WHen visiting newborn twins do you give a bigger gift?

When ds was born my cousin gave us $100 gift cert to BRU and I think some socks and bibs. They are out of state so I didn't get a shower gift- which is why I guess they were so generous when ds was born and they visited.

She just had twin boys and DH says we should give a $200 gift cert since there's two.

I hate being "tit for tat" but DH was raised like that and doesn't veer from it.

His reasoning is that we have another baby on the way so they will likely give another $100 and that they don't plan to have any more b/c of a long infertility journey- so it will be like $200 each way.

I was planning on doing $100 gc and 2 outfits. I also hate giving "too much" bc it makes me feel like they think I'm trying to show off or something. I also think DH's reasoning is kind of warped, lol and who considers someone's infertility when giving a gift anyway? (My crazy DH).

Tell me if I should give the $200. It is very possible I'm just being cheap.

Message edited 7/19/2011 4:12:19 PM.

Re: Apprpriate $ gift for new babies Q.

I'd say $100 and two outfits is very generous!

Message edited 7/19/2011 3:56:56 PM.

Re: WHen visiting newborn twins do you give a bigger gift?

I would do 150 since its twins and a small gifts for both, maybe a personalized picture frame, hooded towels or blankets.

Re: WHen visiting newborn twins do you give a bigger gift?

I never know the right answer with twin gifts. My mom is a twin, but where she's from, people don't give extravagant gifts (and $100 would be considered extravagant there).

I'd say to consider one thing - people usually do not give as big of a gift for your second child, if they give a gift at all. Many people don't even have a second baby shower, even though it seems the baby sprinkle or 2nd shower is becoming popular. So your DH's argument that they'll give another $100 is possibly off.

But regardless, I don't think you should feel obligated to give $200. Not to say they should get less per child just because it's twins, but I would think they would know that not everyone will give exactly double in the $ amount.

Twin mommies, weigh in!

Re: WHen visiting newborn twins do you give a bigger gift?

I say give what you feel comfortable with.

I will also say when I had my twins I didn't receive "double" the gifts I did when I had my DS. I think it is a lot to expect of people. A lot of people got my 2 outfits< blankets, books etc.

Re: WHen visiting newborn twins do you give a bigger gift?

Friend of mine just had triplets.
For her shower, I gave handmade quillt for each baby.
When they were born, we bought an outfit for each and a gift for the older child.
Just went to the christening and had to stop and think. We ended up doing $50 savings bond/child.
People asked me what I would have given 1 child as christening gift and I said 50-75 (cash) depending on relationship. So, I felt spending an equal amount on bonds was fair.
I don't know what the proper etiquette is, but I also follow the rule of "only give what you can afford." We have a baby on the way now and have to reign in our own budget.

Message edited 7/19/2011 4:31:47 PM.

Re: WHen visiting newborn twins do you give a bigger gift?

That's tough since it's a cash gift, I'm really not sure. I tend to say yes, if I gave cash/a gift card as a gift, I'd double it. I say this becuase normally I'd bring an outfit as a gift after the baby is born and obviously I'd buy 2 for twins. $100 is a big gift in my book, but I guess not if the person didn't come to the shower. I might do $150 and 2 outfits like a PP said.