Re: When your DH comes home from work..does he

DH basically does whatever needs to be done..sometimes he makes dinner...sometimes he'll take DS...he always helps with Homework (he's a teacher)..A lot of times its all on him b/c I just need to get things done and run some errands so I leave him on his own with everyone.

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DH does a lot around the house. He'll clean, do laundry, tackle all kind of projects both small and large - he's very handy. He makes dinner a lot. He also has two other sons in addition to our son together. His boys are 11 and 8 and our DS is almost 9 months. He does a lot of driving his kids back and forth between our house and their mother's. On those nights, he does less around the house or for the baby, but understandably so. I do most of the "taking care" of DS on a daily basis, but he'll do anything I ask to help me. He also makes the effort to try to initiate doing more taking care of the baby to help me out, because I have told him that I need help. He is GREAT at playing with DS and teaching him things. It's amazing to watch them together and it melts my heart.

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Well, JT takes care of Ava (while I work) from the time she wakes up until about 3pm. Then we do the switcheroo, and I take care of her until her bedtime. He does laundry, takes out the garbage, makes the bed, bathes Ava, cleans the litter boxes, straightens up and vacuums. All before he goes to work. I actually feel guilty most days for not doing enough around the house and with Ava.

Re: When your DH comes home from work..does he

Posted by sweetness

Does he help with DC? yes, he'll play with him while i get things together or to give me some time off

Does he help around the house? surprisingly, yes - he's stepped it up a bit. he's taken over washing the baby's DC bottles so that i can transfer my pumped milk into the clean containers and he's taken over the daily sweeping, dish washing and will put away folded laundry

Does he help you? yep all that i mentione helps a great deal

Does he do things he hasn't finished around the house? it takes some time but he gets it done eventually

What does you DH do when he comes home from work and on the weekends on average? after cleaning up n dinner, he either plays xbox, watches sports or will watch tv w/me



I'm curious to see if i'm way off base with how i feel or if my life is the norm.
Thanks!

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Does he help with DC?
Yes, I guess having twins really does kick our DH's into action even if they would normally be slacking... they have no choice... two babies and one mommy, well, often we have to play one on one defense...lol... so he is needed.
Not much during the weekday as he is gone all day and they go to bed at 6 pm. He does bring them downstairs in the morning and often helps me feed/change them or watch them while I get breakfast ready or eat myself. When he gets in during the week he helps with baths and playing, bottle and books before bed.

Does he help around the house?
He mostly takes care of the outside. I'll ask him for help on inside tasks if I need him.

Does he help you?
Yes. He does need to be asked though.
He'll notice if the dishwasher is full but he is BLIND to the dryer being full and I have a front loader in the kitchen... you can't miss it. I only need to ask once and he's right on it.

Does he do things he hasn't finished around the house?
Yes, he's pretty quick about this... nothing is left for too long. Bigger jobs he hires someone.

What does you DH do when he comes home from work and on the weekends on average?
He doesn't prepare their meals (I make my own food) or pick out their clothes but he does everything else... makes bottles, feeds, changes diapers, plays, walks...

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Does he help with DC?
He is immediately attacked by DS at the door to play with him etc so they play until dinner is ready, after dinner they play more, he'll give him a bath if its bath night, and then he does the story and bed routine.

Does he help around the house?
He cleans up the dinner dishes, ie- cleans the pots, loads the dishwasher

Does he help you?
He lets me take a nap after dinner if I want one, I guess that helps me. I schedule girls nights out too so he is a help to me then I suppose, though its nice I don't really consider it help in the sense that its his job too


Does he do things he hasn't finished around the house?
generally no, home repair type stuff is done on the weekends unless its an emergency

What does you DH do when he comes home from work and on the weekends on average?

Weekdays - other than shower, see above

Weekends - relaxing, visiting friends & family, or home improvements


in so far as other things around the house, he is on garbage duty and basically everything outside. He will cook and clean if needed or given the opportunity. Also home improvements are his area.

Message edited 1/11/2008 9:45:33 PM.

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Does he help with DC?
Yes, he is very involved
Picks up DS at daycare 3 times per week.

Does he help around the house?
clean the dishes/take care of dishwasher
Take garbage out
Groceries
Takes dogs out in the morning and feed them

Does he help you?
pick up take out food
clean kitchen if I cook
fix my lunch box for next day if I work
Do DS' bottles for next day if I work

Does he do things he hasn't finished around the house?
Yes, we do projects together

What does you DH do when he comes home from work and on the weekends on average?

Weekdays
Greets me and baby then dogs
Change clothes
Take dogs out
Either take baby or go get dinner or fix dinner if it's a quick thing
Take baby and sometimes gives him his bottle so he has daddy and baby time
Eat dinner with me
Go upstairs for his "me" time on the computer

Weekends
We just chill out or do errands on things we need to do. Usually we try to spend our time with DS. I work on Sundays so DH takes care of DS and waches football with me. Yes, DS is only 6.5 months.

ME:
take care of DS
laundry
Dinner (sometimes)

DH is EXTREMELLY helpful and does a lot.

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I couldn't have asked for a better husband. Yes, when he come home from work he immediately gives DD a kiss and plays with her. He cooks just about every night, if there is laundry that hasn't been done, he will do it. He will also do dishes. He puts her to sleep most nights, drops and picks her up from my mother's house during the week. This is because he goes to work later than I do. I'm lucky. There are a lot of things that have to be finished with our house, but it's not a big deal right now. Because we both work FT, we try to spend as much time as we can with our DD and go shopping for the house.

Yes, there are times when he doesn't want to help, but that's rare.


I know it doesn't seem like it, but I do stuff too.

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Let's see...no, he doesn't help with DC or around the house or me. He's basically useless on weekdays and somewhat on weekends too.

Re: When your DH comes home from work..does he

Does he help with DC? Yes, very much so.

Does he help around the house? If I ask him to, not so much on weekdays though.

Does he help you? Yes

Does he do things he hasn't finished around the house? Yes, LOTS

What does you DH do when he comes home from work and on the weekends on average? When he comes home from work he plays with DS (b/c by that time DS wants nothing to do with mommy and it's all DADDY, DADDY, DADDY). He keeps him out of my hair while I make dinner. He helps me do the dishes after dinner and clean the kitchen. On the weekends he does whatever projects need to be done. He'll also vaccuum or do laundry if I ask him to.

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No way was this the newborn schedule. We were married a year & he was still under the impression he married someone from the 1950s.

He picks up the kids from daycare/school.

He food shops & makes dinner almost every night.

He will bring both of them to soccer games, karate or after school activity.

He may help out with getting someone into pjs or baths but mostly, he's done.

During the week, that's about all he can do. He's wiped out & I don't blame him. He gets up at 4:30am for an earlier start time at work.

Weekends, we spit the kids & bring them to various activites or we go as a family to one activity (soccer, karate, dance).

I do laundry.

He cleans the kitchen every weekend. He does little repairs & works around the house some of the time but not often. The big stuff happens when he's on furlough (10 weeks off from work)

Message edited 1/11/2008 11:51:53 PM.

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My DH is a BIG help! When he comes home fron work he plays with Julia while I cook dinner, then he will clean up the kitchen and usually do some laundry. He always helps me clean up the house on the weekends too.

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DH pretty much does all the housework-dusting, sweeping, dishes, garbage, laundry, yard work and repairs around the house....i will help out a little bit, if the house is REALLY dirty or the laundry is getting out of hand....but for the most part its all his area.

Now all of this doesn't get done in a timely fashion which used to drive me NUTS but since DD was born I can't let it eat at me.

We actually put an extension on the house a year ago and we are still working on it...everything was supposed to be done in less than a month....then everything was supposed to be done before the baby...now everthing will get done when we have the time...lol

I take care of DD full time-diapers, baths, feedings, staying up until 2am every night (dd's bedtime) baby laundry...he does help out sometimes but not as much as I would like. He's still nervous when it comes to being with her alone....so I take pity on him...lol

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It took a while to get DH on board - that and a few hysterical fits!!!

He does have things he needs to do when he gets home, but then he does help me with Cailen...

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He has no choice but to help me.

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YES to all of the questions!!!!!

Dh is veryhelpful!!!!!!!!!

Dh will do the laundry without me asking, he ALWAYS plays with DS! Dh loves to cook, so he will either start the cooking or finish what I started. Cleaning up after dinner, I normally do it while DH plays with DS. After DS is down for the night, Dh will always ask me if I need anything to be done.

During the weekends, I have a cleaning lady so after she leaves on Saturdays, we head out and run errands, get lunch do whatever. I love the weekends!

ETA: DH is not handy, and fortunately we havent had many home repairs. But during the time we did, DH was right by my fathers side..watching and offering food and beverages

Message edited 1/12/2008 7:21:00 AM.

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I really get a lot of help from DH when it comes to DD. His work schedule is too crazy and unpredictable right now for him to help after work since he can get in during the middle of the night. But when he wakes up, he's all over DD. When he is home, he will bathe DD if I need a break, but I think he is uncomfortable or nervous doing it. He would prefer the drying, massaging, putting on her pj's stage.
He will help with bottles, dishes and general household duties before leaving for work late morning.
Does he do a great job cleaning? NO. Do I b!tch about it? Heck no!! Cooking he'll do every now and then. Not too often right now since I am a SAHM for a tiny bit more. Once that is over, he's back to making dinner his 2 nights off every week