When your DH comes home from work..does he

Does he help with DC?
Does he help around the house?
Does he help you?
Does he do things he hasn't finished around the house?

What does you DH do when he comes home from work and on the weekends on average?



I'm curious to see if i'm way off base with how i feel or if my life is the norm.
Thanks!

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Dh usually will help whether is
taking DD for a bit while I get dinner together or

he does the dinner part,
and he also takes her and plays with her while I get a mini break to hit computer or do some housework.

Weekends we will clean, finish up house projects...and then get out to enjoy some family time.

Overall he is pretty helpful.

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During the week, some nights he comes home too late to do anything but eat and go to bed. If by chance he's home early, he always plays with the kids, or helps me put them to bed. He reads to my DS every night that he can, so that helps me a lot and I can put DD to bed.

He does is fair share around the house and more, I certainly can't complain when were taking household duties. He does take on a lot of extra that he starts and never finishes (i.e., construction projects he should hire someone to do, but he feels the need to do it himself), but day to day operations, he helps out. He does clean all the bathrooms every weekend. It's ok, I still go in after he's "done" and do the final wipe-downs!

I always cook and clean up after meals. I 99% of the time give them baths and get them in their PJ's.

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DH will immediately go on the computer. SOmetimes he does that even before at least giving either one of us a 'hi' or kiss.

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DH basically just eats dinner when he gets home at 7:30pm. He has a loooong stressful day, every day, so I dont blame him. He holds the baby (who is only 4mos) a few minutes here and there at night but thats basically it. The baby is kinda young to play with much anyway. He will take the garbage out, and clean his own dinner dishes but thats about all that has to be done anyway.

The weekends are a different story. He vaccumes, will help w/the sheets, he will clean certain stuff (the bathroom shower, and the kitchen/hallway floors if they need to be done). He will also watch the baby if I need to run out. He will do anything I ask of him. He is a good DH

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I don't really give DH much of a choice. When he comes home Tyler crawls to him and I get up to do things that need to be done that I can't do because I have to watch DS. Yes, he has had a long day but so have I.

DH used to help around the house a lot more, but he has been a little too laxed about it lately. We are working on that currently.

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Ok another question...

Do you guys talk about anything else besides work and the kids?

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My husband picks Noah up from nursery, when he comes home he feeds him dinner (I usually prepare the boys dinner the night before) then we all play in the living room and talk, after that we give Noah a bath together and do bedtime together. We really enjoy our evenings.

My husband is the man!

eta...of course we talk about all kinds of stuff, the house, our plans for the weekend, friends, music, whats on the telly...all kinds of stuff. I say that it is pretty much 50/50 in our house these days. My husband is fantastic. (I am loved up at the moment) and the best thing is that he lets me sleep in on the weekends! He brings Noah downstairs and plays with him and gives him breakfast. They watch football shows together. They love each other.

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Re: When your DH comes home from work..does he

Does he help with DC? He does if I'm still at work which is 3 days a week. On my days off, he will watch her while I finish dinner or some other chore. However, now that she is more independent and can hang out, she stays with me more.

Does he help around the house? As far as housework - only if I ask and then only vacuuming.

Does he help you?In what sense? Not really. I do most of the "household" things except he does do some yardwork

Does he do things he hasn't finished around the house? NO

What does you DH do when he comes home from work and on the weekends on average? On the weekends, he usually does his errands, alone. I have asked him to take dd with him so I can get some time to myself but that never happens unless I leave the house. He does some projects but that usually leaves me to entertain dd.

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I usually check in with DW to find out what happened during the day (if anyone is sick, punished, did something great, etc.) Then I spend time with DC to give DW a break, and to spend quality time with DC. We usually tag-team in the evening, then after DC go to sleep, I clean some of the house.

Weekends are a combination of everything. I'll spend time with DC so DW can either hang out on the computer, do some laundry, whatever she wants/needs to do. I go to karate with DS. I fix things around the house. I do more in-depth house cleaning.

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DH comes home pretty early- around 2:30 if he doesn't have a class. He helps me with Ryan mostly- plays with him, keeps him busy, feeds him, gives him a bath, etc. I mostly handle Erin. We split everything up usually. Weekends he is home most of the time and split things most of the time too.

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DH is a big help I think...he plays with DD when he gets home so I can get dinner ready or he will do dinner while I get some "me" time. If I can't get to the dishes, he will. He does the grocery shopping and does our laundry at the laundromat on the weekend. We clean the house together on Saturday, I spot clean during the week when he's at work. He also gives DD her bath at night and recently started putting her down to sleep too.

We enjoy her so much that we sometimes forget to have husband and wife conversations but we make an extra effort.

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My husband is extremely helpful when he gets home from work. Right now he just finished work and he is picking up my dry cleaning. When he gets home from work sometimes he makes dinner and some times he takes care of our DS when I make dinner. He always helps me give DS a bath. I usually do it because I ma better at bathing him. I usually do the routine to put DS to bed, but my DH has no problem doing it. On Wednesday I went out with a friend and he did the whole bed routine. After our DS goes to bed he will often wash out all the baby bottles and sterilize them because he knows I did it in the morning. Some times my DS wakes up at 1:30 for a feeding and if I really am not up to it he will do it even though he gets up at 5:30 for work.

On the weekends he is very helpful. He does not mind going shopping or running any errands. Actually every Saturday or sometimes Sunday morning he goes to the Lauromat and does all of our Ds's laundry, I would say on the weekends we share the responsibility for our DS and household chores 50/50.

Overall I am very blessed. I do not have any complaints.

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i dont think he could even TRY to come home to 5, 3 and 1 year old boys (who assault him while the keys still in the door ) and a wiped out wifey and NOT do anything.

heck yeah, he rolls his sleeves up and gets right down to what has to be done.

there's no chance to sit back (well till MUCH later in the evening).

He can do anything I can do (dont tell him I said that ), well not at the speed and efficiency and while multitasking that I can do,
but I think Ive "thrown him in" with no choice many times from the start, and he's a pro now.

WONT or CANT are non existent words in this house.

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I cant complain, he does help. There are days i wish he did more, especially with cleaning.. this place is a mess..

Im still waiting for him to bring me the boxes from the attic so i can put the tree away..

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DH cleans up dinner and is in charge of bath time. Now with two I will usually put Molly to bed while DH plays with Jack. He then does what needs to be done...dishes, laundry etc.

He also gets up with the kids on Sat while I snooze. It works out since he is a morning person anyway!

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Posted by sweetness

Does he help with DC?
Does he help around the house?
Does he help you?
Does he do things he hasn't finished around the house?

What does you DH do when he comes home from work and on the weekends on average?



I'm curious to see if i'm way off base with how i feel or if my life is the norm.
Thanks!

Re: When your DH comes home from work..does he

The kids are already sleeping when he gets home from work. On the extremely rare occasion one of them is still up he will come play with them and then put them to bed.

On the weekend he is the primary caregiver. That was his choice, since he wants to be as hands on as possible and doesn't get the chance during the week.

In terms of housework, DH will take the trash to the curb on his way in those nights. And he'll throw in 2 or 3 loads of laundry on the weekend. We have a cleaning service every other week, so I do the rest of the laundry and the day to day light cleaning, dishes, grocery shopping, etc.

DH is not at all handy, so he never does projects around the house. That's my job too. I don't mind, I like that stuff.

I'm really lucky, I can't complain at all about DH helping with the kids or the house.

Message edited 1/11/2008 4:09:18 PM.

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Generally speaking he does help me. Mostly we've split "chores", like he takes out the garbage and changes the bag in the diaper dekor, while I do dishes and such in the kitchen.

He does help w/ DS, would I like more, yes, but I am greateful that I can be a SAHM.

DH's schedule rotates so when he is off, we try to have family time together. As well I try to get done things I find more challenging to do when it's just DS and I.

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Posted by DanaRenee

DH basically just eats dinner when he gets home at 7:30pm. He has a loooong stressful day, every day, so I dont blame him. He holds the baby (who is only 4mos) a few minutes here and there at night but thats basically it. The baby is kinda young to play with much anyway. He will take the garbage out, and clean his own dinner dishes but thats about all that has to be done anyway.

The weekends are a different story. He vaccumes, will help w/the sheets, he will clean certain stuff (the bathroom shower, and the kitchen/hallway floors if they need to be done). He will also watch the baby if I need to run out. He will do anything I ask of him. He is a good DH

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My husband needs to "decompress"...
when is the last time any of us ladies have had the chance to do this?

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Does he help with DC?
He plays with her for the most part so that's a help.

Does he help around the house?
Umm if you mean by making a bigger mess then yes. If I ask him to do something he does it but to actually open his eyes and see something needs to be done nope. He will do things that he deems important which I may not which can sometimes lead to a little tiff.

Does he help you? If I ask.

Does he do things he hasn't finished around the house? Yes he will working on things he hasn't finsihed over the weekend.

None of my answers apply 100% of the time though. I try to be fair because I'm beat when I get home from working a full day when I do so I know everyone needs down time.