what would you have done? (park related)

So dd and I went to the park today. This is a park that has one large area with different jungle gyms. So mikayla was in one section and I hear this little boy (maybe 4 or 5) yell to his friends "there are babies here, let's scare them away"

with that he comes over to miki and makes this monster sound, trying to scare her....and I simply said "be nice", miki didn't seem to notice

A while later, one of this kids friends come over and does the same thing, this time blocking mikayla's way, preventing her from climbing the stairs to get to the slide. I tell that kid to "leave her alone" and then told mikayla to walk right by him

I then pulled her aside and told her to not let other kids bully her

I was really mad cause these kids parents were NOWHERE to be found and they were making it known by screaming out loud that they did not want any "babies" near them

what would you have done. I mean I know sometimes, kids will be kids but these 3 were really being bullies

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I probably would have gone all Rebecca Demornay (sp?) from "Hand that Rocks the Cradle" on them. You know, pulled one real close by the collar and whispered, "Bother her again and I'll fvcking KILL you...."

All kidding aside, I would have probably yelled at them to cut it out and go pick on someone their own side.

That is so sad, BTW. All the kids in my neighborhood get so excited when they see little ones out- I can't imagine what it would be like to have them act like that.

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I would have yelled at them, sorry, all tact goes out the window if they are acting like that. you handled it very well!

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I would have yelled at them too. DH took Andrew to the park today and all of a sudden bigger kids came. They started throwing snowballs at him and all over the slide before he could slide down DH had to yell at them. What is wrong with these kids

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Posted by 5ofClubs

What is wrong with these kids

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I have no issues with telling other kids to knock it off or behave if they are directly affecting my child and their parents are no where in sight. I once said to a 7 year old who pushed my 2 year old to the ground "How would you like it if I pushed you right now?" The kid turned and ran!

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Posted by ddunne2

I have no issues with telling other kids to knock it off or behave if they are directly affecting my child and their parents are no where in sight. I once said to a 7 year old who pushed my 2 year old to the ground "How would you like it if I pushed you right now?" The kid turned and ran!

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We've been doing parks alot too and have been experiencing the same kind of behaviors. What do mothers think...parks are coffe clutch hrs??? I also have tod kids to be nice, move out of her way so she can get through, and many others. Nothing to nutty. In fact I told one girl around 8 yrs old to move so dd could get through...she ran to her mommy with her snotty atitude and her mom said " that mom is right". Kudos to one mother who actually teaches their child manners.

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I would have probably said something along the lines of "Do we have a problem here?" in a really stern (ok, um...threatening) voice. No matter what their answer is I would make it clear that that type of behavoir is unacceptable. They don't really get "unacceptable" if they're too young, but it does scare them into listening.

If they kept it up....ideally I would have told them if they come over to her one more time, I'll be speaking to their parents.

What more than likelly I would have done is pull a Rebecca DeMornay on them (not with the f-ng kill you, but something along those lines).

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I would have probably said something more, and more sternly..and if they still didn't get it, I might tell them to get out of here....and if they still insisted, tell them I'm calling the cops and pretend to look up the local precinct on my phone....and hopefully that would do it.

But if they did anything physical, those little $hits better watch out, I'd be after them

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I would have told them to leave her alone. you see it more often nowadays parents who are no where to be found when their kids are terrorizing the playground. While it's not your responsibility to watch their kids you find yourself yelling at their kids more because they are not respecting yours.

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It absolutely amazes me how some kids act. But you can't blame them. It's the parents who sit on the bench chatting it up with each other barely paying attention to what their children are up to.

BUT

God forbid YOUR child even LOOKS at their kid cross-eyed....



This is why I enjoy my own backyard.

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I would have said something, I'm sorry I really don't care if I offend a parent of whatever. Something similar happened where we were at a place with arcade games. Isabella walked up to 2 boys( they looked about 10) who were playing a game. She was just looking at them playing, I was right there ready to intervene if she tried to touch/do anything. But really she did nothing. We were standing close to where his tickets were coming out, and he puts his hand out to push her. Welllllll, I didn't touch him ,but I really wanted to stop his hand with mine. But I said in the most stern(aka scariest) voice I have ever used and said "Don't you dare touch her." The boys just looked at me and I took Isabella away. I was so tempted to go over to their parents, who were there. I was so ****** I had steam coming from my head!!! So, I don't think you were wrong, older kids should know better!!

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Protective Mommy Mode would have kicked in and I would have yelled at them to go play with kids their own size. I think you handled it very well.

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I think you did the right thing
I know I would not have been as nice

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a 4 or 5 year old boy with no parents around? i'd be very tempted to call 911 and tell them there is a child missing a parent

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I would have gotten all "teacher" on them and spoken to them just as if they were in my classroom. Usually kids respond to me when I get in that mode!

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I have no problem telling kids what to do or NOT do if it comes to DS, me or my family.

I refused to be bullied by kids. I am a grown up and they need to understand that what "might" be acceptable in their house does not apply to other public places or other people involved.

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I think you handled it the right way. I would have done the same thing. If they kept it up I would tell them to tell their parents what the did or else I'm calling the police to take care of you".

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Posted by InShock

I would have gotten all "teacher" on them and spoken to them just as if they were in my classroom. Usually kids respond to me when I get in that mode!

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Posted by InShock

I would have gotten all "teacher" on them and spoken to them just as if they were in my classroom. Usually kids respond to me when I get in that mode!

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A few weeks ago I had a similar situation happen!
The kids were all 3 and up where we were at and my ds was trying to follow the big kids up the slide and through a small tunnel. Well I guess they didn't like the "baby" following them because one of them turned around and shoved my son so hard in the chest that he went flying backward-falling flat on his back- his head 1 inch from a brick wall!!! The kid did it so fast and I was inches from him and couldn't catch him!! He was totally fine, but I was completely shaken! I scooped him up and ran out of there sooooo fast!! The mom ran after me to say she was sorry. I realized how little my ds still is(16mos) and I will be keeping him away from unsupervised bigger kids!!

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Posted by mypumpkin

A few weeks ago I had a similar situation happen!
The kids were all 3 and up where we were at and my ds was trying to follow the big kids up the slide and through a small tunnel. Well I guess they didn't like the "baby" following them because one of them turned around and shoved my son so hard in the chest that he went flying backward-falling flat on his back- his head 1 inch from a brick wall!!! The kid did it so fast and I was inches from him and couldn't catch him!! He was totally fine, but I was completely shaken! I scooped him up and ran out of there sooooo fast!! The mom ran after me to say she was sorry. I realized how little my ds still is(16mos) and I will be keeping him away from unsupervised bigger kids!!

Message edited 3/8/2009 9:32:33 AM.