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Why do I feel like such a bad mother...
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sumlynmad
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Summer
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Why do I feel like such a bad mother...
sometimes? why is it every day i am plagued with GUILT when i even just go to the bathroom? or check my email? or take 5 minutes and sit down or clean the dishes or something? i feel like i neglect hannah so much when i do these things!! and i am GUILT RIDDEN! its like my life has completely changed, like i cant do ANYthing that doesnt involved her and not feel so guilty!!!! and what makes it worse, is that 96% of the time she is FINE just chillin, playing with her toys....doing this all by herself! THATS what kills me! her independence, like she doesnt NEED mommy to play and stuff, u know? and trust me, i am so in this girls face sometimes, i make sure i step back and let her do what she has to do, i let her play by herself....but still, it kills me....
anyone else feel like this?
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Posted 11/18/07 9:13 PM  |
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waterspout4
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Re: Why do I feel like such a bad mother...
I'm glad its not just me 
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| Posted 11/18/07 9:15 PM |
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MyChip-n-Dales
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aeriell
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Re: Why do I feel like such a bad mother...
see know i feel like a bad mom for diff reasons.. .im a SAHM and i feel like i am with them too much and that maybe they would benefit more if i wasnt with them soo much.. most of the time i feel like im up there a$$ not the other way around
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| Posted 11/18/07 9:19 PM |
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Charly
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Re: Why do I feel like such a bad mother...
YES YES YES
I work full time - 2 days from home and 3 in the office.
When I work from home there are many times throughout the day that I need to work and can't really pay attention to her (I mean I'm watching her to ensure she's safe, but I can't play with her.)
Then on the weekends I'm so burnt out and have 1,000 errands to run since I can't leave the house on my work from home days or leave the office the days I'm in the office, that we don't get to play - we run around.
I constantly feel guilty and that I'm never giving her 100% No wonder she likes daddy better - he doesn't have to multi task as much.
Message edited 11/18/2007 9:24:26 PM.
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| Posted 11/18/07 9:22 PM |
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MelToddJulia
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Mel
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Re: Why do I feel like such a bad mother...
Posted by waterspout4
I'm glad its not just me
Me too! Its hard, I think we will always feel that way.
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| Posted 11/18/07 9:45 PM |
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KateDevine
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Re: Why do I feel like such a bad mother...
I don't know, I hope I don't get flamed for this, but I don't feel that way.
I went back to work in September after being home with DS for five months. Do I miss him during the day, of course. Do I get sad when I miss something, sure. But do I feel guilty for working? Not at all. We need me to work to make out life financially better. I can't justify my husband working two jobs and never being home so I can be home with DS. It is selfish. We are lucky, DS is home with DH during the day, then me at night, and it works for us.
And secondly, I don't feel guilty taking time for myself when it is "my time" with DS. I don't want to smother the kid But at the same time, he needs me to not be crazed woman, so if that means that he watches tv while I talk to my mom or my BFF on the phone, or take a shower or come on LIF, so be it.
Flame away, I guess.
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| Posted 11/18/07 10:03 PM |
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dawnygirl25
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Dawn
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Re: Why do I feel like such a bad mother...
UGH. I feel this way every day. I always feel like Im not giving DD 100% - I feel "guilty" all day long. I am so glad I am not the only one that feels this way. HOnestly, I became a SAHM when Aly was 9 mths old and I feel MORE guilty about things now that I am home with her. When I worked, atleast I made the very most of my free time with her. Now that I am home with her allof the time, I feel like I take the time for granted...always cleaning, cooking, computer time...etc. when does the guilt go away?!
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| Posted 11/18/07 10:08 PM |
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pmpkn087
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Stephanie
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Re: Why do I feel like such a bad mother...
Posted by KateDevine
I don't know, I hope I don't get flamed for this, but I don't feel that way.
I went back to work in September after being home with DS for five months. Do I miss him during the day, of course. Do I get sad when I miss something, sure. But do I feel guilty for working? Not at all. We need me to work to make out life financially better. I can't justify my husband working two jobs and never being home so I can be home with DS. It is selfish. We are lucky, DS is home with DH during the day, then me at night, and it works for us.
And secondly, I don't feel guilty taking time for myself when it is "my time" with DS. I don't want to smother the kid But at the same time, he needs me to not be crazed woman, so if that means that he watches tv while I talk to my mom or my BFF on the phone, or take a shower or come on LIF, so be it.
Flame away, I guess.
No flames here. I feel the same way you do.
I only spend 3 hours a day with DS, but they are quality hours. I don't do anything else during that time. Except get dressed
On the weekends, I do the best I can with spending time with Steven. But I do have to do some house work, which I try to do when he sleeps, but it doesn't always work out that way. We run errands, shop, etc. But that's still time spent with DS.
I think it's good to just live life. That's how the kids learn. Real life is not just playing all day long.
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| Posted 11/18/07 10:15 PM |
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