

Preguntas

that is unforgivable.

How cruel. What happened to the money?

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Posted by Preguntas

Posted by Bxgell2

OMG
How can people - FAMILY - be so cruel??

Becaus ethe more money left in my Grandfather's estate, the mor eleft in his will.
I hope that's not true, but really- what else makes sense?

And can I add, that my Grandfather's money was all from a company he created, and employeed all three of those brothers at some point, and Ken to this day, as the current owner.

And how about the fact that after my mom's mother died, Ken's ****** of a wife FAUGHT her for personal effects belonging to my grandmother. My mother, her only daughter, had to fight for jewelry, music boxes, various items that had sentimental value to her. She had to fight a woman who barely knew my grandmother, certainly didn't know where these things came from. Just knew that they were diamonds, and she had a right to them.
My mom got 2 pieces of her mother's jewelry. A heart shaped pendant necklace that grandma wore every day of her life (which my mom now wears every day, and which I wore on my wedding day ), and a ring fashioned from her own grandmother's engagement ring (which was taken apart to make my engagement ring, and the outside stones will be my sister's wedding ring). That is all we have.
But only because those were the two things worth it for my mom to fight over.

Wow, clearly I hate these people, and I am not over it. Sorry to sabatoge your post!!!

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While I truly believe we will all step in to help out my parents, I don't know for sure. I'm sure many other people thought that about their siblings.

Just to make sure, I just copied Theresa's post & emailed it to my mom & sister. I said we need to find out what your plan is & what ours will be.

My parents are in good health in their 60s. However I think with so many early cases of Early onset of Alzheimer's, it's never too early to be prepared.

Beth - this post also reminded me to send out an email to those listed as guardians/executors in my will.

Thanks for reminding me.

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Posted by Preguntas

Posted by Blu-ize

Posted by Tilde

Posted by chikita315

Preguntas

that is unforgivable.

How cruel. What happened to the money?

I suspect it stayed in the throwels of his company, whch my Uncle Ken then inherited and runs to this day.
He buys himself sweet Jets season tickets and wont give a ticket to my sister.
But he will call his second cousin's son, who he has met.... twice? and offer them to him.
Oh, my sister is his Goddaughter.

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also not many people know, but assisted living facilities only accept private pay. The costs are staggering..some cost $10K per month. This is usually not an option for most people.

Long term care insurance takes care of this problem. Good insurance to recommend to your parents.

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Posted by nrthshgrl

While I truly believe we will all step in to help out my parents, I don't know for sure. I'm sure many other people thought that about their siblings.

Just to make sure, I just copied Theresa's post & emailed it to my mom & sister. I said we need to find out what your plan is & what ours will be.

My parents are in good health in their 60s. However I think with so many early cases of Early onset of Alzheimer's, it's never too early to be prepared.

Beth - this post also reminded me to send out an email to those listed as guardians/executors in my will.

Thanks for reminding me.

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Posted by Bxgell2
I can't read these things - it just boils my blood - I just cannot fathom that people can treat their own family that way. All for money

Message edited 8/23/2007 4:41:47 PM.

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That's an interesting theory, Beth.

In defense of men, my father took care of his parents, probably b/c he is the oldest, and b/c he could.

His sister was closer, but also sick,
and passed away right after their mother, 9 years before their father and his brother lives OOS & has small children.


I think that in my family, my brother, DH & I would all help somewhat equally. We all have different abilities/resources/strenghts/time.

DH is an only child, so I know that is a responsiblity we will have to take on as well.