When did your toddler say "please" and "thank you" without you having to ask/tell them to say it?

DD is 23 months and i've been trying to get her to say please and thank you for a while now, probably since she's around 1.

I'm reading that other post about talking in full sentences and some of you said they say please at the end of their sentence. When did they start doing that?

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She doesn't say please yet, but about 90% of the time she says thank you appropriatly. She is 19months on Monday

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Probably around 20months, now at 2, pretty consistently. I have to say, it never gets old to hear "thank you mommy" when I give her a meal

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DS and DD are 20mths. DD says it on her own appropriately about half the time. DS doesn't say it at all without being prompted too.

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I don't really make him say please, thank you, or excuse me, I just hope he picks up on it, and make a big deal when he does.

He's 16m and says excuse me, if someone is in his way, but he says "eku mis".

We used sign language to say please and thank you to him, and when he really wants something he will sometimes sign please, but it hard for him to say. He will sometimes sign thank you, but not always. I don't push it, and I think its working not to push it so far.

Just be really pleased when he does and I think all will fall into place.

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ever since he started saying anything, i always drilled please and thank you. Thank you came first, probably around 17/18 mos. Please started around 20m. "No thank you!" is my favorite

Now at almost 24m, it's "Thank you, _____ [insert name of whomever gave him something]."

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Um... my DS is almost 4 and I still have to prompt him most of the time to say please and thank you.

I'm impressed by those who do it much earlier. He has always been prompted to say it, but it has not turned into something he does entirely on his own yet.

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By 2yo my DS was mr polite. I used to say he may not always listen but he is always polite (ie when I would ask him to do something he would say, no thank you mommy) Then I realized I just took it for granted and stop reinforcing it so it stopped. Now at 3.5 we are working to make sure he uses his manners.

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DS does not say it all the time but I would say more than often will say please and thanks without prompting. Or I say, ask nicely and he'll say please. I do not press it or force it beyond that. I guess for a few months or so. I started with it, not firmly, when I got an email from babycenter, I guess at a year, where they said you should start to introduce it. I'm still trying to get DH to use them properly!

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DS is nearly 2 and he only says one word at a time usually so a little slow on the whole sentence thing but he has been saying please or peez and thanks for months - they were one of his first words.

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DD1 i cant remember exactly but I know i did make a big deal out of please and thank you. i would guess please was around 18-20 mths and thank you shortly after that. DD2 i dont think i ever had to teach her because she learned it from DD1 very very early. maybe by 15 or 16 mths? i love love love the way she says thank you-- it sounds so cute coming from her little body i still have to remind DH to say you're welcome after they say thank you to him.

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He still needs to be reminded but he say's Please on his own alot at 28 months.

Thank You was actually one of his first words.

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Now, at 2 1/2, she says both consistently and at appropriate times.

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Says "thank you" consistantly now, at 20 months without cue. Please with a little cueing.

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DD is 17.5 mos and says Thank You on her own in most situations - if someone gives her something, if she asks for something and she gets it, etc. She has been doing this for a while - thank you was one of her first words at about 12 mos.

Please she doesn't really say consistently in a good way She generally only uses it when she feels she is being ignored and wants something immediately like...Bubbles! BUBBLES! BUBBLES PEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAASSSSSSSSSSSSEEEEEEEEE

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He just started saying "thanks" when he gets what he asked for. I still have to encourage a "please" from him most of the time.
He just turned 2.

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DD 21 months is pretty good at "Thank you" but the please is hit or miss, I'd say she says it 50% of the time.

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8 and counting.....




BTW, that's YEARS, not months! DC say it sometimes, but definitely not consistently, even though I remind them all the time....

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yes. I started when DS was a newborn each time i gave him something . I would say "thank you, Mommy". It just came automatic eventually. he still needs a reminder every now and then.

Just continue to say it to her in context, she will get it!

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DS who is almost 3 has been saying thank you for awhile now without prompting - we are still working on the please though.

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Probably by about 18 months.

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My kids say please and thank you and if they don't, I make sure to correct them STAT.. I cannot stand children with zero manners.. I know some are young and don't get it yet but kids follow by example and they should IMO be taught early on before they even speak..

If one of my kids ask for something and I don't hear the word PLEASE, I will say "I didn't hear the magic word" and they will say Please mommy.. I won't give them or do what they asked for until I hear it.. but most of the time they are pretty good about it.. and I always want to hear thank you mom and I always make sure they thank anyone (by name) that does or gets something for them.. (although mine are known to sometimes say thank you ma'am/sir; something they picked up from us livin in the south ;)

Just like kids pick up curses and other words and behaviors, they will pick up manners as well.. you just need to set an example and enforce it..

Don't get me started on the word WHAT.. If I call my kids, I don't like to be responded with WHAT.. I like to be responded to Yes, mom.. lol

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My DD has been saying thank you since 13 months. She just picked it up. I never taught it to her. No pleases though...