What to do-conflicted about buying things early

Looking for opinions here.

I keep coming across good deals for things I know I need for the babies and yet Im terrified to buy them.

Im only about 11 weeks and I have a very poor track record with PG's. I have lost 3 of them and 2 of them past this point..( 13 and 24 weeks ) so I dont feel safe yet.

Yet I saw a few things I could REALLY use and REALLY cheap.

Im so conflicted. I mean I could always sell them if worst case scenario happened right?

WWYD?

TIA!

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i do not have your experience with losses.. i am so truly sorry for them...

i have always felt that if you can re-sell anything or GIVE AWAY anything you have purchased, and can get it at a good price....GET IT....but i'm a BIG time bargain hunter....

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I'm way too superstitious. With both of my pregnancies, I didn't buy anything until well in to my 3rd trimester (about 37 weeks for both) and then it was just the things I needed.

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I am a HUGE bargain shopper, so if I see a great deal, I buy.... but that's just me.

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I am also superstitious and won't buy anything until at least 6 months in.

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I keep getting tempted to buy stuff as well, but I'm waiting until after my Level II at the earliest. I did the same thing with DS. As tempted as I am to buy the double stroller I've had my eye on for weeks, I'm waiting! I figure good deals will always come again or maybe even better ones, you know?

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I bought nothing until right before I went on bedrest. and even then it was just a couple of exchange stuff...

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I don't have your experience with losses (and I am deeply sorry for them ) but I feel the same way.

I can't bring myself to buy anything, or even look online/in stores to get an idea of what to register for.

I haven't purchased a stitch of maternity clothes...not even new bras, which I desperately need.

I am just too nervous...for some reason I feel like buying something will tempt the fates. I need to get over it, but I am having trouble.

I am just about 14 weeks.

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I have bought 2 decorative items and the diaper dude for DH because I got it at like- 80% off.

I did NOT buy anything until after 12 weeks, though.

Personally- if I were you, I would wait longer. There will always be deals and sales, etc. Since you have had a history of losses later in pregnancy, I wouldn't want to risk it. It would be awful having to sell, give away and return things...KWIM?

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I've had two losses and am 4 months pregnant.

I know how you feel, I can't bring myself to buy anything. So far I bought one onsie from Gap last week and that was a struggle.


You just have to do what feels right.

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I am very superstitious. I did not start buying things for this baby until after 20 weeks and even then it has not been that much and I keep the reciepts for everything.

In a few more weeks I am going to have no choice but to just bite the proverbial bullet and buy the rest of the stuff I need (no shower for me - its baby #2).

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I'm superstituous

its really up to you, kind of a personal decision....

good luck w/whatever you decide

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I'm not superstitious as such, but I lost my first pregnancy at 11 weeks, just after I had bought a few items of maternity and baby clothes. I know that buying that stuff had absolutely nothing to do with my mc...but it really hurt to have it around.

Like someone else said, there are always deals around. I would wait.

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Here's my opinion especially since I have been getting flack from friends and family members about purchasing things. I am 11 weeks. It has taken me 2 1/2 years, 5 IVFs, and one etopic/miscarriage to get me here. If something catastrophic happens and I lose this baby, it is NOT because I went shopping. G-D is not going to "take my baby" because I bought onesies that were on sale. I am not going to miscarry because I brought a baby outfit into the house. JMO

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It wasn't a superstition on my part but I only started buying things in the 3rd trimester or after they were born (other than the shower).

I would say if you're ok with ebaying them or giving them away if (god forbid) it doesn't work out, then go for it. Otherwise, I wouldn't. There are always bargains. You could take the money you would have spent & put it aside for later when you're more comfortable.

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For some reason with this pregnancy I haven't bought anything other than a "little brother" onsie and matching "big brother" t-shirt the other day and I am 18 wks. I am more cautious this time around I think b/c I bought so much so early with DS and know of so many girls on here who lost babies and now I am just nervous especially being I had the hematoma during the 1st trimester.

I say wait....there will always be other sales and bargains.

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Sorry for you losses. I wish you a happy healthy pregnancy!

I personally am not a buyer of baby things. Not for superstitious reasons or anything but I know I'll be having a shower so why would I spend money on things I will/may receive as a gift. I'm not going to need anything until the baby is here so why not wait until after my shower and get what I really need. Doesn't matter the sale... a gift is a better deal than 40% off.

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I'm personally waiting to see what i get at my shower..

By then I will be 30+ weeks and as I get closer to my due date I will see what I need and then buy stuff..

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I would say it is a tough spot. I would try to buy things that are returnable. If that isn't possible - what about trying to recoup your losses by selling on EBAY if you have to do that in the end. I don't think I would make any huge expensive purchases unless you know you can return it at anytime or exchange it for something you will need for Noah at another time - but if you see a can't pass up sale of some sort why not? I know at Behr's when we bought our furniture (we had NO intention of buying it that early but it was on sale and they were offering an additional 10% on top of the coupon for a 3 day weekend special) - they will hold the furniture until you want it without charge and you only have to put down a deposit. They told us if heaven forbid something horrible were to happen we could cancel and get our money back.

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Personally I would wait. But I really haven't bought anything for the baby as of this point and I am over 30 weeks now. The only thing I bought was a diaper bag for myself.

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Posted by Domino

If something catastrophic happens and I lose this baby, it is NOT because I went shopping. G-D is not going to "take my baby" because I bought onesies that were on sale. I am not going to miscarry because I brought a baby outfit into the house. JMO

Well said!! I spoke to my dr about traveling and he said the same exact thing. Something can happen in month 5 when you decide to go register and start being clothes. I think if something is going to go wrong it has nothing to do with you purchasing an outfit early on.

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I had a loss and it took me until I was about 23 weeks, maybe longer, to buy anything. I just felt like it would be too hard to get rid of something. Kind of like experiencing the loss over and over. I think in the end.. you'll find deals on something else. I would wait, if only to protect myself. KWIM.

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I would personally wait it out....there will always be another bargain!